Never ask SORRY!!!!!

I think there is a certain pattern with all kids.... The more you force them, the more they resist.

I was in the same boat..... Like yours', my kid too would aplologize to me promptly, but to her father... it would take many a words! I tried the "Count till 5 or 10 method"... It did wonders.... It works out for all things big or small..... Till date it hasn't reached 5, nor did I decide yet what to do after I've said the "forbidden number". I tried putting her in the room, that helped a lot too..... after that I went for the number-game (Can't put them in a room when you go out)

But frankly, we cannot force them to say "SORRY" for all the things they did wrong.... It's not like they'll turn in goons or convicts if they didn't aplologize.... So relax.... It's a good thing to ask her too, as to why she doesn't say it anymore - the chances are it may have gone to deaf ears. This was one reason why my daughter refused to say it - She said - I told uncle sorry, but he was watching TV.... & Sometimes Adults also can be such a pain - holding gurdge towards a toddler or chewing gum ki tarha baat ho badatey hai.

Just be sure that their 'sorry' ends with a mamma or pappa or whom so ever they are addressing it to.... makes it sound like they mean it Big Laugh& Tell the receiver to address back by a "It's ok" or "Make sure you don't do it again".... My daughter always expects a "It's ok".... If anything else comes, I have to hear it from her!!!!!

 

Vahee.. my point on this is.. try after couple of months, and stop annoying her now. i understand how concerned you are, but if there were a forum called induskids, she would hv raised your attitude as a concern there. :rotfl

Couple of months later, try re-introducing sorry to her.. with probably a funny gesture that she might like to imitate and it would restart there.

Same is the case with my daughter who is 2.4 years old... i introduced please, thank you and sorry to her.. all in same fashion. but she never never says sorry when she has to. i also tried all ways, but i dont force her at all. not just in this.. anywhere i try to force, i know it works negative only.
so take it slow.. unless our seniors have other smart ideas !

 

I agree with Asha, stop forcing her. Instead (and you may already be doing this) show her by example, whenever needed apologize to people in front of her, or even to her without expecting her to do for a while. Her dad should do the same too. Children learn a lot from observing. And you guys have already done a good job with 'thank yous' and 'sorry', it may just be a phase.

Raj

 

Vahee,

I am going through this too right now. Earlier he used to say sorry by himself but these days he tells me 'no sorry' I think the word just gets on to him. At the kindergarden he ends up apologising quite often and may be gets annoyed if he has to do that at home too! since last week i have stopped asking him for a 'sorry' (upon DH's insistence). And i can see when he does something that needs an apology he stays quiet and that's the way he expresses or admits his mistake. Let her be...

Latha

 

Like a previous poster suggested, back off for a while and lead by example. If you accidentally bump into her, apologise. If you lose your temper with her apologise (I will be unpopular for saying this, but I think children need to be treated with the same respect an adult would be.)
It is a great thing you are trying to instil good manners. How about some books on polite manners, Sesame Street has one... I think there are a lot of Little Miss Manners book.

 

Krithika, I totally agree with you there. I think everybody deserves respect whether it's an adult, a three year old or an 11 month old. At our house, we even apologize to our dogs when we accidently bump them or something. bonk Call it weird or force of habit, but I think every living being deserves respect. So you are right on track there.

Raj