I will do it MY way

Originally Posted by kaluputti

Dear anandchitra,
I read your post as soon as it was written ,enjoyed it and was just postponing to reply.You did it very well, reflecting all our sentiments, with your sense of humor.Yes, this reminds me of my olden days, but mostly my husband was away touring, so had to manage everything on my own.It was frustrating ..and unlike girls these times who are adept in making husbands share the housework..I was not.And there was a taboo too attached to men actively participating.I had decided to stay at home, since my mom had been a working woman, and I knew how I missed her.She was lost in a world of her own and with four of us at home , siblings, had our maternal gran'ma to take care of us.But I didn't realise the blunder, till I was loaded with all the cleaning organising,etc.,...etc.,etc.???????I can very well imagine the plight of a working woman!

Now I see my son is working from home, and with my DIL working outside, he does almost everything...except clean up.But he is the ultimate 'dishwasher' guy.He knows what is to come if he doesn't!

If it is bad with small kids around, it is worst with grownups too.It sure helps to turn a blind eye to these things....till you......EXPLODE!

Kalupatti
You have a great sense of humor and love what you write about the ultimate dishwasher guy!!! These days things have changed and more and more men share wit household work. That is certainly the norm. It also helps if fathers do this work so as to show children an example. My son does not like to do house hold chores but finished whats alloted to him very quickly!

Originally Posted by cheer

Although i didn't get time to read stories now a days but this one really attract me, hey chitra great one. You're 100% right, when u leave things to ur family hand it got all messy.

Cheer
Glad you liked it. And looks like we are allin same boat.

This is an old trick where we tell someone who is a compulsive cleaner and wants you to clean like her to just 'postpone' the cleaning ! 'What is the hurry?', we ask. We can also play this game with compulsive bed makers, compulsive shoppers (lets go shopping tomorow ! Whats the hurry?) or compulsive gifters( She wont mind if give the bday gift a couple of days late ! So relax !)

Santosh
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Dear Chitra,

I read your thread. Nothing is getting registered. But much overwhelmed by your AFFECTIONATE LOVING caption"My prayers are with kanaka'. My dearest chitra hats off to you. kanaka

Originally Posted by uncannybal

This is an old trick where we tell someone who is a compulsive cleaner and wants you to clean like her to just 'postpone' the cleaning ! 'What is the hurry?', we ask. We can also play this game with compulsive bed makers, compulsive shoppers (lets go shopping tomorow ! Whats the hurry?) or compulsive gifters( She wont mind if give the bday gift a couple of days late ! So relax !)

Santosh
mens tricks

Dear Santosh
sorry i missed this comment of yours;
You have definetly given a different perspective.. and Long Live that too.. since dh is your way.. and now me also joined thataway:)

Dear AC M'am,

It's okay that you have some how missed to reply my post ... Here you find my post to you M'am ... ...

Originally Posted by lahy15

Dear AC,

Nice write-up ...

For me, It is always better than worse ... Yes, If I give them one single job they give back added 0 .. yes 10 jobs ... I always prefer everything to be done by myself instead of depending on them which makes my nerves out ... My hubby cooks well that too Chinese and European ... he is best ... but the other part is whenever he starts cooking ... I never enter until he finishes else... I will go seeing my dirty kitchen platform, sink, kitchen dining ... The best part here is cooking European dish is very easy but the mess which takes time for me to clear ... that too during Grilling ... My God ...

Once in a week, wardrobe has to be cleaned as he messes that too ...

I can bear all these above except the one is .. Searching for things ... ... I have told to keep the Car keys, Purse, Cell in one main place... Everyday, I got to search for him ... the main joke is, it is his stuffs and he asks me 'Engey vacha nee adhey' ... which I wouldn't have seen at all ... ...

Originally Posted by lahy15

Dear AC,

Nice write-up ...

For me, It is always better than worse ... Yes, If I give them one single job they give back added 0 .. yes 10 jobs ... I always prefer everything to be done by myself instead of depending on them which makes my nerves out ... My hubby cooks well that too Chinese and European ... he is best ... but the other part is whenever he starts cooking ... I never enter until he finishes else... I will go seeing my dirty kitchen platform, sink, kitchen dining ... The best part here is cooking European dish is very easy but the mess which takes time for me to clear ... that too during Grilling ... My God ...

Once in a week, wardrobe has to be cleaned as he messes that too ...

I can bear all these above except the one is .. Searching for things ... ... I have told to keep the Car keys, Purse, Cell in one main place... Everyday, I got to search for him ... the main joke is, it is his stuffs and he asks me 'Engey vacha nee adhey' ... which I wouldn't have seen at all ... ...

My dear dear Suni
I am so glad you made sure I read it.. you are funny.. I can only imagine you stepping in after your dh cooks and look at the mess and you GOOOOOOOOO!...
Above all like you say he asks you where did you keep it????????????????
Looks like you have your hands full and tied with so many KIDS?
Hats off to you dear .. Now take a break and sip some cool tea! You deserve it more than all:)

Sure M'am ... I am going to have a hot now ... Thanks for your immediate reply M'am ...

Dear AC,

Many of us are in the same boat as yours. Your writing was well put :) My dh also does that. I learnt to be clumsy. But I have one room in the whole house that is exclusively mine and that is well maintained, so I can keep my sanity and carry on with my hobbies. Rest of the house is filled with papers, things thrown around, kitchen is stinky. Added to all these I'm pregnant. So I cant take any odor of any sort. I have let it be. Once a month there is cleaning service to rescue.
I would certainly try 'their way' for atleast 3 months, of course you will have to find ways to spend time outside the house more often though. Also whatever things you do around for them dont do it and say you will do it 'your way' including cooking and laundry. You eat out and do your laundry. Let them learn to do their part. They both eat out for a while and even enjoy it, but they will definitely come back around.

You will need a lot of patience during this time though. I had seen my friends suffer, didnt want to suffer like them for all myself, so learnt to be patient and it is paying off now. Atleast he does both our laundry and load and unload dishwasher. As I'm not cooking I dont care about stinky kitchen. When he is out of pots and pans and there is no more apce in the sink, he will load the dishwasher.

Best of luck!

Wow..AC..

Your narration was simply superb....

But, not your situation...Wasn't it?

If you would have left it THEIR way.... might be.... LATER never came...

Again, very nice read, AC....I love it....I visualised it....