Pre teens, give them wings, not clip them off!
A pre-teen is a child who is 11 or 12 years old – two years to go before he becomes a teenager. Parents would have watched him change over the years – FROM a child who cannot be separated from his mother , doing all that she tells him to without a whimper , simply slipping into any suit laid out for him , sitting tight before his books , least interested in anything but a few toys that instantly light up his eyes and satisfy him for an eternity , TO , a child who stands for hours under the shower before being dragged out, who has questions regarding puberty and the opposite sex , who insists that keeping T-shirt buttons open is ”cool “and has hardly any time to spare for studying what with Facebook , Gmail , IPOD , PSP , PS3 , phone calls , parties , WWF TV shows taking up most of his time.
Where has that little innocent child gone??? In his place there is a kid who refuses to eat ANYTHING that mothers cook. Now he prefers to eat what his friend’s mother cooks or some junk food and any answer to his question “What have you made for dinner today?” begets the reply “Yuck! I can’t stand that dish of yours. Dad can we eat out?” What happens when parents go out to parties is best not mentioned. Suffice to say that they are always given accusing looks that say “Have you fed your son at all?!”
Parents may notice that suddenly the appetite of their boys has grown enormously and feeding them is akin to feeding elephants. Nothing fills their bottomless pits!! You would have just watched your little one eat like he has not eaten for ten years and a few minutes later find that he is again wandering in the kitchen looking for stuff to eat!
The changes don’t stop at just eating, they go on to clothes and make up too. Eleventeens and tweens have reached a stage wherein they prefer to make their own choices even where clothes are concerned. While parents could have easily dressed them in suitable smart shorts and tees…..now they choose to wear very serious clothes, and be less conspicuous, preferably “dirty looking” to looking neat and well turned out. This is the intermediate stage before they stand for hours before a mirror checking themselves out from every angle.
Parents find there are more changes as they reach puberty and watch their boys paying greater attention to their private parts and opening web pages that may not be very appropriate. It’s necessary for parents to watch what the kids watch all the time!
In spite of all these changes they are vulnerable, still “cuddleable” and don’t think twice about plonking themselves on parent’s laps. They still listen to their parents but with the doubt if their parents are all that knowledgeable as they once appeared to be! Now they would like to be walked to school provided the parent keeps a safe distance of two feet behind if walking with kids of the same gender and 10 feet behind if walking with a student of the opposite sex. While in pre-teens they still talk to parents and tell them everything. This, if encouraged will be retained to some extent even after they reach full blown teens when talking to parents can be SUCH a bore.