I will do it MY way

Dear AC,

You described a scene in my household quite perfectly. My hubby insists on loading the dishwasher...but doesn't quite do it every day...lol...and since I hate seeing dirty dishes in the sink first thing in the morning...I am the one who ends up cleaning everything at night...

He does help in laundry (but sometimes forgets to take all the dirty clothes)...:rolleyes: cutting veggies (but will never make a complete dish from start to finish) :rolleyes:...I keep telling him that the best present he can give me is to cook dinner for me one day...and you should see his face then...

love,
Aarushi

Originally Posted by brindhak

Dear AC.. (Really your writings are so coool as AC )

What else I can Say....

Another great piece of writing.. Really it happens in most of the houses.... I have also experienced this with my Darling Hubby,... in lot of things.....

Thanx Dear for posting......

Brindha could use some of that cool air.. actually!

Originally Posted by lalitha shivaguru

Dear AC,

Same is the case here.......... book me also in the cruise hope it takes both of our weight dear, as I also fall into your category.

In your house it is 2 males vs 1 female but in my house it is 1 female v/s 2male and 2 little females My dds say if things are not put backin the proper place.... adhhu anga irundhal unnai enna saiyrdhu.......... so there I will go again.

Lallu dearie
Isnt that a cute line.. not that i am joining with them.. but still it sounds funny!.. Sure will save you space in the cruise.
On a serious note I have seeen many houses run more rigidly and like a tight ship.. Maybe if we start young. and I mean very young.. they might tow the ship our way. :)

Originally Posted by sunkan

of course AC with you,
i am also tired chitra of cleaning and supervising even the little devil indra has her way she listens only to my daughter chitra better and laughs mischievously when i am behind her, they should be taught now, as u can see your dh is a problem for you in organising home and your son is the future problem to some girl in organising their home, so please do emphasise this with your husband alone,
children always enact what the father does, but in my personal it has been the other way, he used to keep spick and span and the kiddos want to do it their way, but yes priya has taken after him, a perfectionist and would love others to be so..

you get names tooo u know 7 1/2 if you emphasise a lot not my children but others...sunkan

Sundari Dear
You are so original.. You got that right about getting names too:)

Originally Posted by Jananikrithsan

Dear AC,
So many of us sail with you. Here too like Lalitha has said it is DH, DD s vs me.
Iam always trying to cleanamd they are always messing it up. So now when they are glued to the TV I try and put thing in order. I think it is better done by us. It just sends my BP shooitng heavenward when I hear "Apparama pannina enna".

Janani dear friend
The number of times I have heard of your line.. Like I told Lallu we should start training them when they are very small.. Like you say instead of getting asking them to do its better to get things done ourselves. I have heard of some tricks in the Parents magazines that I have tried out..
1. Set the kitchen timer for 30 minutes and everyone rush and get work done during that time limit.. its quick, neat and gets jobs done.. more like a game
2. Give some extra benefit to finish chores
3. Write all the chores ina box and each one picks one at random and gets things done within the time limit again!

Let me know if you try any :)

Dear AC,

Reading your post i tried to imitate the great Shevaliar Shivaji (Ulla azhugiraen Veliya Sirikaren), Oh boy all men and kids are the same everywhere. In the beginning dayz of my married life even i thought of getting helping hands, but very soon i realized , itz better it drown in a sea than asking him to help me with the stuff. Me and my parents strictly adhere to the way of keeping that that things in that that place.But is the other extreme in my In-laws house. I was confident that i cannot change them, so i never intended to ask them help me out.

Dont Know whether u have heard about a very famous characterisation of the ace director K..Balachander. In one of his drama and movie he portrayed actor Major Sundarrajan as Major Chandrakanth. That character will go blind due to some reason. One day a thief will get into his house. And this man will easily trace it out and catch him. When the culplrit enquires how he managed to do it.The Major will tell him, since me being blind i alwayz keep my things in the same place, i count the steps from one destination to another.Today i realized few things were not in the appropriate place so i guessed someone has enterd the house.

I understand i'm boring you, the reason behind the narration is; my parents will keep on telling us the story and ask us to maintain the same order in house.

Originally Posted by corallux

At first AC I thought you had found a new mantra to live life.

I do things my way in my house. How? Hubby vacuums & washes the dishes. Rest, is my dept. NO ADMISSION WITHOUT PERMISSION

That works AC.

Regards,

Corallux

P.S. Love your description of your home scenes....They are simply hilarious

Lux sweet
You got it down pat... I think its also a mental frame of mind. More likely called Division of Labor!
Since you have not mentioned any little ones in your reply i am not sure of the situation. Because I feel many thing and arrangements can work out when kids are not there. Kids to add a lot to the mix because they demand so much more of you and your time and energy. Hence little setbacks to all detailed and carefully laid out plans..
Like the No admission policy.. that way you ensure no mess too! way to go aussie:)

Originally Posted by mithila kannan

My anandchitra,
I think both you and I are sailing in the same boat.This noon only after we three myself,mil and dh had lunch.I have to cook,keep everything on the table and go to their rooms and announce that lunch is ready.Otherwise mil who is awake and lying down on her bed shaking her feet pretending to be usleep wont come to the table.
Next.Agfter eating,I only have to clear the table,I only ahve to wipe. THhat is also ok,what I don't understand is my mil who was a house proud person in her days takes her plate to wash and pours down the rice coupled with other things in the sink.The rice prticles get coogged.I am in no mood to lean it right after lunch.Why can't she pour whatever remains in the plate into the dustbin which is kept at a convenient level?
I feel sad that family members don't treat each other with respect.The dil even if she is 62 still is a maid & cook.
love
mithila kannan

Dear most Mottu
am little saddened to hear this.. I dont why its so! Like you say these women before us have done all this but now when its our turn they do turn around too!
Though I have written in a humor way I have to say my family is more supportive.. Even my motherinlaw did the exact same thing you describe my fatherinlaw used to take matters into his hands and step in and set things right. In fact you he did more work in the kitchen than others. And during the latter part of his lifetime, he totally said nothing about all this oddities and just went about doing the work.
However the times we get more annoyed is when we get tired physically. Its not like we are in our early 20's ot so.. age is catching up and other sickness too. SO sometimes we just have enough time to do only the basic work.. and these small lack of courtesies do get us annoyed...

Dear AC
That was a very cute ,hilarious description about the "MY WAY" syndrome.
When one needs help desperately and there's no response from family members..patience goes for a toss.

I have an idea.. how about turning plates the "MY WAY" style and make them forgo their favourite TV show or fav menu for a day and announce.. "This is my way?"

Regards
Honeybee

Originally Posted by swarnalata.N.S.

Very Humourous. Enjoyed reading.
All that homely scenes, nice observations narrated so wonderfully. Well, looks like veettukku veedu vasalpadi ! We think only our home is like this, but nothing better in other places it seems !

Thank you Swarnalata dear.. for your kind words:)