Dependent OR Independent......

Originally Posted by malspie

Hi Brindhak,

Sorry dearie, I beg to differ a bit.

Gone are the days where women have to sacrifice etc etc... It is not the story of a one house in hundreds, women have carved a special space for themselves in the all fields be it home, office or social activities.

Women are managing office and home and I salatue those women whose spouse work abroad and only visit them once in a year for a few days, they manage the home and children with grace. There is no looking back or crying crocodile tears.

Both men and women are not dependent on each other anymore, they are more like friends.

Dear malspie..My sweet pie...

Thanx for stepping in and writing your thoughts dear... Hope this friendship and independence for women prevail in all class of wome dearie...

Thanx a lot dear...

Originally Posted by Arunarc

Hi Brindha
That was a nice one what you wrote and I liked what Anu too have written.
According to me both are dependent on each other in some way or the other man and woman,
I am like the last sentence that you have mentioned from childhood I am always free to do what I wanted ya sometimes mom use to object on certain things but that was for my good. And by the grace of Lord I got a husband too the same way. We have no restrictions on each other nor do we interfer in each other matters but we will be knowing what each one of us are doing.
I feel one way we should always be dependent on each other.

Dear Queen,
That was a nice FB from you as always.. :)

Even I join hands with you dear.. Even I and my DH dont have any restrictions or limitations within ourselves... the only thing is he stares at me when I Stay in IL for long time..without being with him....

Thanx dear..

don't worry Brindha that is with all the men. So I never come online on weekend. So will enjoy myself on weekday in IL.............hahaha

Originally Posted by brindhak

Dear Queen,
That was a nice FB from you as always.. :)

Even I join hands with you dear.. Even I and my DH dont have any restrictions or limitations within ourselves... the only thing is he stares at me when I Stay in IL for long time..without being with him....

Thanx dear..

Originally Posted by Cindhuja

hi brindha,

Excellent topic.Well written. I agree women face such problems, but it is not to that extent now-a-days.Moreever i feel dependency must be categorized into two; one is mental or emotional and other is pyhsical or fiscal.But in both wayz girls have started to act in a matured way.Right from Kg's they demand what they want.Ofcourse there are parents who are bit strict and orthodox, still this generation gals easily overcome them.Emotionally they are totally independent.The studies and exposure have helped them a lot to gain this stability.We ladies sharing all happenings and snippets of life is also one such independence and this shows the sign of independence in Future also.

Dear Cindhu,

Thanx a lot for your nice words and a wonderful FB....You have written very thoughtfully...Thanx for showering your thoughts with us dear..

Dear Brindha

Though I have a good husband, he is certainly not bothered about what I want to achieve in my career.. I go with you..for

I was asked to resign my job by my dad..
I was forced to get married by my mom..(for they liked the alliance)
I am not allowed to take up the course I want to do by my DH rather he forced me into a course which he liked..
Now I do not know what will be my son's influence..

I am saying this from my experience irrespective of other's opinion.. for it might have been good to them.. but certainly bitter for me.. for I am wasting my postgraduation degree and all my skills that I have acquired..

Thanks BRINDHA for shouldering up..

Lakshmi

Originally Posted by brindhak

Dependent OR Indepedent....




But some manage to continue job sucessfully even after marriage...and balance between family and work..utilise all the ability and potential..to make all her dreams come true in life...

If and only if..she gets a paycheck more than her husband.... if he is a narcisccistic one..then her life becomes hell....She is forced by her husband or her parents and sibilings and given a choice to decide between Husband or Career....

Women is one who is mostly provoked....always living in turbulence..If she sacrifices and puts an end to all her dreams and desires..all others around her are ready to give her a beautiful life if not..she is the one to loose nobody else.... This is the thought of many people today...

The older generation like our mothers and grandmothers ..didnt decide anything .They were given instructions where they have to follow... they were totally dependent ones..

But even today Women cannot decide or not even given a chance to decide at many points that too in crucial points of her life .....


Women were dependent in the PAST...
Women are dependent in the PRESENT....
Will Women be dependent in FUTURE..??

There are very few and rare gentlemen who respect women and give the space they need..and does not interfere in the dreams,desires,aspirations and ambitions....

If your guy is one of them..then YOU ARE THE LUCKIEST WOMEN.....

Originally Posted by LakNar

Dear Brindha

Though I have a good husband, he is certainly not bothered about what I want to achieve in my career.. I go with you..for

I was asked to resign my job by my dad..
I was forced to get married by my mom..(for they liked the alliance)
I am not allowed to take up the course I want to do by my DH rather he forced me into a course which he liked..
Now I do not know what will be my son's influence..

I am saying this from my experience irrespective of other's opinion.. for it might have been good to them.. but certainly bitter for me.. for I am wasting my postgraduation degree and all my skills that I have acquired..

Thanks BRINDHA for shouldering up..

Lakshmi

Dear Lakshmi,

Not only you dear..the state of many women even today is the same.....I have seen women with the expereinces you have quoted..Really Really tough time.....

Thanx for sharing your thoughts dear....

Dear Lakshmi,

Don't worry friend ... Each women are sailing and facing this same kind of situations in their life ... If you take me, I was working in a MNC in chennai and was doing my MCA 1 year in corres ... When alliance came, I was not willing to drop my Masters, but was forced to keep dates during my exams and left my job ... Finally, when I came to Lux in dreams of continuing MCA 2 yr (after getting 70% in 1yr) ... my dreams were shattered by my FIL and DH saying not to continue ...

what could we do dear ... before dependant on parents for education what to do ... which company to join and after marriage what to cook, what to wear, where to go, how to do, ... this is life ... But, sure I will give freedom for my kids for their Good future ...

Don't worry lakshmi think that everything is for Goodness ... May God bless you ...

Brindha,

I have nothing to comment for you have said things the way ther are. But a small observation which I would like to point out.

Our previous generation had say in many things. Would her son marry against the wishes of his mother? Many girls and boys had heart burns. Is not this a fact?
They ruled the family with upper hand as long as their spouse was alive. Ofcourse perhaps things did turn a bit sour sometimes. There are families where theyr espect 'Manni" even in brother's absence. kanaka

Originally Posted by kanaka

Brindha,

I have nothing to comment for you have said things the way ther are. But a small observation which I would like to point out.

Our previous generation had say in many things. Would her son marry against the wishes of his mother? Many girls and boys had heart burns. Is not this a fact?
They ruled the family with upper hand as long as their spouse was alive. Ofcourse perhaps things did turn a bit sour sometimes. There are families where theyr espect 'Manni" even in brother's absence. kanaka

Dear Kananka Mam,'
Thanx a lot for sharing your valuable thoughts with us.

Dear Brinda,

Very nice topic.I think woman are dependent.By dependant, I mean,they always are tuned to think that,their needs come second. We can never find a mother who would say 'me first'. In that sense, naturally, woman are dependent.Otherwise,in any other way, women are 'independant',they contribute financially,even can be the sole bread winners in many families.They balance their lives,careers and family very well and sky is the limit for them.