2.5 yr and out of control

Hi,
I have a 2.5 yr old daughter and she is the most naughty kid i've seen in my life.In simple words "SHE DRIVES ME CRAZY".
She cannot play by herself even for 1 SECOND.She is constantly running behind me and glued to me.
She yells,screams and hits other kids for no reason at all. We don't hit her at home,but i don't know where she learnt it from.I always tell her not to do that very softly and lovingly but in vain.
She cannot stay without us either so she tells she doesn't want to play with other kids nor go to school.Plz help me as to what to do as she has a very loud voice and screams,so i'm getting really tensed about the school.That too i heard in us that they call the parents if the kid cries constantly.She does that b'coz i tried the childcare and they couldn't take care of her as she yells,throws things and keeps crying till we attend her.
I"M DEPRESSED.PLZ HELP
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Hi Sammy,

At 2.5 your child seems to be highly energetic and her behaviour might be her way of making use of her energy. It will help you if you learn to channelize her energy in different ways. The best way to do that is sticking to a routine and getting her to sleep well during her naps - I am sure you are doing your best. But have an activity for every ither day of the week like grocery, library (story time), park etc....keep this constant around the same time. She will begin to anticipate and look forward to it. Keep a time and follow it. If you cannot get out of the house, still keep a schedule like story time, artwork, reading a book, tv time etc. Kids look forward to routine and she will soon begin to look forward to things. About 2.5 is when most kids are ready for social interaction (mostly as parallel play though). If you start her in a day care, don't do it 5days a week, instead start 2-3 days and keep it in the middle of the week like start tuesday and end thursday and keep it half a day too. She will eventually begin to like it and you can keep your routine for the rest of the two days. Ofcourse while she is still a baby and hitting happens sometimes, she needs to understand that she will be given time out. At the same time, is she behaves well, don't forget to reward.

Finally, most important of all is don't show your frustation to her - kids react to that very easily. Keep your calm and you really shouldn't worry about sending her to school, even is she cries and screams, she will eventually learn to adapt. The other thing you can do is when you go to check out day cares, take her along to three or four places even if you have decided on a place, show her a classroom, stay with her and play for 20-30mins. Do this for 3 0r 4 days and then start leaving leaving of your choice. It will be very hard for a couple of weeks, but she will begin to enjoy. If you give in to her and take her off, she will feel she can get her way. Anyways, she will start preschool and it is a good idea to start her now!
Hope this helps and good luck!

I don't think she is naughty but she seems hyperactive .She is like other kids .As Srama said chanalize her energy .Try to find out what kind of intrest she has.use techniques of distraction, rhythm, and finding appropriate outlets for her energy If she likes music put a CD and dance with her .if you can't go out play indoor games do online activity made for toddlers.There are lots of rhymes video with action on you tube watch along with her .I'm sure she will like these .Finally, try to find outlets for her energy by getting her to engage in productive, rather than destructive, activities.The most effective way to encourage good behavior from her is to praise when she is being good.Do not say negative in front of her .Keep yourself cool.
And if these things doesn't work discuss with her doctor .

hi sammy,have patience .why dont to take her out to the nearest park and let her watch other children play and while she gets attracted towards them you sit comfortably in a bench this may require a number of trips and i think you should allow her to be more independent buy her a key board and you watch her from a distance while she makes her own music you should also take her along to your reltives she should see her elders socialising.best of luck let us know when she makes her first friend.humera

Dear Sammy,
As Neeti said, ur Daughter seems to be hyper active.My Bro's daughter is just 2 yrs old and shes exactly the same minus the hitting habit.She hardly sleeps.

To change the hitting habit, please do not threaten her while feeding or for any mistake she does like" If u r not eating that person will hit you".. kinda phrases..The kids grasp them so easily.Avoid her from seeing any kinda action movies or advts on TV too...

You can equip her with lot of Jigsaw puzzles for numbers/Alphabets etc..Divert her mind from wasting her energy from screaming.As Humera has suggested you can try taking her to parks too..

I know its easy to say and difficult to do/handle that kid...


Good Luck with ur kiddo...

Hi Sammy,

kids between 2 and 4 will be the most naughtiest. they seem to understand everything,but behave as though they don't understand. And your daughter seems to be hyper active. as other Il's had suggested you can take her to the park in your community and let her play with other kids. before you do that you trian her at home saying if she can behave good then only u can take her to the park. and tell in a positive way that if she can play along other kids she will have a lot of fun. and if she keeps hitting others she cannot make friends, etc. also start telling about school that she can get to play, paint, do crafts, etc. but these can happen only if she behaves good and share with other kids.

but remember, thing cannot change immediately. you just keep telling her and she'll understand in few days. amke her watch some kids tv programs like barney, cailou, etc. from that she can learn about sharing and making friends.

Cheers,
Malar

hai saammy
i am also having the same age girl baby.same problem i am also facing now.but engage them by the way what they like.u can show Welcome to Barney.com, the Official Barney & Friends website. or www.starfalls.com or Teletubbies Online Shop u want sit with them and spend ur times.barney will help u tell how to love each other manners and good habbits to child easily.:bullshit
bye,
hema