How loving can our mothe's-in law be

Its just not MIL.. any IL can be what they want.. it all depends on that particular family and their mindset.. me thinks..

But I don't think however good they are, cannot be compared to our own home.. our parents.. nope.

God cannot be everywhere he was very upset that the babies might be alone and he wanted to take care of them all. So what did he do? he created Mom.

Originally Posted by Nandshyam

Its just not MIL.. any IL can be what they want.. it all depends on that particular family and their mindset.. me thinks..

But I don't think however good they are, cannot be compared to our own home.. our parents.. nope.

God cannot be everywhere he was very upset that the babies might be alone and he wanted to take care of them all. So what did he do? he created Mom.

Dear Nandhu,

Perfectly right. kanaka

I am sure that each relationship has its own ups and downs.

Maybe i am lucky to have a great family not just MIL & FIL but the extended family too...i.e uncles and aunties too are all very warm.

All relationships do have a rough patch....that helps us to appreciate the smoothness of other roads.

Dear Roopa,

happy you have come out of hibernation. kanaka

Kanaka,

I don't have a MIL - but I had known her for a very long time even before marriage and I am pretty sure if she were alive, we would have shared a great relationship. I miss her a lot. And my relationship with the rest of the family is good. That said, till my mom became a MIL, I never realised how hard that relationship is to work especially when your mom is being viewed as MIL by the DIL who has enetered the family, ofcourse I do believe that relationship between SIL and DIL is also quite sensitive. It is true, it takes time - however it helps a lot if both the conecerned being come into the relationship with an open heart and acceptance - that whatever happens, she my DIL and viceversa. Then everything will fall in place is my opinion. Even slight hesitation about the acceptance by either of the parties is what leads to diffciulties is what I think. But then when it comes to relationships there are no hard and fast rules.

Come'on ladies, MIL can not be loving "unconditionally".
The momnet you begin to appear as a thret to her, she would hunt you down howmuch-ever heavenly she might be. I dont blame a MIL for this, and belive its natural & human to behave like they do. Imagine yourself being the soul of your family - husband,sons every one pampers you and then comes home a chirpy, beatiful girl - married to your son. If your son seems attracted to her - you would feel neglected. If your husband likes her cooking (maybe coz its a change from your style), you find her a competition. If she purchases diamond jewellery, you feel empty and wanna buy a much expensive piece! And the rat race begins with no ends/boundaries.

i love my MIL , she loves me too BUT we are happy when distant from each other.

I have arguements, disagreements with mhy mother also - but the next morning when she wakes me up wit a smile - it all flows away. And the MIL in contrast, saves these grudges for always and you know it all..

So, fortunate are those who are blessed with a loving MIL.
for the rest of us - May God bless us

Hi Charu,

I am sure that all will agree that no relationship is very smooth, that you just glide thru them in your life.

There will always be those remorse phases once in a while...but if we don't take it to heart and as you have mentioned - I have arguements, disagreements with mhy mother also - but the next morning when she wakes me up wit a smile - it all flows away.

Yes we should not hang on to anything for long then we are in trouble...but if we just let it pass as a bad dream...fine. But i am sure that DH have a major role to play here. If they support their wives when the wife is right...then we find it easier to get into the flow.