I will do it MY way

Originally Posted by kaybee

HI,

Read your post. really funny. but i can relate to it very well. i'm a mom and a wife. if my husband and son had their way, the house would look like a pig sty and neighbours would begin to complain about bad smell. i think you should brace yourself and let them have it their way. just wash your clothes and dishes and let their dirty ones pile up. one day when your husband or son needs a particulat shirt or pant and don't find it anywhere...they will understand and value of doing things the right way.

but i have to admit that i have n't been able to practice what i preach!! but try it and show us women the way.

kanchana

Hi Kanchan,
Though your idea is a good one........but it still can't be applied to many of our DH. My husband will not mind to wear anything to go out which I will hardly adjust to....he is in research and none of his bosses are well dressed...they mostly wear capris/shorts to work....so DH will never mind that.......
And abt keeping dirty dishes in sink......in an appartment if something will stink, we both have to bear.....so its better that I charge to do his portion of work......that's why, I do dishes and ironing while he does laundry/dusting/vaccuum and major cleaning operations once in 3-4 months.
regards.

Dear Chithra

That was one hilarious piece..Cud'nt stop laughing for few mins..You know what it looked like you stole the words off my mouth. Arun is the same way too AC. My mom is used to keeping things very intact at home. Though i did'nt inherit all the good qualities from her, atleast this one i picked up partially from her. My son is just 4yrs and he is better than my DH. Arun does the same thing too..Potponing the cleaning to the extent that i will do it myself. Ok here is the argument we have almost everyday. I am used to transferring things to a smaller vessel after cooking or even after eating. Arun does'nt like this at all..he always tells me that leave the stuff in there and then after we finish dinner we can clean it all at one time. But this all at one time has never ever happened. Instead of doing the cleaning in parts, i get to do all the cleaning for hours.

I have also completely given up on this..I feel doing it myself is better than forcing someone to get things done. I would vote for you doing it yourself so atleast it gets done to your satisfaction..

Your narration was really so good..I enjoyed every bit.

regards
Vidya

AC,
Somehow I missed this post of yours. But I didnot go through the feedbacks of others.

Hey all men are just like that. No one can change them(ofcourse there are definitely few exceptions too). I have given up telling my husband to put the coffee tumblers in the sink or put the dirty clothes in the basket. But I am happy that kids dont team up with him and I am able to be strict with them. What ever they eat or drink the cups and the plates should go to the sink and so are the dresses if they remove to change into a different one. If it to be hanged, then put it in the hanger and hang them or if it is to be washed then into the basket near washing machine. And they do it definitely.

Originally Posted by Meeta

Hi Kanchan,
Though your idea is a good one........but it still can't be applied to many of our DH. My husband will not mind to wear anything to go out which I will hardly adjust to....he is in research and none of his bosses are well dressed...they mostly wear capris/shorts to work....so DH will never mind that.......
And abt keeping dirty dishes in sink......in an appartment if something will stink, we both have to bear.....so its better that I charge to do his portion of work......that's why, I do dishes and ironing while he does laundry/dusting/vaccuum and major cleaning operations once in 3-4 months.
regards.

Meeta you are one smart cookie my dear..

Originally Posted by Vidya Arun

Dear Chithra

That was one hilarious piece..Cud'nt stop laughing for few mins..You know what it looked like you stole the words off my mouth. Arun is the same way too AC. My mom is used to keeping things very intact at home. Though i did'nt inherit all the good qualities from her, atleast this one i picked up partially from her. My son is just 4yrs and he is better than my DH. Arun does the same thing too..Potponing the cleaning to the extent that i will do it myself. Ok here is the argument we have almost everyday. I am used to transferring things to a smaller vessel after cooking or even after eating. Arun does'nt like this at all..he always tells me that leave the stuff in there and then after we finish dinner we can clean it all at one time. But this all at one time has never ever happened. Instead of doing the cleaning in parts, i get to do all the cleaning for hours.

I have also completely given up on this..I feel doing it myself is better than forcing someone to get things done. I would vote for you doing it yourself so atleast it gets done to your satisfaction..

Your narration was really so good..I enjoyed every bit.

regards
Vidya

Dear Vidya
Postponing the cleaning!!!! thats a good one.. I can use it too!
I agree its better to do it ourselves so it gets done.. also if we start training young I am sure it would work better:)

Originally Posted by rajmiarun

AC,
Somehow I missed this post of yours. But I didnot go through the feedbacks of others.

Hey all men are just like that. No one can change them(ofcourse there are definitely few exceptions too). I have given up telling my husband to put the coffee tumblers in the sink or put the dirty clothes in the basket. But I am happy that kids dont team up with him and I am able to be strict with them. What ever they eat or drink the cups and the plates should go to the sink and so are the dresses if they remove to change into a different one. If it to be hanged, then put it in the hanger and hang them or if it is to be washed then into the basket near washing machine. And they do it definitely.

Kudos to you Rajmi.. you are proving what I always felt.. to start training from when one is young.. keep writing:)

AC Honeypie,

I wanna suggest, "Do it your way". You brought back memories of my life with my sister. I was the most organized and she was her "I will do it my way" types. Her clothes will scatter around till she feels to put them in the Washing Machine. There was a big argument on this issue religiously everyday. She had thanked God million times for my office timings as i would go at 7.30 in the morning and return at 9 p.m. The house was her and she enjoyed doing it her way. The weekends were tough on her as I would pull her up for the dust on the store cans, the slime on the gas stove, balconies ignored of broom and mop, the mouths of the spoons would shine whilst their handle would grime. So she started offering special prayers that I am not available at home on holidays too. Most of the time her prayer would be answered. I failed tutoring her to do things with panache. And its her dear DH's turn. People like us should do things our way. It is much better to avoid clashes. I like the way you described the hair on your head taking matter inside slowly. AC, you rock dearie and I mean it.

Dear anandchitra,
I read your post as soon as it was written ,enjoyed it and was just postponing to reply.You did it very well, reflecting all our sentiments, with your sense of humor.Yes, this reminds me of my olden days, but mostly my husband was away touring, so had to manage everything on my own.It was frustrating ..and unlike girls these times who are adept in making husbands share the housework..I was not.And there was a taboo too attached to men actively participating.I had decided to stay at home, since my mom had been a working woman, and I knew how I missed her.She was lost in a world of her own and with four of us at home , siblings, had our maternal gran'ma to take care of us.But I didn't realise the blunder, till I was loaded with all the cleaning organising,etc.,...etc.,etc.???????I can very well imagine the plight of a working woman!

Now I see my son is working from home, and with my DIL working outside, he does almost everything...except clean up.But he is the ultimate 'dishwasher' guy.He knows what is to come if he doesn't!

If it is bad with small kids around, it is worst with grownups too.It sure helps to turn a blind eye to these things....till you......EXPLODE!

Although i didn't get time to read stories now a days but this one really attract me, hey chitra great one. You're 100% right, when u leave things to ur family hand it got all messy.

Malspie
Glad you liked the narration.. I try.. Its still going on same.. By your description I am more like your sis and unlike you! It is always interesting to see family dynamics you know and see how we jostle each other and fall into place?!