The Single Child Syndrome

Dear mithila mam,

for one more beautiful and informative post from you, i got to learn through this post as how you should be if you have single child,i need it a lot.

I agree with you because i have a friend who is single child to her parents and she is very stubborn in her behaviour that we need to compromise for everything else her mood will change and she will not talk.

Keep writing more mam, i would love to read many many more from you.

Dear Mithila,

I read the lead post in this thread. As a single child myself, the topic was particularly intriguing since I wasnted to imbibe what you have to say.

Raising a child, single, multiple is not easy. And parenting is no exact science, you know it better than me since you are an experienced mom. My parents had to tread many dangerous borders in raising me. My mom especially was very wary that in future the world (read my in-laws) should not blame her for raising a single child in a wayward manner.

The case studies presented in your post are typical. But fortunately, most parents do not behave like that. They groom their single child for living in a large world of different people. In my case and in my personal opinion, it is the interests of the child that often get compromised in such cases.

Love all your works and continue writing in this genre.

regards
Vidya

Dear slp,
Thank you my dear friend for those wonderful words of appreciation.
mithila kannan

Dear,dear Vidya,
Raising a child is not a science,that exactly is the reason the parents have to be careful because the personalities of people differ.In a family with more than one child the parents' attention and love is shared among the kids,mind you my friend not always equally.If I have five kids and one child is lame my love and attention for that child will be more than what I would give the others.
In a family with siblings kids invariably have to make adjustments and have to share their things with others,where as in the case of a single child the parents more often than not concentrate on their only child,getting that child whatever that child wants.While I am not generalising,sriniketan wrote to me saying that her parents gave her a wonderful upbringing,and she is a jewel of a person,in many cases it happens.
I sincerely feel that parents of a single child should see to it that the child gets adequate opportunities to mix well with others.
Right now my MIL is standing by my side with whom I shared this thread she feels that today's kids are very intelligent and they know how to live,give and take.
Well,thanKs a lot.
mithila kannan

Thank you Kamalji.You are a wonderful person.God bkless you.
mithila kannan

Dear Kamla,
Thank you.You are wonderful.
mithila

Hi mithila
That was so good.i feel like i was raeding a story,but instead its real life.what u said is really true.I all depends on the parents who bring their child to a good position.

Hello Friends,
I agree that no story or narration cannot be written without inspiration or motivation.As far as i know,the "Snippets of Life" deals with a touching experience, a personal anecdote or a private reflection! ..When i read topics under this i cant think it as an imaginery one or a sci-fiction one.Cheeniya sir and varalotti sir do write a lot under inspiration,i think that comes under "Articles by Middlemen","Cheeniya's Senile rambling","short stories" etc.
My father is a story writer.He writes under pen name"Supriya Santhilal".He writes humourous and tear-bringing stories.So i know how the gist of stories are build.
Thank you kamla and vidhya for encouraging different views from readers.

Supriya sweetheart,

You and Mithila are among the best writers in IL. Whatever you both write makes sense.

Placing a post under Snippets or Articles is more or less a matter of personal choice, subject to definition of these forums. Mithila has reflected on certain incidents and personalities from her life. So, it is better that she has placed it in Snippets.

In IL, we always welcome diverse opinions. And more so, you have spoken openly. Such candour is praiseworthy. Just as Mithila's reply is.

You are one lucky girl, your father has your name as his pen name. Does he write in English? Can you get him to post in IL for us?

regards
Vidya

Originally Posted by SupriyaDinesh

Hello Friends,
I agree that no story or narration cannot be written without inspiration or motivation.As far as i know,the "Snippets of Life" deals with a touching experience, a personal anecdote or a private reflection! ..When i read topics under this i cant think it as an imaginery one or a sci-fiction one.Cheeniya sir and varalotti sir do write a lot under inspiration,i think that comes under "Articles by Middlemen","Cheeniya's Senile rambling","short stories" etc.
My father is a story writer.He writes under pen name"Supriya Santhilal".He writes humourous and tear-bringing stories.So i know how the gist of stories are build.
Thank you kamla and vidhya for encouraging different views from readers.

hi;
This article though long, provoked me to read up to the end.
Well,iam the single and beloved daughter to my parents.All my friends say that because iam one daughter,iam lucky and will get anything that i ask from my parents.But i was brought up normally,teaching me right and wrong both!Though i get all reasonable things from my parents,my momma keeps on giving me kind advises that deals with how to adjust and live life, espescially when i get married and go away..She says life is full of adjustments!

I would like to mention that,it depends on the attitude of the child and the parent who is bringing up.I do agree that 60% of "one child" parents pamper them a lot and say whatever their kid is doing is correct,i mean they never want to hurt child's feelings which the kid uses as the advantage and get her things done.Its not necessary that, always the child who has siblings are goody in their attitude and behaviour.It all ultimately depends on the atmosphere and the values how she is brought up.