who is important?

Hi,
This is selvi.

Now a days also this question appears in the minds of married women when question comes between husband's side or mother'sside who's family is more important?
As far as a lady is concern?


a) Husdand's house
b) Mother's house

I need your opinion.

Dear Selvi

Both the families are improtant for married woman..........i have 10yrs of experience in married life..........and i also come across many tough situations.........sometimes i used to get conflict with inlaws also.........but its not that we will get seprated......all passing clouds......see like u have ur mother, father, sister, brother for ur own.like that ur inlaws are ur DH'S blood relations.........if he is ur betterhalf...then dont u feel them important to u.also.......and think in this way............if ur hubby thinks in same way.like same kind of confusion................what will be ur position.........( i dont know anything about ur DH'S feelings for ur family)...........feelings and sentiments are same for both ...........like u love ur blood realtions .......he will also feel the same ..........

I am seeing many cases now-a-days......men trying to treat both their inlaws and parents equally.........i feel jus bcos he loves his wife.....so he feels that as way of expressing her love for her by maintaining good and affectionate realtionship with his inlaws also..........then dont we have the same courtesy to do so????........

I felt personally ......we need our inlaws blessings / guidance and support for everything to run peaceful life.........than our parents.........i really mean it........at the same time we need our parents cooperation and mental strength

So, dear friend.........porandha veda pugundha veeda .........dont have second thought ...both are important for married woman............

( i have seen many inlaws.......treats their DIL as enemy.........and they give lot of trouble.....etc.........it is quite common.......it may/ will change in course of time......veetuku veedu vasa padi )..

My

Simple, Husband's house with mother's house next door.

Originally Posted by sharadha

Simple, Husband's house with mother's house next door.

Heeeeee heeeeeeee.......... i was abt to say this...

Smart answer sharada.... u rock..!!

Both are important.

But learn to maintain a balance between the two. At times the situation is as such that you are needed at both end...so judge the situation and decide where the necessity is grave and divide time accordingly.

Roopa.

Originally Posted by latamurali

Dear Selvi

Both the families are improtant for married woman..........i have 10yrs of experience in married life..........and i also come across many tough situations.........sometimes i used to get conflict with inlaws also.........but its not that we will get seprated......all passing clouds......see like u have ur mother, father, sister, brother for ur own.like that ur inlaws are ur DH'S blood relations.........if he is ur betterhalf...then dont u feel them important to u.also.......and think in this way............if ur hubby thinks in same way.like same kind of confusion................what will be ur position.........( i dont know anything about ur DH'S feelings for ur family)...........feelings and sentiments are same for both ...........like u love ur blood realtions .......he will also feel the same ..........

I am seeing many cases now-a-days......men trying to treat both their inlaws and parents equally.........i feel jus bcos he loves his wife.....so he feels that as way of expressing her love for her by maintaining good and affectionate realtionship with his inlaws also..........then dont we have the same courtesy to do so????........

I felt personally ......we need our inlaws blessings / guidance and support for everything to run peaceful life.........than our parents.........i really mean it........at the same time we need our parents cooperation and mental strength

So, dear friend.........porandha veda pugundha veeda .........dont have second thought ...both are important for married woman............

( i have seen many inlaws.......treats their DIL as enemy.........and they give lot of trouble.....etc.........it is quite common.......it may/ will change in course of time......veetuku veedu vasa padi )..

My

By the time your reply is read, I think a person wud have travelled from their husband's house in mylapore to inlaws' house in tambaram.