ninth standard boy hangs himself with a note

it is very sad to note that the children so young are ready to take this step which many would fear, he has the page of which all the remarks by his class teacher has been derogatery and no positive at all...so he says to his dad i am going to put an end to this daily diary of mine, the father not knowing what he would do finds the child hanging upstairs when he went to call him for dinner, where is the human in a teacher, they are the parents in school, wish they had taken a psychological stand and now the school says it is not our fault, then whose fault is it? when the child has that as a proof with him along with his note that his teacher is at fault....

[quote=sunkan;43760] it is very sad to note that the children so young are ready to take this step which many would fear, he has the page of which all the remarks by his class teacher has been derogatery and no positive at all...so he says to his dad i am going to put an end to this daily diary of mine, the father not knowing what he would do finds the child hanging upstairs when he went to call him for dinner, where is the human in a teacher, they are the parents in school, wish they had taken a psychological stand and now the school says it is not our fault, then whose fault is it? when the child has that as a proof with him along with his note that his teacher is at fault....[/quote

Today's teachers also do not have to patience to work with children.

the other angle is children do not have the emotional strength to face problem.
My question to all parents is are we making our children weak by cosetting them too much and giving everything on a platter. spare the rod and spoil the child is a old saying. i do not believe in using the rod. but are we going that extra mile and trying to protect them from the realities of life. maybe this is out of the context. but i feel deep down the answer could be in this...

yeah shanvy i feel the same too . we should make our children bold enough to face anything in life .din't we face all these derogatory remarks in our childhood and tried to get better instead of taking this extreme step?I feel parents show too much improtance on how they should behave with children and learn to better themselves more rather than educating the child with discipline and not punishment. a child needs both love and discipline.otherwise he won't be able to face life's challenges with courage.Its a sad state reading these suicides about children nowadays.who are to be blamed ,adults or children?

swetha

a child in 9 th std is in his early teens and has hot flushes and gets to undecisive his thoughts r in extremes bcz they give importance to things which we dont consider r important and for him his peer group is v imp parents when their children start entering their teens should have a look out on how his child fairs in studies which sort of frns hes making wot his likes and dislikes r getting a little friendly wht him and asking him his problems and if he has some other ill feelings abt any issue many times we ourselves dont give so much time to our kids we just command them wot to do and dont listen to them
parents teachers and his friends play a vital role and all should understand a growing child
many times i see somuch impatience in teachers bcz they have to deal wht a number of children of different age groups classes and I Q levels also
they have their own tensions lesson plans to complete and acheivements to make to stick to their own problems is a great mess But whn a child commits suicide just bcz of his school teacher one needs to look into it in different angles
Children have so much stress and strain imagine they go to school early in the morng at 8 and r back around 6 no child has time to play and enjoy their childhood and frm then they have homeworks,tutions and projects and wot not to finish i find my child in his reading room frm 7 pm to 11 pm sometimes needs to sit up early in the morng also to finish his homeworks and his other activites i feel sorry for him but as a mother i tend to sit wht him for sometime and help him in his work and inquire him slowly abt his frns his school bcz he shdnt feel tht i am inquisitive abt his work but i really pity him so much i havent worked so hard all my life till now but he has to strive for the heavy competition which waits for him from few years now
I feel as a parent we should stop forcing all our ideas and or wishes on our kids and let them decide wot they want to become and not restrict them too much maybe we can guide them but we need to give them space also.

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Originally Posted by sunkan

it is very sad to note that Today's teachers also do not have to patience to work with children.

the other angle is children do not have the emotional strength to face problem.
My question to all parents is are we making our children weak by cosetting them too much and giving everything on a platter. spare the rod and spoil the child is a old saying. i do not believe in using the rod. but are we going that extra mile and trying to protect them from the realities of life. maybe this is out of the context. but i feel deep down the answer could be in this...

Hi
I do agree with what u are saying but there one other thing that i feel is going wrong and for quite some time and that is the pressure from parents. The teachers have become careless and most of them( i won't say all cuz there are many who are still passionate bout the teaching profession) have just money on their minds.They don't teach properly and then ask the students to come for tuitions to them so that they can make more money... and infact they even harass students who refuse to take tuitions from them... this has been happening and its the truth!!! Inspite of all this the parents at home also put pressure on the child without realising the potential of the child. Like all the fingers of the hands are not equal each child is different from each other. The parents know their child and their capabilities.Still they compare children with other children and this instills a lot of complexes in the child. sometimes its the child of your neighbour and sometimes it can be between siblings also...the child feels let down and goes to such extreme measures. What does this comparison finally bring??? only sorrow and remorse but then its too late... its upon the parent to let the child do what he wants or what he's best at n then he should be encouraged to excell in that field.I'm not saying that we should be always lenient with the child or let him have his way... no discipline is a must and should be enforced.that sets the child on the path of success.
As for the teachers we can just hope that they realise that the future of the country are actually in their hands to mould... they are the ones who shape the minds of the youngsters lets hope they remember that teaching is a noble profession and it should remain so.