How Do You React To Your Children's Passing Out With Colors In Exams

How do you react to your child’s passing out their classes with success?

I remember when I had passed out of my pre university with a first class.
I was sleeping and in deep slumber when my mother woke me up said dad has arrived from his tour and before I could open my eyes she had stuffed the badam barfi in my mouth and I was shocked to open my eyes and touch reality…

The next day dad, called me come here ammu, I have something for you but I would give it to you only on one condition, and when I asked what was that, he said, turn around to your right, ok, I turned and then he said now turn around to your left again I turned around and he said no opening your eyes, until and unthen I ask you to, so with the closed eyes I kept anticipating what could be behind all this elaboration of my dad.

He took his time and made me stand for sometime with my eyes closed and then he said
Come on now you can open, and when I saw that there was a beautiful gold chain with a pendant that had a stone rocking inside in movement, and it was an amethyst stone.




the purplish and pink that dazzled with light, I stood there for a moment couldn’t say anything, because I am very reserved by nature with my dad, I couldn’t hug him, that is the way I was brought up, though I would had wanted to kiss him but it was in my mind, and then when he put it around my neck I just caught hold of his hand and kissed it.
That was a very courageous thing to do, as we were brought up in a very orthodox atmosphere..

I think that moment is one thing I would always cherish as one of my best moments in life, his appreciation and coming to terms that a girl can educate and exceed in marks and so many things as I was the first daughter I the clan and had to work double hard to show that we also have that in us, and I was the first one to get a first class being the eldest daughter and a grandchild in the house…

When priya passed her 7^th with a first class her dad got her a beautiful lady’s bike which she could go to school too, that too with a great surprise he never told me anything about it but got it for her with my cousin, all wrapped up in my mother’s place and slowly brought it out to show her….

So I want that you also share how u react and what you will want to give them…..sunkan

Dear Sundari
What can I say? You somehow manage to come up with these topics..
That picture of the pendant is soooo dazzling.. Is it the same one you got.. so very beautiful. You are so lucky too.
So far our kid always does well .. we dont usually have the habit of getting gifts.. But my husband did get him a nice ipod player to listen to music.. which he had wanted..
Now he has been asking for a computer..
After reading your thread maybe we should get him something?!
Thanks for writing and sharing..:)

Originally Posted by anandchitra

Dear Sundari
What can I say? You somehow manage to come up with these topics..
That picture of the pendant is soooo dazzling.. Is it the same one you got.. so very beautiful. You are so lucky too.
So far our kid always does well .. we dont usually have the habit of getting gifts.. But my husband did get him a nice ipod player to listen to music.. which he had wanted..
Now he has been asking for a computer..
After reading your thread maybe we should get him something?!
Thanks for writing and sharing..:)

dear AC,
this is a unique way to encourage them, though i was not aware but there are many among us who do encourage that the minute u pass out u will get a bike, or it is with your percentage of marks that u get so and so things, just to encourage them, my cousins son who shares a spastic brother has got 1260 out of 1300 and he is very upset that he lost 40 marks, and my sis sathya had promised him whatever be the mark that much money will be given and may be now she would follow that, that child is one great person among a family that has not excelled academically and he being one has thrilled the family, so when i saw this got reminded how and what all our parents did to encourage us in the educational field...as youngsters we are not serious about it, but when some one offers something then an extra pain is taken to prove..sunkan

My dear sunkan,
you can only think of such lively topics.I have two daughters.The elder one was a good student,would not participate in any curricular activities being a very shy girl.My second daughter was just the opposite,was a live wire.She finished her eleventh std and invited us both to her college prize giving day.We were surprised to see her collecting various prizes,for general proficiency,for standing first in her class etc.We were very happy.
Later she joined Jesus and Marys in Delhi,was a very active student used to win prizes ,also for singing she was and is a fabulous singer.We were happy.But I choked with emotion when her Principal Sister.Melba came to us(my husband and me)shook hands with us and said,"You should be proud of your daughter.She excels in studies and is also an active student participating in all curricular activities".That was an unforgettable moment for me.
My elder daughter a shy reserved girl has carved her own niche she is a fabulous house keeper,an excellent hostess and has won the hearts of her in laws,which is more than any award any one can give her.
As for me my friend,I was an average student,always miswed the second class by a few marks,but was a good speaker,used to participate in all literary activities,my mother was proud of me always,even if and when I just passed.
mithila kannan

