moments i have enjoyed alone..

hi friends,
i have a question in my mind..housewives those who are in USA, alone in house with husband tied up in job and no kids,how do u all feel all alone at home..do u really like that situation..or u feel u really miss people from india...according to me i was bored and my husband will usually come back at 9pm. but,after two years has passed and i have started doing my further studies,now i feel that,the time when i was at home was the wonderful time without any disturbances,worries and without people(sorry i don't mean i don't want people,but u feel healthy sometimes when u have time and space to think about you)...now iam begging for that time and i won't get..Friends what do you think..anybody experienced the same like me? please share ur experiences..the most u enjoyed..not with your husband..what you alone have enjoyed about yourself those times..any type of response, positive or negative coments are welcome..
thanks

My dear rya,
Wonderful question.I enjoy solitude.I look forward to being on my own sometimes,to be with my thoughts.My thoughts become my companions and living with my thoughts is a wonderful time for me.
Besides in morning walks I have seen people talking and enloy that.I like to walk by myself,that is the time I organise my day,I arrange my ideas in my mind etc.
Once I went to Ethiopia woith my husband for six months.My husband would go away in the morning and would come back sometimes in the late evenings.I had for company an Ethiopian maid who could not speak English and I did not know their language.She knew her job well,so I did not have to tell her anything.So i had lot of time on my own.That is the time I enjoyed the most.I read lot of books which I otherwise would not have had time to read,I did bird watching,wonderful birds visiting the swimming pool, never saw that variety of birds afterwards, any where else.I really rnjoyed those 6 months when I had oppotunity to savour the solitude which I consider a bliss.
love
mithila kannan

Rya,

I am with you - I for one have thoroughly enjoyed my days when I was alone in the house with out a worry and just married. I have had my fill of reading, painting/drawing, cooking, cleaning, organizing, going for long walks, trying to communicate in sign language (since could not speak the local lanaguage) enjoying the rain, sleeping in late, surfing the net, listening to songs, watching reruns of some serials, just standing out in the patio and enjoying the stretch of nothingness to the change of colors with seasons......those good old days! I don't remember complaining much that I was bored. Now the house is full with kids and their activities and love it all as much if not more. But I am really grateful for the time I had for my self - I got to look at myself better.

Thanks starting this thread.

hi rya,

i understand what u mean..initially when i came here i used to feel so bored after leading a good social life in India.....now i am just used to having myself for company and i organise the day and space my activities so am actually enjoying my own company...u can sing loudly even when u have a bad throat.....no one to complain..thats a great feeling...

Mindi

hi all,
thanks for all your replies..I hope my experience more or less matches with you all.
thanks

Oh Rya, you reminded me of those golden days of yore! What a nice idea for a thread!

I absolutely loved the time I had for myself right after I got married and before I took up a job.

Just like most of you, I was a busy bee too prior to getting married – full time job, quite a few hobbies that I used to pursue, not to mention a pretty big size friend circle.

After getting married I had the luxury of breaking the routine for a good 7-8 months I was home full time. I am person who likes to do something or the other all the time. I am also big on planning my time and my day. So I used to have a schedule for my day. Hubby used to be busy working 14-hour days at a start-up. But even though we were newly married then I never really craved for much time from him! I was happy with my own schedule which went something like that - sipping my morning tea while listening to the news on TV and reading the newspaper, then a workout session at home, making something for lunch, going to the local library (walking) and spending a few hours reading stuff, coming back and watching an hour of TV again, go for a walk in the evening and lastly prepare dinner and wait for hubby to show up. Sometimes talking to friends over the phone. Oh yeah, writing long letters to my close ones back home was pretty big on my list too.

Even after I started working things were not much different, in that that I got a lot of time for myself because husband and I stayed in different cities. So you see, I was a free bird again! J After coming back from work, I would quickly finish cooking dinner and lunch for the next day and go out driving to different places all by myself. I love to drive and explore. And though I do love people and their company, I love my own company even more! J So even though a lot of my friends in the city would keep calling me to spend the evening with them (and their family) thinking I would be bored alone, I would not take up their offer most times ‘cos I mostly had something planned for myself. Sometimes I would just lounge around listening to music and reading a book.

Ah, those were the days!

Well, like Srama said, I love the current phase of my life too. Young kids and their innocent and incessant banter peppered with abundant love. Couldn't have asked for a better step up in life

Thanks for taking me down memory lane..

SS

Dear rya,
my days of solitude starts next week, my daughter has got a job after 2 yrs of gap and very tension filled period, but then now that she has the job she is on cloud nine, work is worship and life passes in a jiffy, but then for me my solitude with none to talk to, i dont know may be i would spend more time in net but that also affects my eyes,

she has got me a set of oil paints and a guide to go ahead and renew my old hobby, i had conducted exhibition of my paintings in cards in a 5 star in kolkata may be it would get revived, and as such i would not say we are lonely we have our thoughts and how best to use that as a companion is the main thing, so the morning and night may be a hurry burry but the rest is going to be serene...sunkan

hi ss and sunkan,
it is very nice reading your experiences...you see just reading the experiences itself creates a joy in us ! i enjoyed reading all the replies.sunkan,even i was doing paintings in my house and i used to keep my paintings half completed..now i feel that i don't have time to complete...if i start driving ,it adds to my joyful moments and continues!
thanks for the replies
ramya