I will do it MY way

Originally Posted by aishu22

Dear AC,
aahhaaa.... seems like every one is joining your camp and may be you need to sign a contract with STAR Cruise !!!

I'm with you AC on this subject matter.In my house its just 1 female VS 1 male(read monster ). I just run around from kitchen and hall on all working days and seeing my plight, he will promptly say, okay aishu i will help you.Me, feeling so elated and proud will hand over a coconut to be scrapped and lo...after few minutes, the coconut scrappings lie all around the floor except the cuting/chopping tray.To top it, if i tell him, "R is you are so messy" - he simply says....Feel proud to have me as your DH nuuu...Okay, agreed and next comes the Aquaguard.He will promplty say, aishu, you go finish your bath i will take care of filling water.What do i see when i step out, Water over flowing from aquaguard and my Master blaster is lost in "THE HINDU" reading about kaveri water issue -what an irony....

AC, my ranting will exceed your leader post i think.Let me stop.
Enjoyed your narration dear!

Aishu babes
Enjoyed reading your reply.. better than my lead post:)
Oh I could'nt help laughing at the coconut scraps and the water... sorry.. I am still on your side!
Maybe its in their DNA????????????????????

Originally Posted by anukvs

Dear AC,

Actually i just came out of a typical scene as described... and with a long face..opened IL.. so that my temper cools. Lo n behold.. here i see the post.. like someone peeped into my house.

MY WAY is the standard mantra. Nobody bothers if the house is messy... OMG! am in a real mood for polambal. Let me not start it in the morning.

Anu

Anu dear
What you say why friends are for?????????

Originally Posted by kanaka

Chita,

No way of making these men understand. But some are very meticulous systematic and totally oraganised. They too eat your brains. kanaka

Kanaka
Hats off to you for pointing the other side too!.. Like you say the other extreme would be difficult to handle as well:)

Originally Posted by Mindian

Hi AC,

reading your post i was laughing loudly and saying OMG...how cud it be the same dialogue in some other house till i scrolled down to see the same response in almost every house...yes here too dh is always saying RELAX......u have told me to do it,no...now i shall do it my way...but what to do...i cant rest till i see everything done so will put up a face like a great martyr and pretend to do it myself and dh will laughingly comment u know that will work...YES it has worked till now but i dont know for how long............

Mindi

Dear Mindi
You are a genius to handle things so well.. and your dh wins too!

Originally Posted by Aarushi

Dear AC,

You described a scene in my household quite perfectly. My hubby insists on loading the dishwasher...but doesn't quite do it every day...lol...and since I hate seeing dirty dishes in the sink first thing in the morning...I am the one who ends up cleaning everything at night...

He does help in laundry (but sometimes forgets to take all the dirty clothes)...:rolleyes: cutting veggies (but will never make a complete dish from start to finish) :rolleyes:...I keep telling him that the best present he can give me is to cook dinner for me one day...and you should see his face then...

love,
Aarushi

Aarushi
Where have I seen that befoer??? forgetting part of the dirty clothes to wash??
As usual you write so well..
Do you think things would be different if we had trained them young?
What if we place rules with consequences?
any ideas..

Originally Posted by Cindhuja

Dear AC,

Reading your post i tried to imitate the great Shevaliar Shivaji (Ulla azhugiraen Veliya Sirikaren), Oh boy all men and kids are the same everywhere. In the beginning dayz of my married life even i thought of getting helping hands, but very soon i realized , itz better it drown in a sea than asking him to help me with the stuff. Me and my parents strictly adhere to the way of keeping that that things in that that place.But is the other extreme in my In-laws house. I was confident that i cannot change them, so i never intended to ask them help me out.

Dont Know whether u have heard about a very famous characterisation of the ace director K..Balachander. In one of his drama and movie he portrayed actor Major Sundarrajan as Major Chandrakanth. That character will go blind due to some reason. One day a thief will get into his house. And this man will easily trace it out and catch him. When the culplrit enquires how he managed to do it.The Major will tell him, since me being blind i alwayz keep my things in the same place, i count the steps from one destination to another.Today i realized few things were not in the appropriate place so i guessed someone has enterd the house.

I understand i'm boring you, the reason behind the narration is; my parents will keep on telling us the story and ask us to maintain the same order in house.

