How your kids call you at home ... ?

Dear IL Friends,

How your kids call you at home ... ?

Amma, Amey, Maa, ... (Indian Style) ... or...
Mummy, Mom, Mamma... (American & European Style) ...

Amma, Inge vaanga Maa (Amma, come here), ... When my kids call me in our own Mother Tongue ... I feel so proud and happy to hear it ... that too with respect ... 'Inge vaa' (come here - without respect) differs from 'Inge Vaanga' (come here - with respect) ...

I have seen in some of the Indian families here,kids now-a-days call their parents irrespectively ... Nee, Vaa, Poo (you, come, go - without respect) ... I don't know whether this has become fashion to be called so ... ...

What do you all think friends... ? Is it okay ... ? or I am taking it bad of thinking about a worthless topic ... Please don't mistake me if any of your kids call you in American Style ... that depends on each person likes and dislikes ...

Please share about how you liked to be called and how your kids call you (in respect or without respect) ... ? ...

Addressing in one's own mother tongue makes us feel more close. Why say"mummy'' when Indian languages have rich vocabulary and we are able to define relationswell. For us mother's brother is Mama, Father's elder brother is Periappa younger brother is Chittappa. Mother's sister is Chitthi. Father's sister is Atthai. It is not Uncle and Aunt. Ofcourse in different languages the terminology may cahnge. Yet we have specific way of adddressing all. kanaka

i am still waiting to hear the golden word 'amma' from my 20 month old!!!he's not started talking yet.:?

Both of my kids use to call us"Amma" and "Appa".That way we taught them in the beginning itself.But I never ever heard these words from any of our friend's kids here in US.They are calling parents as mommy and Daddy.Parents also happy and not teaching them the words in their mother tongue.But I wonder most of the kids are addressing their grand parents in their mother tongue. hmm.....

hi,
My baby is 6 months old. we speak to her in our mother tongue. But wherever we take her i.e. story time, nurses, doctors all speak to her in english. I wanted to speak to her in mother tongue because thats what she heard all 9 months inside. But one nurse told me that people talking in different languages to the baby will confuse the baby and asked us to speak in english as it is the one needed for her if she goes to playschool etc., Otherwise it takes longer time for her to speak... I am confused.

Can anyone help me out.. i want to know from the parents whose kids are attending school now...

Dolly

hi all,

I dont have a kid. Still would like to post a reply for this. As Mrs.Suni pointed out most of us love to be called by their mother tongue. Either they call in english or in their mother tongue i would love them to hold their manners. I cannot tolerate a kid calling vaa, po. i used to always complain to my husband and mom if i see some kids calling like that and parents staying cool.

In foreign countries no one encourages to call their relatives or colleagues with some relationship, instead they prefer to be called by names. After coming here, even we call our colleagues by name though he is superior to us. It is their culture and it is not wrong in that environment. Still in few indian companies, our Project managers expecta a respect for them, like standing up or wishing them and so on. Sorry i think i am deviating. OK coming back to family; In family i suppose we should cherish our culture, teach our kids to respect elders and follow the same.

In my home my granny never used to call anyone as Vaa, Po, Poda, Vaada or atleast infront of kids.We were not allowed to call our servant maid or drivers by name, we used to call them like "Lakshmi akka", "manickam anna" and so in.

I feel that to be a healthy habit.

I am called Amma most of the time.. dh is called Appa:) son calls all other relatives like he has to .. athai (buva) athimbar etc.. mama , mami..

Dear Suni,

Both my sons call us "Amma" and "Appa" . No "daddy" or "mommy". They call others as Paati, thatha etc. In fact, my younger son called my elder son as "Anna" and not by name.:)

But I've seen even in India...kids do call their parents as Daddy and Mommy..so it is not only in US !!

It is upto the parents to tell the kids how they want to be addressed.

When we talk and address each other in our mother tongue..there is more bonding. That's my opinion.

Cheers
Krithika

This topic just touches my raw nerve buddy! What’s wrong in your kids calling you ‘Mommy’? I call my parents ‘Mommy and Daddy’ and I love when my daughter calls me ‘Mommy’ and her dad ‘Daddy’. Those are the most precious words to me. ‘Amma’ doesn’t feel that close to me as ‘Mommy’, since I call the person who loves me selflessly and endlessly ‘Mommy and not ‘Amma’ (It was my mom’s and dad’s choice of how they should be called in the first place obviously, that is the reason why they taught me and my sisters those words). Though my DH calls his parents ‘Amma and Appa’, he still prefers his daughter calling him ‘daddy’ since he was bowled over by the relationship between my dad and me. He feels that a father-daughter relationship should be like ours.

As far as respect goes, in spite of all the respect and adoration for my parents, I still call them..”mommy..nuvvu.., daddy ..nuvvu..” I never called them ‘meeru’ expect when mentioning them to others and talking about them with others. Again it is all a personal choice. I don’t want my little one to give me so much respect in words. All I wish for is that she would have respect and love for both of us (me and my DH) in her heart. When I want to be her best friend when she grows up, taking out all the formalities is a small step in that process.

HI

really a very gd topic 2 discuss esp for young mothers.

well ,i do address my mother as amma n mamma as well.n wuld address my father as appa or pappa.
now my daughter 2 calls me amma,mamma or mummy n 2 my hubby she address as pappa or daddy.

whn she was at home v had thought her mamma n pappa but as she started her daycare she had her influence of friends n it obviously changed her mamma n pappa to all this.

i strongly believe tht there is no harm in addressing the parents either in indian or american or even european style as long as it is with respect ,love n the comfortability of both the parent n the child as well.

bye
raji