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Originally Posted by tashidelek2002

Realdeal:
You don't know what you are talking about...you are trying to paint a picture about me that doesn't fit. In my family the women were trained NOT to take abuse and I have a very hard time reading accounts like meghaa's. My parents were very peaeful people who I can never remember physically hurting me and whom I can never remember ever even raising their voices. I presently live alone with my cat and have for years. Save your pity for someone else.

Tashidelek2002

You are right. It's better to spare that type of Hubby and MIL. You could have take legal action as well. In US it's not easy to abuse physically.

Cheers

Rita

I have to wonder why the sister is still at home at age 39. A spinster? If so, perhaps her angry and abusive nature was recognised already by outsiders.

Tina, I was wondering the exact same thing.

Also, I agree that domestic violence isn't always at the hand of men... women can be equally as violent. My dh's ex used to slap and claw at him... but my dh held back because he knew the double standard... everyone quietly accepts when a woman lashes out, but if a man raises his hands everyone is ready to cry fowl. That is what exactly is going on in the OP's story... because the sister is the abusive one, everyone is hesitating to call it for what it is... abuse!

Hi Meghaa,

You behaved like a naughty girl. Drink at night and not coming back home doesn't be acceptable to many families especially yours. You know it is not acceptable in your family. For me I didn't dare to do so even at 24. If I did that definitely I would get a severe caning at home even at your age. My daughter will never think about it. What your sister did you mentioned she did it with love, yes it is.

But I think you shouldn't punish like murga style or smacking on your bare bum. You just deserve a good caning on your buttock even you are 24. I think naughty girl like you can understand the language of cane. I would suggest your sister to cane you properly if you are out of tract. Sorry for my feed back but I believe on cane.

Love

Riya

Meghaa,
What happened to was not fair at all. Next time, dont let it happen. Push them off if anyone tries to hit you.

What is so naughty about going to the pub and having a few extra drinks? Come on she is a responsible independent woman and she knows her limits. Scolding her or warning her is the maximum her sister should have done if her behavior was not acceptable. But smacking is totally horrible.

And for those who beleive in caning!!! I really pity their kids. With people like this, things are never going to change. I am so disgusted.

Originally Posted by aparajithaa

hmmm
another version of rita's story
well i too faced all this
even much cruel expereince than this
and yeah even i am facing them still in this age
it may sound weird and like wonder for many but common for me

so what are doing now?
and dont you want to come out of this?
if you want to learn responsibility then love and affection can teach it too in a better way
need not be so cruel

cheers dear
please take care
and please dont enjoy that punishment and feel contented about it
it is bad and say worst

bye

Hi Appu,

I think it is not the same like Rita's case. Rita was very gentle and polite all through. Rita's mom were alone insecured she disciplined Rita in a harsh way. But I think Meghaa was a little bit naughty. Even she knew her family wouldn't allow this she was careless too. I think if Meghaa's mother is like Rita's mother even I would be Meghaa's mom Meghaa wouldn't dare to drink at night and wouldn't stay out side home. In that case I think Meghaa would dare about the cane.

Love

Riya

Originally Posted by ranjoose

Meghaa,
What happened to was not fair at all. Next time, dont let it happen. Push them off if anyone tries to hit you.

What is so naughty about going to the pub and having a few extra drinks? Come on she is a responsible independent woman and she knows her limits. Scolding her or warning her is the maximum her sister should have done if her behavior was not acceptable. But smacking is totally horrible.

And for those who beleive in caning!!! I really pity their kids. With people like this, things are never going to change. I am so disgusted.

Hi Ranjoose,

There are different structures in Indian families. If Meghaa's family permit her for drinking and stying night elswere no problem. But her family was not like that. While staying in a family structure one should respect values of that.

Many of our children get cane at home when they are naughty, misbehaving or when it is required not for the minor offenses. Cane has a good impact on their up bringing.

Love

Riya

@ megha : cool fantasy.

why your story doubtful

(1) you mentioned the notorious site netfundu, which was marked by google as "harm ful site".

u appear to promote that site which caters fantasies of boarders which are lavish and sadistic nature.

(2) u said your sister 15 year older than u, ok.

then she should be 39 year old.
is she still unmarried and stays with your family.

(3)everyone knows to hurt a person to fuller extent, is to slap on cheeks and not bottoms.

unless the the executor is lesbian or allied.

grow up man(i even doubt u are a lady).

golfer

I also doubt if this is true. It is just my instinct. There is no need for her to mention about the other site.

God only knows if this is true or not.

As many Ladies mentioned, it is a strict NO-NO when it comes to physical/verbal or any form of abuse.

Anabika

Dear Megha,

First i must commend u, for having the guts to come out withthe blog.

You are being frank, and honest, thatis something that is to be admired.

Well the punishment is harsh, never to be given to a grown up girl.Even i have two daughters, and whenever i am annoyed with them, i let things cool down, and then sit and talk with them cooly.

i guess the lesson u learn from this is

1) Dont go to the pub to drink, and get drunk too, which is worse.So if u come home and they smell alcholol, again a problem.In fact i am a little old fashioned in this matter, i feel ladies should avoid drinks, unless they somethimes have with their husbands, and i fhe likes it , then sometimes, not on a regular basis.

2) always inform yr parents in case u are not coming home, or tell the firend to call yr parents, so they will be rest assured.

3) never punish this way, it was cruel i would say.

All the best, and dont blame yr self too much , it happens to all of us once in a while, we do embarassing things too, u ar not alone.

jus that we need to learn from our past mistakes, and learn never to repeat them again.

Cheer up dear.

Regards

kamal

Hi Megha,

No doubt you were naughty for that day. But I don't support the way your sister spanked you, that was not the right way I think. But definitely you deserve punishment. If you would be my daughter I would cane you hard for keeping you in line. Please try to obey your mother.

Best

Neena