Dear Cindhuja
Please.. you are never boring at all.. I enjoy reading your reply:)
I remember the movie and interesting to read what you say.. maybe its good to start young and have discipline enforced on all family members.. very interesting and different perspective to read yours.. thank you dear:)

Originally Posted by honeybee

Dear AC
That was a very cute ,hilarious description about the "MY WAY" syndrome.
When one needs help desperately and there's no response from family members..patience goes for a toss.

I have an idea.. how about turning plates the "MY WAY" style and make them forgo their favourite TV show or fav menu for a day and announce.. "This is my way?"

Regards
Honeybee

Honeybee dear
My salutations to you dear..for that brilliant idea of yours.. but being a mother i might not be able to do that dear.. still will keep it mind for future reference..

AC

That a very good one !!!

Scary though... I thought it was just me.. But it happens everywhere. I thought eventually this MYS (My Way Syndrome) will be gone and I will see the light at the end of the tunnel...

Different scenarios:

(1) Every evening when you come from office, please throw the garbage which is placed conveniently at the entrance [ Since its all kitchen throwaways and stuff. it might start stinking in a while ]

Answer: You want it thrown, thats all right? Why should it matter if I do it 6PM or 10PM at night.. You want me to take care of this.. then let me do this my way..

- I started throwing the garbage myself at 6

(2) Can you please wash the dishes [ when its few and i dont want to load the DW for that]

Answer: Dont worry. I will just be there after this game is over. You want me to do it.. leave it my way

- Dishes will be there till next morning and the excuse it - Dont even touch it, I will finish it off today one whole day dishes sitting.. I clean it up then.

(3) Always, put the washer - whites separate, socks separate - more important since with all the games and stuff, entire NJ's garbage will be there in those socks.

Answer: Anyway washer is going to clean it throughly, why spend time separating it. If you want me to do this, then its my way..



thanks for this thread AC.. I can do my polambals now

Dear AC,

Nice write-up ...

For me, It is always better than worse ... Yes, If I give them one single job they give back added 0 .. yes 10 jobs ... I always prefer everything to be done by myself instead of depending on them which makes my nerves out ... My hubby cooks well that too Chinese and European ... he is best ... but the other part is whenever he starts cooking ... I never enter until he finishes else... I will go seeing my dirty kitchen platform, sink, kitchen dining ... The best part here is cooking European dish is very easy but the mess which takes time for me to clear ... that too during Grilling ... My God ...

Once in a week, wardrobe has to be cleaned as he messes that too ...

I can bear all these above except the one is .. Searching for things ... ... I have told to keep the Car keys, Purse, Cell in one main place... Everyday, I got to search for him ... the main joke is, it is his stuffs and he asks me 'Engey vacha nee adhey' ... which I wouldn't have seen at all ... ...

Originally Posted by Nandshyam

AC

That a very good one !!!

Scary though... I thought it was just me.. But it happens everywhere. I thought eventually this MYS (My Way Syndrome) will be gone and I will see the light at the end of the tunnel...

Different scenarios:

(1) Every evening when you come from office, please throw the garbage which is placed conveniently at the entrance [ Since its all kitchen throwaways and stuff. it might start stinking in a while ]

Answer: You want it thrown, thats all right? Why should it matter if I do it 6PM or 10PM at night.. You want me to take care of this.. then let me do this my way..

- I started throwing the garbage myself at 6

(2) Can you please wash the dishes [ when its few and i dont want to load the DW for that]

Answer: Dont worry. I will just be there after this game is over. You want me to do it.. leave it my way

- Dishes will be there till next morning and the excuse it - Dont even touch it, I will finish it off today one whole day dishes sitting.. I clean it up then.

(3) Always, put the washer - whites separate, socks separate - more important since with all the games and stuff, entire NJ's garbage will be there in those socks.

Answer: Anyway washer is going to clean it throughly, why spend time separating it. If you want me to do this, then its my way..



thanks for this thread AC.. I can do my polambals now

Nandhu dear
Yours is far better and more excellent than mine..

Infact you are qualified to become our leader..

Oh the Sock story.. most interesting.. and I too keep garbage same position and same way end up doing it my way/...