Agar ( If)

Agar ( If)

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While walking today morning, my friend was telling him of a buyer who cheated him of his payment, and the payment is substantial according to his standard.He was telling me “ Kamal , agar ek hoon maaf hota, main usko goli maar deta” ( If one murder was forgiven, I would shoot that b@@@@ dead )



This saying we have heard so many times in our lives.God knows who created it.This set me thinking on other matters similar to this one.



I have always wondered, If I was allowed one Affair, like the above saying, which relates to murder, now I just substitute the word with Affair.If I was allowed one affair, where by everybody accepted it, who would the girl be.And this would be accepted and forgiven by family friends and society, as this would be applicable to all.the males.But if u had a second affair, u would be shot dead in public, that would be the second part.There would be no lieniency in that case.


I used to be attracted to one lady walker, this is about 2 years back, she still comes.Married, Fair, damn attractive, I don’t even know her name, shame on me.I thought she would be the one, regarding the one choice that I may be given for the affair, within the next few months comes a better one, and my choice changed towards her.


And now the latest one I told u about in my last blog, the 32 year old I pod one.Now I have one shot at an affair, but the problem is if I use this one, and if later I find another better choice, then what would I do ? A great dilemma for sure, whether to use the chance, or wait for a better one to come by, and become old and Grey waiting and waiting.


Being choosy is also a problem.As it happened with someone I know, very choosy fellow.When he reached the approximate marriageable age of 27, which is common in our community, his parents started to show him the prospective brides.He was picking faults in each and every girl that came his way, she is plump on the hips,she is flat, she has got pimples, she is short , in short he gave a short thrift to the ladies.And he wanted the 21 to 22 range of girls.


Well time passed , and he reached his mid thirties, and now the girls started to reject him.He was still looking for the 21 22 age group, not realiszing that time has flown past, and he is not the 27 year old now.He balded, and hi paunch came about, he became older, but not wiser for sure.And now the age group of 28 to 33 started to come, the younger lot preferring the younger grooms in waiting.Frustrated, he finally tied the knot, but not happy with what he got.


The lady is damn good, courteous, too good for him, looks wise so so , and u wonder what he got by being so choosy, I am not blaming the woman, but if u tell any body that this is my choice after seeing and rejecting a 100 ladies, most men would tell him “ Man u sure have a lousy choice “.I am not berating the girl mind u, she is a gem, but after this much trouble he should have got an Aishwariya, shouldn’t he ?Not that he is a Abhishek either.


Harsha was the first one that my parents showed me, and I was not fussy, and that was that.But for Harsha I was the 3<SUP>rd</SUP> or the 4<SUP>th</SUP> .So in short she had a choice, I did not.But I have not regretted not seeing more girls, not even once.


But like they say “ A man however old he gets, will always be jumping around like a Monkey”, and that applies to me very well.I see a pretty girl and I go into the fantasy mode, rather the blog mode.Is she the one, for that once only affair ? And withing a few months, someone else comes in, and this game keeps going on and on,which made me realize, that a male cannot be satisfied really.


People of our age group, mostly had arranged marriages, and most have gone down well, and today’s generation prefers to choose their own partners, so the generation gap exists.

The olden days were good.If u wanted a fridge, the choice was limited to Godrej or Blue Star,Air Conditioner was Blue Star, or Voltas or a local made one, Cars was a choice between a /Fiat and an Ambassdor, and then later the Maruti, the 800 cc , or the Van.that was it.




Choosing a partner these days is like choosing a Mobile, or a Fridge, or a TV.There are so many models available, companies, their sizes, their price, and u go mad really to get the one that fits ur choice and pocket and the space u have available.And if u wait for the newer models to come, u may be left waiting all yr lifetime.somewhere u have to make the decision, knowing something better and cheaper will come along soon.But the point is u need it now.


And that is the case with choosing a partner.You wish someone better , prettier, or handsomer, as the case may be, will come along, who will adjust with yur parents, and yr pocket, and the longer u wait for a prettier one to come, u are getting older and worse,and who knows u may remain a bachelor or a spinster for all your life.


But how can I tell the youngsters of today, to follow my example, see the first and accept.These days the choice is wider, software guys, business class, engineers, IIM’s and what not.


Dicey situation for the unmarried, isn’t it.I don’t envy the younger generation,they do have a hard task at hand.



KAMAL MAHTANI

 

Dear Jaishree,

Thank u very much first for being the first to post a comment, and secondly for the lovelyu one.

This question has haunted me for a long time.And the endless possibilities too.

And i have kept this choice just for the males, but well if soceituy allows, that it could be for the ladies too, HAHA

I have a wierd mind really, and god knows what i think of all thje time.

and who better to bore than my I Lite sisters with my chitter chatter.

thanks once again and yr destiny was a super one.

Regards

kamal

 

Dear Kamla,

this is one blog that i thought will bring heartburn to the moderators, and what i find , is that u liked it ?

You cant allow me to get away with Murder, sorry affairs,HAHA

Seriously i have been having this on my mind since a long time, not to have an affair, but the thought that what if people were allowed just one, when would they choose to apply that option, or wait endlessl till they get old.the thought amuses me no end, and today i brought it in front of all of u, this nauighty one, thinking this will be edited or scrapped totally and i was ready for it, fready for the brickbats , and not garlands.HAHA

I will watch the video, and the one u described, beta sheis too young for u, is too good and hilarious.

Happens with so many people, i see around me, they get old, but want the same younger group as a partner.HAHA

Thank kamla u made my day.

Regards

kamal

 

Dear Anamika,

You would make a good Counseller, u know.You probe a lot.

Yes men would not be satisfied with that one affair, i know, rather i am sure about that.There will be many illegal affairs, to that one legal one.HAHA

Harsha tells me the same thing, about the Clouds that thunder do not rain, and the dog one too is good.HAHA.Well how do u know how honest i am in life ? Even i dont know the answer.

If Harsha werre to put a camera in my eye, and see therecording of theday later, she would be shocked u know.All she would find is the computer in front and the blogging whole day.Big Laugh

Well actyually i made Bhiku Mhatre the official Brother here, as i told him topost his First post, where the girls he loved made him his brother, and since then he is tagged as a brother here.

Regarding the poll, i really dont know if i am that popular here,as a brother or as a Big LaughBig LaughBig Laugh.Never bothered to find out.But thanks for lifting the old man's spirits.HAHA

So she wanted a boyfriend and not a new husband eh !You ladies can be more naughty than us men.I dont have much interaction with ladies, though i have many working in office, but Harsha is mostly around, so no chance here, rest are the garden walkers whom i just look at, andin winters they are all covered up u know, and next are the bloggers, where by i just get to see the screen and the words in front of me.

so my life is ver bland u see.HAHA

But God has been kind, and no regrets in life. i get a lot of respect, which is more than makes up for all these things, and i get a good night's sleep.

thanks for the lovely FB, this made myu day, and i must say, u ladies make me feel special.Thank u all so much, and u specially for taking time out and posting such a lovely FB.

Regards

kamal