free bird

Originally Posted by soaringspirit

Dear Kamalji,

Your upbeat spirit is surely infectious! Nice to read that you have kept yourself happily and "freely" occupied! You are a free bird yet occupied by your hobbies, by your likings. Very nice.

Well, although we can all look at you with envy (because we are still bound by responsibilties that need to be fulfilled), I must say that it is because you live your retired life well, that we feel so envious. I must say that it is greatly to your credit that you have not let this freedom turn into boredom or into a constant lamenting about the past active work life you once had. It takes a lot of "zindaadili" to live a happy life after your responsibilities are over and to find a new meaning to your life in this phase.

The empty nest syndrome coupled with slowing down of work is not something everyone can take positively. Some like you, treat this as an opportunity to do the things you always loved to do but could not do earlier or to discover latent hobbies and talents within you and redefine yourself. Others, as I sometimes see, keep questioning about what is their "use" in this world now that they have fulfilled all their duties. What more is left to do? They sort of have a sad outlook about it - the loneliness, the emptiness - it looks dark to them.

I am glad to read that you are the upbeat ones. Well, we all know that about you! My parents are like that too. I admire this spirit.

Although, like AC rightly said, there are some people who just cannot live without a consistent routine. They don't know what else to do. For such people, it is probably better to keep busy in a job or some sort of a forced routine because that is what keeps them going. It is similar to what Lata Mangeshkar once said when asked why she does not quit singing now that her voice is giving-up? Her answer was - "This is what I have done all my life, I don't know what I should do if not sing".

Anyway. Nice to read all the FBs too. Everyone comes with a different perspective and that's what makes the reading all the more interesting.

SS

Dear SS,

Your comments are special to me always.Bcs they are better than my blog.

See SS, I knew 10 years back that at 45, these good business days and profits will not last forever.We had a great run, we exporters.We were getting Govt Subsidies on Garment Exports to the tune of 20%, good profits from buyers, good quantities, and best of all , we exporters were exempt from paying Income Tax of 30%, which others used to pay.

I knew this was too good tolast, and that rainy days are not far ahead, as is the empty nest syndrome, daughters growing up, soon to get married etc.

So i and wife steeled ourselves for the ineviotable, and i took to new technology like chatting,blogging,email, and then solvign Suduko, writing on my PC, before blogging came in thepicture, and started to save more and spend less.

So today i dontlack anything, and have a great time the whold ay, listening to musing on the pc, watching my old home movies, and just about having a ball.

Thanks for the great comments,and am glad ur parents are like me.And i hope when u reach my age, u too spread the cheer around and be cheerful too.Life is too short to be sad really.

Regards.kamal

Dear Kamalji

nice post. Glad that you are relaxed and free to do whatever you feel like without the pressure of a job.As long as one knows how to keep themselves occupied and useful , it is all that matters. I know of a guy in his mid forties, who made a lot of money in real estate. He does not need to work but feels that if he stayed home, he would be picking arguments with wife.Hence feels justified to work.

Originally Posted by sunkan

very true kamalji,
priorities are more important, than slogging without any aim, i wonder why rich people are even more crazy to amass wealth, imagine all those politicians being caught with crores if only they could had spread their wealth they would be healthy in mind and presence among people and need not even go to canvass for votes it would follow..sunkan

Dear Sunkan,

Very true.I think the richer u are , the more money u need, reasons beyond u and me.Regards.kamal

Dear Kamalji,

That is a great post… Happy to note that you are a free bird and enjoying the life… All the best to enjoy your life to the fullest extent.

There are some people who cant sit idle, even if they have retired from their job and had completed all their responsibilities… It is their nature… Work has been imbibed in their blood… What to do… But I will not fully agree with you that they are not enjoying their life… It is their way of enjoying their life…

I will tell you one classic example… I had one collegue of mine… who use dot work with me for a very meager salary… He used to be taken for task at times… But he never used to be worried… He used to enjoy but… hahahahaha… One day, I happened to see a fax from one of the leading international bank about fixed deposit… I was astonished looking at the figure… and this was addressed to that person… In short… my one year salary is his per month interest income… hahahahaha… But he enjoys working… Had I been in that position… I will be sitting at home and enjoy life with family….

At the end of the day… It is the mental make up of the person…

Now… I am waiting for my number….


