Will You Play With Me?

Originally Posted by varalotti

Dear Meena Madam,
To know the things that happened during the life of Christ or at the time of Mahabaratha, it is enough if you can read history and/or scriptures and records.
I dont think purva janma memory is necessary. What do you say?
love,

Dear Varalotti sir

What can i say other than gracefully accepting your mazhupals??

Purva janma memory is not necessary to know about the things that happened looooooooooong back. But when you say you are 28 turning 27 this april, all that comes to my mind now is a joke...

Interviewer: When is your birthday?
Candidate: June 25th..
Interviewer: Which year?
Candidate: What nonsense? Every year..

Originally Posted by varalotti

Hello Vanaja,
A very sobering fb from you. Thanks. I am not getting defensive. But I am just highlighting the strategy I used.
I have been playing badminton for the past six years. Of course like you I was not a school-player or a college-player. I learnt playing badminton only when I was 44.
On that day the teams were equally poised. In terms of playing skills, my team did have an edge over the other team, as one of their players was not that good.
But in spite of that fact we kept losing the game. We lost the first game to them. Then only I found out that my Partner was in the grip of tension. I could have said, "Come on Partner, relax. It's just a game." But I was sure it would not have worked. So I told him that it doesn't matter if they win or we win. After all this was not an India-Pakistan game to be tensed up. All the players lived in the same town and are playing in the same club. This kind of relaxed my Partner. When I shouted this to the other team they first smiled. Then laughed.
But we won because my Partner played a better game without tension and without much of unforced errors. They lost because they lost grip of the game.

Now, Vanaja, players are human beings. So they are prone to disturbances, physical or emotional. You have admitted that my words created a disturbance. The moment a disturbance is created it surely interferes with the performance. Of course they are not programmed robots. They are human beings with minds, feelings and emotions and hence the disturbance will affect their game.
When you were playing for your school, let's say, just before the match started, you had a heated argument with your teacher. Will not impact on your performance. It surely will.



A good quote. But that does not mean that a good player is beyond emotional disturbance, unless of course if he is not a human being.

Thanks Vanaja for making me think further.
regards,

Hello Sir,

I am really sorry for that FB. I just wrote what I had in my mind.

I was very sure regarding your second quote, we will have a debate. You know how we use to get from our teacher. She was terrible. But we just don't bother.

You want me to say some more - A good player has to be sportive. (be sportive on my FB - chumma veruppethadhan).

Dear Vanaja,

There is absolutely no need to be sorry about it. When it comes to posting and responding, I normally forget that I am addressing to people. I just have the point that has been raised and give my full, frank views on that.
If at all any person has to say sorry, it should be me. So no sweat, Vanaja.

I want threads like this to function as discussion boards and debating channels. So please, let's start the debat.

You want me to say some more - A good player has to be sportive. (be sportive on my FB - chumma veruppethadhan).

Thanks Vanaja. Was I not sportive? Did I not play along? May be I did not play along the lines you suggested. என்ன இது திடீர் திருப்பம்னு பாக்கறீங்களா? சும்மா வெறுப்பேத்தத் தான்)

regards,

Hi Varalotti Sridhar,

Enjoyed reading it.

Portrayed a heavy thing in a light manner, I believe.

When people desperately need something they tend to be stressed about it which naturally leads to a poor performance. So, better to have a detached attachment. I remember Boris Becker, the greatest tennis player; his one bad shot would be followed by several tensed reactions...Moolai moolaiyaga poi pulambi kondiruppar. He used to win inspite of all those. There were considerable unnecessary losses, though. Take it easy policy is always good and better to know were to apply it. Laughed when reading about your component reacted the second time for the friendly approach.

Here, I have a question to you. This approach is ok for any physical acivities. I'm amazed about the couples who long for kids. I know some, too. Why does it happen? Can only medical experts and spiritual gurus answer?.

When it comes to the heavier part; the world is getting so selfish and furious. Can't see and digest the meaningless deaths.

What if everybody thinks this way about eachother...

There's lots of things
With which I'm blessed,
My problems have been few,
But of all, this one's the best:
To have a friend like you.
In times of trouble
Friends will say,
"Just ask, I'll help you through it."
But you don't wait for me to ask,
You just get up and do it!
And I can think
of nothing more
That I could wisely do,
Than know a friend,
And be a friend,
And have a friend like you.
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There will be only flowers in the complaint boxes....like the last scene of 'Mudhalvan' movie...

Regards,
Oviya.

Hi Oviya,

That was a really beautiful post Oviya, better than the leader post of this thread. It was a real oviyam.

More than the game I know about the tricks played by our minds, when we write an examination, when we are about to give a public speech, when a lady is about to give birth to a child.

In all these activities what blocks us mainly is our "performance anxiety" The same is the case with a majority of childless couple. There are cases where there are insurmountable problems. But even in normal couples, at times the desperation becomes a block. I have seen many times when the couple decide to adopt a child, their desperation goes and they become relaxed. Conception happens easily thereafter.

About the violence and killings in the world, my suggestion is that let's focus on ourselves and not bother about the world. JK used to say "You are the world".
I am sure when we remove all traces of violence completely from our minds, there will be no violence in the world. And then if some one shoots another only flowers will come out the barrel of the gun.

I enjoyed the poem you have quoted.
Thanks, Oviya.
love,

Thanks a bunch for taking efforts in answering me, Varalotti....

Regards,
Oviya.