Planned Life

Originally Posted by Tulasi

Yes TDU sir, I agree with you totally. Looks like all physicists are well planning people, my husband also one like you. I was more like you’re freind in the beginning but changed after seeing my husband..

Regarding kids also we planned a head. We wanted to have time for our self to settle in our jobs and financially and also mentally then had our first kid after 3.5 years after marrige..Then after 3 more years we had our second kid. We are very happy about our planning...I think planning is very Important in everybody's life

Tulasi

I am happy to know that your hubby also is a physicist. Yes, we physicists tend to plan as we can foresee to some extent since we know the laws of nature. Please convey my regards to him and best wishes to both of you for a happy planned life.

Regards,

TDU

Originally Posted by Vysan

Dear TDU,

Yes, I agree with you..... Planning is important for us to avoid unwanted tension in life.....

But in my life It is the Ulta... I dont know why...

Whenever I plan to leave the office early to go out with my family, it will either be market or hospital for my kids....I will pack and be ready to leave, my boss or un expected meeting will come in and invariably I will reach late home... It is not one time or two times I have lost count of it....

Similarly when I come from Chennai to Muscat, I will ask the taxi fellow to come minimum half an hour early before the time I want to start..... But invariable for some reason or the other he will come half hour late...

All my planning will go for a Six...

I fully agree man proposes and GOD Disposes..... In my life all throughout every activity has been designed in a pattern by somebody... I couldnt move this side or that side....

So, I left it to HIM.....All advices acceptabel....

Veda

Dear Vysan,

I think in your case Murphy's law is working overtime. Regarding Murphy's law please consult Cheeniya Sir.

Regards,

TDU

Originally Posted by kanaka Raghavan

Yes I too agree with you.Even we plan but some plans get jeopardized.It is all in God's good hands.If it is already willed that way it would happen come what may.There is nothing wrong in planning,leave the rest to God.

It is true what you have said. Planning will help to reduce the guilty feeling later on and we can be satisfied that we did our best and the rest was not in our hands.

Regards,

TDU

Originally Posted by raginiprakash

Dear TDU,

Agree with you, i've always believed in planning ahead & going about everyday life in a systematic manner rather than being haphazard when it comes to day to day routines/activities, travel, moving, get to-gethers, etc. This is what i imbibed from my parents.

So, i usually make check lists & never leave anything for the last minute.
But, my husband is just the opposite, he's not organised, never plans ahead, always laughs at the umpteen lists that i make & tells me that 'discipline is boring'!! But, till now, he's never succeeded in de-motivating me, so i still plan ahead & that makes life a lot easier for the both of us......though he would never accept that!!

On the other hand, i've also experienced that not everything in life can be planned, like having children like you mentioned, doesn't work for everybody as planned.....'Man proposes & God disposes'!!

Cheers!
Ragini.

I think you are a good combination. Sometimes planning meticulously may delay things and may lead to severe disappointments and at that time your hubby will not be perturbed as he has not planned. So, he can comfort you.

Regards,

TDU

Originally Posted by Abha

Hello TDU Sir

I competely agree with you on this aspect... I believe in planning and like you Ragini I too think and do things in systematic manner.

me and my husband are ealy risers... i'm too particular about being punctual, so if we have given time to someone we always reach on time... and i really dont like when people are not on time and make others wait.

recently we were on a holiday with a couple friend... and being on a tight schedule, we had to see a lot of places so me and my hubby planned the itinery while the other couple totally relied on us... and when everyday it was time to leave the hotel and go for sightseeing... we were always ready on time and we used to call them and they always say just 5 minutes... and those 5 minutes turned into 1/2 hour and soo and this was the most irritating thing... it actually spoiled the whole spirit of the holiday... i mean if you hve to sleep and relax go the mountains where there is nothing to see and just relax in your bed.... or just stay at home... a person should have some sort of discipline in the day to day life... being lousy nd lazy hasnt helped anybody.

