As soon as H’s family came to know that I’m in USA, they wanted me back. After a year, I came back to Delhi to defend my PhD, got my degree and went back to USA to start my job as a Research Scientist. No one told them. My parents moved to a different town to be close to my sisters so I had no reason to go to my home town and see their faces.
Once I started my job, I filed for divorce in USA and within 3 months I was granted a decree. When they got the notice in mail they ran here and there to find my parents’ new address, same drama again – I love her, can’t live without her, I get angry and say bad words but I don’t mean it; if we live in USA away from parents we’ll be happy, but it was too late.
I actually celebrated my divorce with my friends here. It was a big day for me. My boss (she went to court with me) gave me a day off to celebrate :).
Five years ago, I met a wonderful man. I was scared to commit and took me over a year to feel comfortable marrying him; he stayed by my side all this time. I’m happily married now and have a wonderful little boy who has filled our lives with so much love and happiness.
First time when my current PIL met me my MIL told my husband – you’re lucky to have her. Make sure that she is always the most important person in your life. They always tell my parents how lucky they’re to have such a wonderful DIL.
Someone here on IL commented on a status (that person was divorced and married a US green card holder) that why’d a US GC holder marry a divorcee? My husband is an American and this is his first marriage. A divorce didn’t make me less desirable; neither did his US passport made him more desirable. I’d my own green card (through employment) before getting married.
It was the person, we fell in love with. My ex and I grew up in same town but had nothing in common and my DH and I grew up in different continents and still have so much in common. The most important thing is we respect each-other, our values, our cultures, our families and as an individual.
Our son is lucky to have a family where we celebrate Thanksgiving as well as Diwali with equal enthusiasm.
