I will Micromanage YOU

Hi Chitra,

WOW u keep coming with different situations, giving us the opportunity to share our thoughts too.

The reason for people behaving like this is mainly because of their attitude problem..Once in a while getting a feedback is fine. Being at the back of them till the job is done not only irritates them but tends to get an aversion with the delegated person.

Dear Sharadha
You said right.. inspite of this awareness dont we see such persons all around us!

Yes AC,

You are right about such people....they can get on others nerves...

An eye has to be kept when work is delegated...to check for the progress ..but should be balanced and not irritating.

But as mrs. sunkan says.. its their personal trait...cannot change them....

Bye

My dear AC

You are teasing us with your unique title again ! At first I thought it had to do with the micro wave or the micro chip or some other new fangled IT terminology ,knowledge of which I am terribly deficient in.And was I glad it was something I could follow!
You spoke of the two sets of mothers micromanaging you in the kitchen.....maybe it is a classic case of the 'Mother Hen Clucking Syndrome' !
They have to cluck cluck all along coz they just can't accept the fact that their little chick has grown up and can handle things well.I have a sneaking suspicion that maybe all mother hens are a teeny weeny bit afraid that their chick will do a far better job than they could do and hence this distracting way of cluck clucking or breathing down your neck diverting you !
On a serious note, this is a disconcerting habit with many and very difficult to handle in an office environment where the poor juniors have to swallow this and suffer in silence.......now we know how the ulcers originated !!
Really can' t find any solutions to this universal malaise....but I'm sure the poor victims will find some way to wriggle out with minor injuries !!
Great topic AC .....keep going !

warm regards
PAULINA

Oh Yeah, I see people like this all around me. I am highly amused. I am a person, who is personally not an absolute perfectionist and I dont expect that much perfection from those I delegate too. Be it my maid or someone else. We have a couple in our apartment, who think that they are the person shouldering the entire apartment(where as the truth is not so). They keep finding fault in all the work that is being done (be it an electrical work or any other for that case) and make the day miserable for the helpers they come to help us; (though they are paid, they are also human beings and you cannot just take them for a ride as you pay them is my personal opinion).

AC,
micromanage...mm...
Maybe they want to feel their presence eventhough they don't do much around at that time..
if they delegate, at the end of the job, they would complain,just like Malathi said) 'it can be done this way or it should not be done that way, or is this the way it has been done in your house, etc., etcc., etc...
On a personal experience, I am poor at delegating jobs..so is my dh..likewise I said before., ' there is no use in telling you to do the job., I myself will do it and keep quiet and it is of great help;..

sriniketan

Originally Posted by saraswathipv

Yes AC,

You are right about such people....they can get on others nerves...

An eye has to be kept when work is delegated...to check for the progress ..but should be balanced and not irritating.

But as mrs. sunkan says.. its their personal trait...cannot change them....

Bye

Saras dearie
An eye has to be kept .. easy to say sometimes.. I too have been MMaged so many times its frustrating.. its really some peoples nature I think!

Originally Posted by Paulina

My dear AC

You are teasing us with your unique title again ! At first I thought it had to do with the micro wave or the micro chip or some other new fangled IT terminology ,knowledge of which I am terribly deficient in.And was I glad it was something I could follow!
You spoke of the two sets of mothers micromanaging you in the kitchen.....maybe it is a classic case of the 'Mother Hen Clucking Syndrome' !
They have to cluck cluck all along coz they just can't accept the fact that their little chick has grown up and can handle things well.I have a sneaking suspicion that maybe all mother hens are a teeny weeny bit afraid that their chick will do a far better job than they could do and hence this distracting way of cluck clucking or breathing down your neck diverting you !
On a serious note, this is a disconcerting habit with many and very difficult to handle in an office environment where the poor juniors have to swallow this and suffer in silence.......now we know how the ulcers originated !!
Really can' t find any solutions to this universal malaise....but I'm sure the poor victims will find some way to wriggle out with minor injuries !!
Great topic AC .....keep going !

warm regards
PAULINA

Paulina sweetie
You write with so much humor now I am laughing alone in front of Comp!!!!!!!!
cluck cluck eh ??? could be.. Its annoying though.. esp when I was young no patience with mom and mil following me into the kitchen evne if I had to boil water!
And the work situations are far from funny.. terrible I think! MY DH sometimes does it.. but thankfully not all the time!
Hey I too dont know about the tech stuff my friend.. I am technologically challenged!

Could relate to the micro manager AC as I have seen many, but thankfully not experienced them!

The ones that I have seen are so either because they are perfectionists and so have to make sure everything is done just right. The other ones are the kind who like to "boss" around because they cannot stop themselves from doing it. In both cases the end result is the same - of causing grave irritation to the person at the receiving end!

My hubby is a perfectionist in his work matters and I can see some shades of a micro manager in him. Not only does he expect perfect completion of a project but is also very critical about the words people use ( spoken as well as written)! So I keep checking on this habit of his so much so that I in turn start looking like a micro manager who is keeping a tab on his work behavior!

Many times it helps if we try to understand the reason behind why someone micro manages. I think it helps us in managing them better!

SS

Originally Posted by soaringspirit

Could relate to the micro manager AC as I have seen many, but thankfully not experienced them!

The ones that I have seen are so either because they are perfectionists and so have to make sure everything is done just right. The other ones are the kind who like to "boss" around because they cannot stop themselves from doing it. In both cases the end result is the same - of causing grave irritation to the person at the receiving end!

My hubby is a perfectionist in his work matters and I can see some shades of a micro manager in him. Not only does he expect perfect completion of a project but is also very critical about the words people use ( spoken as well as written)! So I keep checking on this habit of his so much so that I in turn start looking like a micro manager who is keeping a tab on his work behavior!

Many times it helps if we try to understand the reason behind why someone micro manages. I think it helps us in managing them better!

SS

SS
Its very interesting what you write... It almost always happen with perfectionists only I think.. Its not the way to go in todays life and world. Maybe could have worked years ago when dominant characterstics were more prevalent. Today everyone of us for the most part is more educated and quite knowledgeable in handling day to day tasks if not more!
When a spouse shows tendencies to micromanage, however trivial, it makes for walking a fine line. Do you tell the spouse to back off.. "I too know to make an online payment?"..or do you tell .. :I do not need reminders to buy and stock toilet tissues?"..
It also aggravates and reduces self esteem.. more over tension exists with the worry Did I buy all Milk?..
Just wrote to discuss if any have seen it eithe rin work or at home!