How your kids call you at home ... ?

Dear Suni,

A nice thread.......and iam happy to talk and share about my daughter her......She calls us Amma & Appa.....it came her own , and always uses vanga ponga and so on
and i feel very proud especially the way when she addresses me to her known circle friends......say like ....Ithu ENGA AMMA......Theriyuma..........

Dear Venus,

I didn't say anything bad about kids calling their parents in American Style ... I've already mentioned that it's upto their own likes and dislikes ... We all are sharing the way .. that's it ...

But, shall I ask you one thing ... Have you heard any of Foreigners made calling their kids ie. Amma & Appa ... then why should we Indians use their 'Mommy and Daddy' ? ... When Americans and Europeans make their kids to call and speak in their own mother tongue why shouldn't we Indians ...

Once again am telling you that's its your own wish to make them call like American Style ... there is nothing wrong dear ... But I was wondering the reason ... Why so ...?

Thanks for sharing dear friend ... please don't take any hurt feelings Venus ...

Originally Posted by Venonimiss

This topic just touches my raw nerve buddy! What’s wrong in your kids calling you ‘Mommy’? I call my parents ‘Mommy and Daddy’ and I love when my daughter calls me ‘Mommy’ and her dad ‘Daddy’. Those are the most precious words to me. ‘Amma’ doesn’t feel that close to me as ‘Mommy’, since I call the person who loves me selflessly and endlessly ‘Mommy and not ‘Amma’ (It was my mom’s and dad’s choice of how they should be called in the first place obviously, that is the reason why they taught me and my sisters those words). Though my DH calls his parents ‘Amma and Appa’, he still prefers his daughter calling him ‘daddy’ since he was bowled over by the relationship between my dad and me. He feels that a father-daughter relationship should be like ours.

As far as respect goes, in spite of all the respect and adoration for my parents, I still call them..”mommy..nuvvu.., daddy ..nuvvu..” I never called them ‘meeru’ expect when mentioning them to others and talking about them with others. Again it is all a personal choice. I don’t want my little one to give me so much respect in words. All I wish for is that she would have respect and love for both of us (me and my DH) in her heart. When I want to be her best friend when she grows up, taking out all the formalities is a small step in that process.

Dear Babyraji,

Thanks for sharing your views here friend ...

Dear Brindha,

Thanks for stepping and sharing here friend ...

LAHY ... is the names of my kids ...
L - Llewellyn (7 yrs old son's name)
A- Amy (5 yrs old Daughty's name)
H- Henry (2 and half yr old son's name)
Y - is common in all their names incl. my Hubby's (Lynus) ...

Hope I have cleared ... ...

Originally Posted by brindhak

Dear Suni...
I like all the ways she call.. :) She call me Amma, Sometimes she calls me Brindha,Sometimes Mother.. in a very Impressive manner..I admire her for whatever she calls me...

BTW..What is lahy??

Thanx dear...

Well, this is purely a habit formed due to the place we are. My son calls amma and appa and others by their relation to him. We made sure tht he got his relations right even when he was an infant and used to address each other by the relation of my son. Like I used to call hubby as appa and he me as amma. Also my inlaws were called thatha and paati and the same with others too. We tell him to call mama, rather than call Ananthan. He calls every one vaanga except me and my niece (he calls her akka only).It is nice to hear actually, don't you all think so?
Kerala Tamil Brahmins call even their cousins' and their spouses' by their relation- like athan, athan manni etc. This shows our realtionship with them immediately.
Europians do not give importance to an extended family or joint family mostly. So they have the habit of calling poeple by their names. And remarriage etc. are common there. Theirs is 'your children and my children are playing with my children' culture. Please, I am not degrading or disrespect their values, only pointing out their way.
Children can pick up different languages (upto easily, so talking to them in one's own mother tongue is best. Educationalists in India advise this only.
This way the child would be learning many languages.
I am a Kannadiga by birth, born and brought up in Kerala, lived among Tamil Brahmins. Malayalam was the local language and Hindi was compulsory as National language and I studied in English medium. So I know somany languages and have not found it a problem. It is a blessing in disguise actually.

Dear Venus,
if you feel the respect should be in the heart, why do you address your husband as DH (dear husband) and not as husband? A child can be very friendly with its parents, but ultimately the parents are parents. That should be there in the child, I feel that way.

nice topic..

forget calling ur mom and dad.. appa or amma.. in my husbands' family they even called their moms by their names ... I was shocked when i first heard it !!!

I dont know if calling ur mother mom or mommy makes a difference ... but I do know of a friend of mine who did feel that when her kids were young she should have taught them to address them as "appachan and ammachi".. instead of "mummy and daddy".. but maybe that was her personal feeling.

Talking to your child in different languages is in no way going to confuse the child .. It has been proven that children have the ability to understand .. for instance I can quote the case of my grand niece .. whenever she comes down to chennai we make it a point to speak to her only in Tamizh... though she hasnt started talking much, she knows that with her mother she has to talk in English.. and she has no difficulty in understanding what we tell her in Tamizh.


bhooma

Dear Varloo M'am,

First time I am receiving a reply from you and so happy to see you here ... Thank you so much for stepping In and sharing here M'am ...

My kids do say Amma, Appa, Thatha, Ammamma, Atchi, Periyamma, Periyappa, Athai & Mama ... As you say, the culture here is totally diffirent from ours ... When they move with us, they wonder about our culture and admire it too ... I am proud for that M'am ... Thank you once again ...

Hi Suni,

Our son address us as "Amma" & "Appa". This is how he was taught. Nothing like addressing in one's own mother tongue.

Hi,

yes this is a good topic. my sons call me "ammaa" and my hubby as " nanandi".Mummy and Daddy is not allowed in our house, because my parents tought us like that and i tought my kids like that they call all elders respectfully even my ILs' love that, mine is large family only my kids call like this rest of all other ways but they all love to be called like that. we should habit them calling parents and other elders respectfully because this new generation is forgetting our culture and manners, which i feel it personally.thank u for giving a space to share our opinions dear.