Originally Posted by mithila kannan

My dear sunkan,
you can only think of such lively topics.I have two daughters.The elder one was a good student,would not participate in any curricular activities being a very shy girl.My second daughter was just the opposite,was a live wire.She finished her eleventh std and invited us both to her college prize giving day.We were surprised to see her collecting various prizes,for general proficiency,for standing first in her class etc.We were very happy.
Later she joined Jesus and Marys in Delhi,was a very active student used to win prizes ,also for singing she was and is a fabulous singer.We were happy.But I choked with emotion when her Principal Sister.Melba came to us(my husband and me)shook hands with us and said,"You should be proud of your daughter.She excels in studies and is also an active student participating in all curricular activities".That was an unforgettable moment for me.
My elder daughter a shy reserved girl has carved her own niche she is a fabulous house keeper,an excellent hostess and has won the hearts of her in laws,which is more than any award any one can give her.
As for me my friend,I was an average student,always miswed the second class by a few marks,but was a good speaker,used to participate in all literary activities,my mother was proud of me always,even if and when I just passed.
mithila kannan

dear mithila,
i dont think it is the academic but the bonding which leaves history in our mind, my mother forgot abt the chain and had taken it away during my wedding time telling me she has given so much, though i parted with it none could take away the memory in my mind of the scene it is not the things but the way we react to the children we help them to cherish a moment in mind, so that when they revert from the adult world filled with misery, these moments console them, and like history repeats we tend to do a little more for our kids because we have enjoyed those moments, any appreciation by the father or mother, leave a memory with no delete button there...i am happy at least you feel u r a good mother and what more do u want as a human we should excel more than anything in our life, tomorrow being mother's day i cheer u for that...sunkan

Aaaaah so nice

I was never given any rewards like that !

Santosh

I have 2 children.Both me and my husband have never pushed the children to study hard.We appreciate when ever they get good marks and encourage them to do better when they do badly.We make it a point never to compare them with other children.My husband believes in their all around.abilities rather than their acamedic achievements.We encourage them to enjoy whatever extra talents they have.

Originally Posted by kanaka Raghavan

I have 2 children.Both me and my husband have never pushed the children to study hard.We appreciate when ever they get good marks and encourage them to do better when they do badly.We make it a point never to compare them with other children.My husband believes in their all around.abilities rather than their acamedic achievements.We encourage them to enjoy whatever extra talents they have.

nice to know that kanaka,
these are precious moments we write history so it is nice to express..thanku sunkan

hi sunkan,

nice post....brought back memories of my mother being so proud of me..those days summer vacation we wud be busy playing in some house or the other in our bldg thruout the day..our results wud come by post..and one day mom had the result in hand and had to go all over the bldg and she found me and congratulated me and i remember being quite embarrassed in front of my friends....now i do the same with my daughter..give her a big hug and kiss not bothering to see who is around and she will say...ok mom..relax...real great moments in ones life...was touched by your mothers badam burfi and fathers gift and your reaction to it...

Mindi

Originally Posted by Mindian

hi sunkan,

nice post....brought back memories of my mother being so proud of me..those days summer vacation we wud be busy playing in some house or the other in our bldg thruout the day..our results wud come by post..and one day mom had the result in hand and had to go all over the bldg and she found me and congratulated me and i remember being quite embarrassed in front of my friends....now i do the same with my daughter..give her a big hug and kiss not bothering to see who is around and she will say...ok mom..relax...real great moments in ones life...was touched by your mothers badam burfi and fathers gift and your reaction to it...

Mindi

yes mindi,
each one of us should leave something for the children to browse in the brain, the father scene is so livid i loved him for his expressions but never valued those stuff anyday, but love in abundance is i always ache for, when parents show us the spirit vow nothing like it, like how i said i was lucky to have two parents and this chain is by my perippa who adopted me and my own father poor man was an accountant but used to put pep like i know you can do it and i would do the impossible with ease, we need people like that, i never used to study all through the year but exam time my sincereity is too involved and i would write mynotes then, hahaha yes and that was easy to enter into my grey cell and produce these first classes...sunkan