I believe one should plan where necessary... like the situations described above... otherwise when it comes to some big things in life... i believe neither should a person speak too much and declare to others... that YEs i'm goin to do this... cos as you said rightly "man proposes and god disposes". you never know what time comes and what it makes you do. cos Hello !!! god is also there and he will do whatever is best for you


~Abha

Dear Abha,

Thanks for the response. It is nice to know that both of you believe in planning and I can understand your agony when you are so systematic others around you don't reciprocate that. As i said I believe in planning whereas my son who visited me the other day from New York is very cool and I was getting tense when we were to go out. Ultimately, I found that my planning all is a waste and what he decides only will happen. So, in that respect he is like God.

Regards,

TDU

Originally Posted by twinsmom

Hi TDU,
Though not 100% aplanner I am married to a person who believes 200% in planning... So all's well in my general life... As for personal.. Well....I have quite a backlog of FB's to acknowledge.... Does that answer your question?

Dear twinsmom,

Thanks for your response. It is great that both of you think alike.

Regards,

TDU

Originally Posted by mithili

planning is again one way of disvilpining urself....my hub does the planning and i carry the responsibility of making it come right as he hads planned...life goes smooth....but inspite of frictions we are able to carry life peacefully with two cute kids....again planning our friction times!

As you have rightly said, planning is kind of disciplining oneself. In Tamil we say 'Varumun kaapan'. Planning is the same. Planning will involve decisions and you have done the right thing of taking decisions by one and putting into action by the other person. It is a great team work. All the best.

Regards,

TDU

Originally Posted by rajmiarun

With two small kids around and one too a toddler, i have never acheived planning though I would love to.

Get ready, pack everything and just about the lock the door, the youngest one would have spoiled the diaper, clean him change it and dress him up again and again I will want to check whether I locked the back doors and close the cylinder. GRRR will be the sound from hubby dear who will be waiting near the auto, with daughter nagging him around.

But without us planning, we had our first daughter only after three years of marriage. My father is a person who always say plan ahead but you cross the bridge when you come to it. Dont plan in too advance for it is always God is the one who disposes even though you propose.

Dear rajmiarun,

I agree that it is difficult to plan with very small kids to take care of. But, if both of you plan together you will find it will give immense happiness. I have seen that God always does not dispose. if you propose taking him into confidence, he will surely show you the way. I did not plan to go around the world, work and live. But, I did propose that for all the pains and sufferings that I have undergone He should give me some peace and happiness and prayed to God and I firmly believe that it is He who is taking me around, making me work successfully.

Regards,

TDU

Originally Posted by Pushpavalli Srinivasan

Planning is a must even in day to day life. A working woman has to plan what to cook for the next day. So it is important to plan for the education and a girl child's marriage well ahead. Even the invitees and menus are to be planned for a party or marriage and checked and rechecked. We always used to plan everything well in advance. Of course, " man proposes and God disposes." But it doesn't mean that we should not plan.
Love,
Pushpavalli

Very well said, Pushapavalli Srinivasan. Realising the importance of planning in the national development Indian Government has Planning Commission and we have had ten five-year plans and all over the world including India already an exercise called Vision-2020 is going on to plan for the new millennium.

Regards,

TDU

Dear TDU,

Thanks to Tulasi and her nominating this post for FP, it brought be to this wonderful write up by you. How true, planning is very essential for life. Unfortunately, many of us are not good at it and I can see that my husband and me belong to that group. It is not that we don't want to plan, we do. But the way our lives seem to twist and turn, our plans seem to hold no good, like a badly made damn which lets the water through! Ofcourse, the fault is with the contructors! In the end, we do suffer because of that. Like you very rightly said..."Man proposes God disposes" . With time and age, we have wisened up to an extent and our plans are adaptable for such changes...but then...Oh but the unexpected...., who would ever know what life throws at you.......
Very thought provoking.

L, Kamla