Complexes or complexities- Which makes our life complicated?

Kanaka why don't you try to understand Sheela. Life has been too harsh with them. However she may try it will be rather difficult to remove those complexes- This is superiority complex due to inferiority- I think this is a common dialogue among us.

Turn aroud we will get another set of comments-"X is solely responsible for her complicated life.

What do we infer? Is complexity of life the cause of many complexes?

Are complexes the root cause of various complications in life?

Sometimes I feel circumstances give way to complexes. May not be on'e own making. Scars buried deep into our hearts makes us shy away from many situations.

Tell me how things work in our life? kanaka

Dear Kanaka mam,

Its true that we make some situations so complex that we are unable to come out of net.

Lot of factors affect for every single person to decide certain things,here are few

1. Way of Viewing
2. Handling
3. How much he is influenced by problem
4. Adjusting to the problem
5. How personal he takes the problem

I can say its always worth to find a solution to a problem rather than exagerrating ,making ourselfs or someone else responsible .
Waiting for more ideas..

Hugs,
dg.

hi all,

Nice thread to discuss. My opinion is "Our complex leads to complexity in life". Either a superior feel or inferior , it inturn reflects in our life adversely. I know 2 people who are very close to me; one is my friend who is very very inferior and other one is my cousin who has a superior feel to the core. And i have seen them facing too much of troubles and also causing troubles to others.

The superior one always insults others; out of which that person has never made friends. No kid of that person's age used to play with or allow to mingle. Most of the times the respective person's teacher used to complain about the lethargy of the student coz of the insight of the student that he/her knows everything.Even after ages the person is the same; with very less involvement in their neighbourhood.

Whereas the inferior person suffers a lot than the superior. Never expresses or tried to express in public. The person's family & friends used to force them for making them come forward. Always reciprocates what they read and never attempt to think beyond it; if @ all they have some new thoughts they never open up.Surviving in this competitive world with this character makes them face a more complicated life.

Kanaka
Excellent topic to discuss.. definetly our complex leads to complexities.. and then also the past.. It is hard work to get out of these and try and lead a balanced life. For this one would need maturity and understanding and experience to handle various incidents.. Thats why one needs to use life as a teacher and learn from all experiences coming our way.. There is a definite purpose to our existence and being aware of oneself helps us to learn more and also be open to learning more..

Hi

acc to me the complexes in life increases the complexeties n tht again to other complexes as well.its like a cycle,start whn a person expects much frm a situation or a person n gets unfulfilled the complexes start n leads to complexities n it goes on n on.
in order to stop v must b honest in our expectations n keep our desires to the limit.
bye

raji

Dear Chitra,

Don't you think Gita comes to our rescue in such situations. I always consider that as the Mother of all 'Art of Living' techniques. kanaka

Dear Cindhuja,

Hello to you. There are innumerable cases like the way you have mentioned. The parent's don't seem to get into the real issue. On the contrary they consider themselves as victims of jealousy.
They get the feeling of"Everybody is after us".. kanaka