The Happy Couple

Originally Posted by lalitha shivaguru

Dear Shan,

A nice post bringing out the subtle love between the couple and the contrast of Radha's husband.

It is a pity that only women are allowed to suffer in society even if the fault is with the man. As if they are faultless.Honestly my blood boils seeing these kind of selfish males.

There are women who go on to say the problem lies with them though it is the other way round just to please the ego of the man and his family........Shame on them. It is high time, we women woke up from our deep slumber.

Sorry shan when topic lies this comes, i just cannot help myself......... but I also admire the love between the other couple. Two sides of the same coin. Very well brought out.

Hi LS,

I really wanted to share the two couples situations here just to bring out the contrast in the compassion and understanding shown by the husband and the lack of it in once case.

Yes cases like Radha’s husband, really makes your temper blow out of the roof. There are too many of them. My neighbours servant maid’s husband ran away leaving her without any roof or money, because he came to know that she will not conceive., the lady stood strong, she is working as maid in a few houses and living with her family who are supportive.

I really admire the other couple.

Originally Posted by Jaynat

Dear Shanvy,

Both instances shows two different perspectives in life.

One where we form relationships expecting so many things in return. In retrospect these relationships are superficial, if the expected benefits do not accrue then the relationship becomes meaningless.
On the other hand some relationships are formed based purely on the joy/happiness that a person derives from that particular union, be it family or friends. Here there are no expectations, no boundaries for sharing love and no criticisms. But only ACCEPTANCE. Acceptance that is so simple and pure. That is why some relationships survive even the toughest situations and some wither away at the slight sign of trouble.

Both aspects are nicely brought out in your post.Where is no complete acceptace then it is better for the relationship to wither so that new ones can blossom in its place. After all shavy " When God closes one door , he opens another".

With warm regards
Jay.

Jay,

Settled in Chennai?. Thanks for stepping in.

Yes. Acceptance, compassion, love and understanding are the key to a good marriage or relationship. When you have all the four and do not expect anything that is the success of a relationship and it will reap its benefits in abudance.

Completely agree with you on the one closed door, god leads to another open door.

Originally Posted by sathya

hello shanthi

welcome back
only y/day i asked my sis
about you
she said you were
HOLYDAYING
with hubby
hope you are having a nice time
the write up sure great
there are couples of both kinds...
what if the husband who is demanding
a divorce is having health probs?
educated illiterates eh?

sathya

Satya,

Thanks for asking after me. Nice to know people keep track of me. I am honored. Yes. Having a nice time whenever Veda can get some time. He is too busy with projects at the office.

I do agree with you on that there are couples of both kinds.

Originally Posted by ammvin

Shanvy,

A thought inspiring post. Though the happy couple is rare, radha's case is common. Infertility for that matter is more so common in men these days that the poor women are still being blamed for no children. Both man and woman should grow physically and mentally and there should be compassion for both the races only then will the world be a much better place to live.

Nice thread Shanvy
rgds
ammvin

Ammvin,

Thanks for stepping in. yes the happy couple are a few in number where the couple’s like Radha’s are large in number. I also wonder if there is any name coined to say about a childless man when I find one in almost all the languages.

I too wish for more compassion and love among people to make the world a better place to live in.

Originally Posted by Sriniketan

shanthi,
Welcome back...missed you and your posts a lot...

Happy couple is the one who understands the spouse's weakness or strength and look upon/at them as a humanbeing...
Hats off to those couples....
Sad to see some people, have not come out of the stone age....yet...

sriniketan

Sriniketan,

Thanks for missing me. Ofcourse my posts are just views nothing much to brag about.

Yes happy couple is a example to look up to. Oh come on Sriniketan, stone age families would not know divorce, and all…it all started only after we had societies, marriages, egos, status and all….

Glad to see you back...Missed your posts..especially in the thread, "lets learn a song daily"....

Your post is nice bringing the way of life... The Happy Couple are really inspiring..About Radha.. It is paining to see her plight.. but, it is good to divorce such a person who doesnt care for her.
Accepting our loved ones as they are is the best way to love them more..

Regards
Priya

Hi,
The happy couple u have told abt r really wonderful and they r an inspiration for everyone.

Hai shanthi welcome back,
u have missed a lot many poems here, i am sure you will catch up now, that you have access to the net.
this is a wonderful write up and the reality is one has to be lucky in love
and marriage even children so we cannot plan or do until someone
above is pally, so life goes on whether it is the radha and co or the other loving couple.
do i sound to much into reality may be that is what it is...happy blogging..sunkan

Shanthi, you have an acute observation to note such people around you and draw out some of the finer life lessons from them. Nice.

Of course, sad to read the first case. But like everyone would agree, such cases are not uncommon unfortunately. We hope that they do become a rarity but I think that day is far.

The second case is very nice to read. I have often thought this to not be very common either. I mean men taking such excellent care of a totally dependent wife. I could be wrong, but I have felt that in general the percentage of women doing this (taking care of their better half no matter what the situation) is more than men. Given this, the happy case is all the more delightful to read. Unconditional love and unwavering commitment is surely awe-inspiring. I have seen such an example from extremely close quarters. Except that the roles were reversed. The wife being the one to take care of a handicapped husband.

Both the cases you have mentioned emphasize on making us a better human. One citing what not to do and the other citing what to.

SS

Dear Shanvy,
That is a great post.I too have seen such a devoted couple when I was newly married and we were at Hubli.The wife was Hindu,husband Muslim their's was a love marriage.He was very good looking she was just like any other girl nothing particularly attractive till you spoke with her and listened to her voice.She sounded so sweet.She was also on wheel chair only,the same problem which you have mentioned about the couple you saw.I used to wonder,how such a good looking man in his forties may be remained attractive to his wife in this condition.Later I understood,love is a geat force.If love is their in one's life nothing else matters.
Yes,I do agree with you why should not a childless couple adopt a baby.Those who do not do so are missing out on heaven.
I can say this without batting an eyelid. my elder daughter who inspite of manty treatments could not conceive.Both husband and wife sat together discussed,next we got a call that they were adopting a baby girl and we should be present there.We went,the moment my grand daughter was handed over in my hands,my daughter said,I should take her,is and always will be the most wonderful moment in my life.This little bundle of mischief she is all of 3 years now has filled our life with joy.My daughter is enjoying motherhood in all its glory.
mithila kannan