Lament Of A Wife

Lament of a wife:
The points raised by a wife set me thinking how true it is,
I wish my husband has another wife, what?? Is all I could scream?
Yes, she said, though both marry with compatible age but both grow old the same way, so when he is tired and unable to get anything himself, how does he expect that I am fit enough to run around all his commands..

His coffee should be right he says, the color should be correct the heat should be right, the dosa in time has to come that is while he finishes his first dosa the second one must be ready and I have to time it that way, no piling then he would not eat..

The physical demands are too many and my troubles of menopause is not heard at all, what could be the problem is all he could say, the mental irritation that accompany the period which is more erratic than the weather,
The lower back pain, the not so good emotion, the depression and so many I could only cry like a little girl while he laughs away…

The self destructive attitude of no outings and films or for that matter even shopping for the grocery of the month, but they have the energy for a nice drink a nice movie and want to gossip with all his old friends in the park and come back for a hot meal, which has to be ready.

Oh! Come on give me a break, wish he had a second wife, younger and more energetic to take care of him….

How many of u agree to this…sunkan

Sunkan dear

your article is superb bravo....

take care

aaah............the GREAT husband would be very very happy
but what about the POOR old wife?
does she want to be alienated by herself

Dear Sunkan,
Your article is right on the money.
You have perfectly described the emotions of menopause, monthly periods of a middle-aged woman.
I am not on the other side of 30 yet but I still feel that my husband should have another wife; not always – but on those gloomy days.
I am sure all working women will agree with me on this. These women work all day and then get home to take care of the baby, cook dinner, pack lunch for the next day, etc, etc. But the husband comes home puts up his feet and waits for coffee/dinner!! Of course its not easy for the homemakers too. Married women never get a day off!
And we are called the weaker sex!!!
Women are surely hard-wired different than men – no wonder we can slide easily into more than one role for our hubbies – friend, wife, mother (yes when they fall sick – gosh do they become babies or what!!!). Not to mention the roles we take on for the rest of the family.

Hey wish I had a wife-type person waiting on me!! Now that would be superb!


Regards
Gayathri

According to me she sounds like one extraordinary, out of the world pathivratha. Sorry, I would like to treat everyone the same including me that is. Yes, sometimes I like to serve others anyone over and above I abiloity, beacause I love them and like to see them happy, not because I was ordered to do so. I can flex myself for love and affection, but not to mean parasites who try to live a life of blood-sucking leeches. That's how I visualise that man in the Sunkan's story. sorry if I sound too rude and heartless. I can help it. That's me.
MY MOTTO IS TREAT OTHERS LIKE HOW YOU TREAT YOURSELF. I don;t go bossing and hurting others so I think I have the right to expect the same.
regards
pia

Dear Sunkan,
Even I think along the lines like pia....
I just why the heck wife needs to do so much if the husband doesn't even care about her health. and how can she think to have second wife for that selfish person..is she nuts!
Tulasi

She should wish for a husband who is caring enough to understand her emotional and physical needs. That would be a smart lady. Wishing for a wife for her husband .... yeah right !!!

Originally Posted by pia123

According to me she sounds like one extraordinary, out of the world pathivratha. Sorry, I would like to treat everyone the same including me that is. Yes, sometimes I like to serve others anyone over and above I abiloity, beacause I love them and like to see them happy, not because I was ordered to do so. I can flex myself for love and affection, but not to mean parasites who try to live a life of blood-sucking leeches. That's how I visualise that man in the Sunkan's story. sorry if I sound too rude and heartless. I can help it. That's me.
MY MOTTO IS TREAT OTHERS LIKE HOW YOU TREAT YOURSELF. I don;t go bossing and hurting others so I think I have the right to expect the same.
regards
pia

dear pia,
here u are going away from the subject, lets not treat the man badly, u know after a certain age, men usually feel more youngish and to keep themselves approving they keep trying to please, u see no young girls are going to look at them, so the only wife is his and he expects more from her, which she is unable to anymore, like many of my articles men never grow and how long you think the woman is going to tolerate this, she is tired of doing things all the time, and especially the physical demand which she is unable to cope with her womb playing erratic in moods and pain, so it is during this time she longs for a wishful thinking if someone can take over and leave her alone, here it is wishful because she is unable to cope...regards sunkan

Originally Posted by Tulasi

Dear Sunkan,
Even I think along the lines like pia....
I just why the heck wife needs to do so much if the husband doesn't even care about her health. and how can she think to have second wife for that selfish person..is she nuts!
Tulasi

dear tulasi,
it is the physical inability that drives her to wish for something to give her space, and men are not in woman's shoes they don't understand, masakkanakka what is this u dont allow me near, then again why is the food bad for a week long when are u going to be able to do anything at all. these statement make her wish, that someone was there to keep him occupied while she took rest for sometime, may be years...sunkan

Originally Posted by Shanthi

She should wish for a husband who is caring enough to understand her emotional and physical needs. That would be a smart lady. Wishing for a wife for her husband .... yeah right !!!

dear shanthi,
age matters here, the inability sets in only with age, u see the god always has left a statement in every body's mind, MINE WONT BE SO,
i wont choose a guy like this, or i wont have a man like this and so on, only until u get into the marriage u come to know men are no different any where and by then it is too late to change anything.