Toddler weight gain concerns

Hello,

It is important that you stop breast feeding. My daughter was the same until about 8 months. Then I got the help and support of health visitors to stop comfort feeding and put her on a feeding and sleeping routine.

right now your child knows that by crying and refusing other food you will give in and feed him. Just stop. Have set times and plainly refuse to feed him. Wear clothes which are not conducive to feeding. Ideally start this over a weekend so that the dad can take over. Because the dad doesn't have the goods, you child will be calmer win him than you. The child will cry for hours; but the second you give in to his cries he will not hesitate to cry and make himself sick for twice as long because the clever little thing know you will give in.

Talk to to the health visitor. Have a plan for the day and try to stick to it. Like this:
wake up at 7 with a feed;
breakfast at 8;
playtime;
nap at 9:30;
snack at 11; feed after
play time;
lunch at 12:30; feed after
playtime;
nap at 1:30;
snack at 3:00;
playtime;
dinner at 5:30;
bedtime routine (feed, bath, brush, story) at 7;
bed by 7:30


In the beginning it will seem crazy but if your stick to it, it will work out in a couple of weeks. During these two/ three weeks ensure you do your groceries online and are mostly at home at nap times come what may.

At night he doesn't need a feed. Make his dad take over patting him to sleep. My daughter was so clingy that when my husband got back from work, I used to throw the bundle that was her at him to run to the loo. It was harrowing. She was not sleeping well either. Once I focused solely on the routine (with many many hiccups and major tearfests from both the child and me) and ensured it was in place, it was like I had a new baby.

I strongly suggest you contact your health visitor and say you are overwhelmed and need help with parenting. Get help with foods you can give and self feeding tips. If the dad can take time off the first couple of times the HV comes, it would really help him grasp the gist of what you are trying to do. Call them right away - you will find details in the redbook.

 

Remember this though. Your child could be very very cross with you when you refuse to feed/ pick him up. My daughter refused to come to me for anything but a feed at just 8.5 months because she was so angry with me - she would swat me away for two/ three days whenever I went near her. However we stuck to the routine though I shed many many tears and feared my daughter would hate me for life! Nope. Things turned out great

 

You will have to take little efforts to stop bf.....let him throw tantrums for a while..
He will be hungry and will settle on food you feed him.

Take help from father...if you are out of his vision, he might welcome external food fast...

Good luck and have patience...all mothers have to go through this phase

 

Hi,

Dont worry!
Many ladies stop breast feeding for the same reason only!
They also hesitates!
It is enough for him to breast feed!
First try to cut night time. Provide him cow milk(soak badham in full night in milk and grind and mixed in his milk).

Feed him enough breakfast, enough lunch, in lunch provide him yogurt and made him sleep at least an hour.

You baby will get weight.

And if he ask you to provide or ask you to be with him, simply take him and made him sit in baby feeding tables or in his walker or like that.
You do work and keep eye on him!

If you continue BF, our kids are very talent in this generation. So they wont forget easily.

Dont Provide Bonnisan - It is only Jeera Water
Provide Woodwards Gripe water - It is sweet but omam water. Hope you knew about Oma water in our child hood for stomach pain.

Daily provide this before going to bed in night!
Still i continues to my DS. (Bonissan is not helps me in start so i change from 3 months onwards)

 

Ladies have given you wonderful suggestions. Do not worry it will be over before you know it. My daughter also gave me a very hard time when it came to weaning off the breast but with a routine we were able to put it behind us but I still breastfed dd u till she was close to 2yo. Do make a fixed routine and try to stick to it. Do not worry about not eating, children will not starve themselves they will eat when they are hungry but stick to a routine. Studies have shown thatEven the pickiest eaters have sufficient needed nutrients but make sure you provide healthy eating options. I do not support tv and rhymes during meal time after and before mealtime/sleep time/ playtime in short I do not support tv that much. I put tv for my dd only when it's raining or weather is bad to go out and she is bored with playing inside but that also had and hour max. She has one movie night with daddy once in a week no tv other that thisl

 

Hugs to you. I have been there and I can imagine how harrowing it could be.

Laks has covered most of the things I thought of saying.

What at you need to remember is that he didn't get this way in a day. He is not going to change in a day either. It will take time, patience and consistency. He seems to be getting his calorific needs met by feeding - through the night, I suppose. Stop it, come what may. Back off. Let your husband deal with putting him back in bed. You make yourself scarce. Then, offer nothing but normal food. Even if he eats only a few spoons it is alright. Do not give him your milk as a substitute as it just fills he baby up without meeting the child's nutritional requirements.

He will refuse food on the highchair initially. Leave him be. Remember he has been doing this for nearly half his life; it will take a while to change it. It could take a few days; it will break your heart but the second you offer him your feed as an alternative, he will simply refuse being weaned. It is about the parents' attitude being tested by the toddler... We stay strong without caving in, the better the chances that the child eats properly.

Did the HV give you a sheet with mealtime guidelines? Talk to them again and again. Follow their lead. Your child won't eat immediately. Just let him play if he doesn't eat. After 30 min, put him in the highchair again. We did this with my daughter and she was a completely new baby in two weeks - once she had proper food inside her, her temperament improved, her sleep improved, her cheer improved.

Wean him in the night and offer normal food during the day. Pump and mix your milk with his food perhaps to start with so that he tastes something familiar. Categorically refuse the breast until he has had a bit of solids. I did that with mine. I repeatedly would say, "after the meal." when she tried to get to my breast. She figured out in a couple of days that she would get my breast once she eats.

Stay firm and strong. You can turn him around.