Veda

Kamalji,

what you have said makes absolute sense. It took me almost 2years to convince my mom that it is ok to live independently and enjoy life as well. God has given her the opportunity to lead life as she wants for once - she can do exactly as she pleases and is not bound by any limitations. For a change, she is not a mother, wife, sister daughter, DIL but just a grandmom who can simply enjoy her grandchildren when they visit her for a month or two. Finally she is living life with out any responsibilities and is actually liking it and so is my FIL. Now both of them have a lot better understanding of being samdhis and can relate to each other better :)

Finally, I do believe it is a gift and a knack to learn to live as a free bird - after so many years of working, doesn't come naturally to everyone. You are indeed blessed and since you are enjoying life so much, you are helping readers like me enjoy with your blogs. It reflects :)

Kamalji,

I should say that you are an optimist.

How many of them would enjoy life as you ? Normally they do is grumble, feel left out and what not..

Not many get the opportunity as you and you are utilizing the prospect at its best.

Originally Posted by sundarusha

Dear Kamalji

nice post. Glad that you are relaxed and free to do whatever you feel like without the pressure of a job.As long as one knows how to keep themselves occupied and useful , it is all that matters. I know of a guy in his mid forties, who made a lot of money in real estate. He does not need to work but feels that if he stayed home, he would be picking arguments with wife.Hence feels justified to work.

Dear Usha,

Well we all work for money, that is what we say.But if god is kind and gives us money early, then why work ?

I have worked for more than 35 years, out of 55. is that not enough ? Should i die working ?

Now i have the whole day to myself,. blogging, reading, watching movies on the DVD,havint time to invest my money in Mutual funds and other avenues, all this i did not have time for before.

And i love going to malls just for time pass, take my wife there any time i fancy, she shops for fruits and veggies, and i look at the pretty crowd tht goes by, having a coffee or a sandwitch there.

Well those who want to work till they die, they are welcome.HAAH.Not for me that.Regards.kamal

Originally Posted by Vysan

Dear Kamalji,

That is a great post… Happy to note that you are a free bird and enjoying the life… All the best to enjoy your life to the fullest extent.

There are some people who cant sit idle, even if they have retired from their job and had completed all their responsibilities… It is their nature… Work has been imbibed in their blood… What to do… But I will not fully agree with you that they are not enjoying their life… It is their way of enjoying their life…

I will tell you one classic example… I had one collegue of mine… who use dot work with me for a very meager salary… He used to be taken for task at times… But he never used to be worried… He used to enjoy but… hahahahaha… One day, I happened to see a fax from one of the leading international bank about fixed deposit… I was astonished looking at the figure… and this was addressed to that person… In short… my one year salary is his per month interest income… hahahahaha… But he enjoys working… Had I been in that position… I will be sitting at home and enjoy life with family….

At the end of the day… It is the mental make up of the person…

Now… I am waiting for my number….


Veda

Dear Veda,


U are waiting for what ? Money or retirement.HAHA.

Well when I used to work, it is a full time job.As an employer, I have to find work to first take care of salaries and then other expenses, and then keep some for myself.

If I was an employee, then boss is the boss.I will have to attend office, and meet the targets.U cant takle time off toplay with yr grandchild, or go for Teeth Yatra,or anything.


I am free to do what I want, whenever I want.I sacrificed a little to save money for my retirement, and im glad I did.I did not go for cruises,nor for the weekend outstation holidays which cost these days 25000 and above,and many such things, and I invested tht money in Mutual Funds, and Bank Deopists, which have now grown to give me a steady income.

In face I am earning and spending more now than I did when I was working.And I have so much to do now.Blogging is one of them.HAHA.

Regards.

kamal

Originally Posted by Srama

Kamalji,

what you have said makes absolute sense. It took me almost 2years to convince my mom that it is ok to live independently and enjoy life as well. God has given her the opportunity to lead life as she wants for once - she can do exactly as she pleases and is not bound by any limitations. For a change, she is not a mother, wife, sister daughter, DIL but just a grandmom who can simply enjoy her grandchildren when they visit her for a month or two. Finally she is living life with out any responsibilities and is actually liking it and so is my FIL. Now both of them have a lot better understanding of being samdhis and can relate to each other better :)

Finally, I do believe it is a gift and a knack to learn to live as a free bird - after so many years of working, doesn't come naturally to everyone. You are indeed blessed and since you are enjoying life so much, you are helping readers like me enjoy with your blogs. It reflects :)

Dear S Rama,

Thank u for yr kind words.

Glad to know yr parents are having a great time now.Yes there aer few responsibilities now at this stage of life.

I have one daughter happuily married, and one now 21,studying.I have all the time in the world,and this has brought oyut the writer in me, which I never knew existed.


Thanks for enjoying my blogs, and I hope u continue to do so, and grace my blogs .Thank u so much.Regards.kamal

Kamalji

I always love to read about how satisfied you are with life. Then I always tell myself 'Be satisfied like Kamalji'

I also think there is nothing better in life than blogging, watching movies and acting

Santosh