Does that hurt you?

On several occasions some meaningful threads are ignored. To be more precise the FB's which are instrumental in carrying the discussion in a healthy, and constructive manner is lacking. One may not like to agree with the stand of the thread starter- Then it makes the reading more pleasant for the person gets to learn or see the issue from various angles.

I personally don't wait for feedbacks. But sincere fB's do make me happy and motivates me to write further. There are occasions I wanted to carry on with discussions which would enlighten or broaden my vision. Though I do feel frustrated I will not stop writing.

Let us be frank and bold enough to express our views. Do you all feel the same way? Have you all felt dejected atleast sometime though not always, when we members fail to respond to your valuable threads. Hope you will all like to express your opinion freely on this issue. Lovingly- kanaka

Yes yes and yes. It feels so depressing if we write something and nobody is saying anything. I just joined here one month ago and wrote two or three posts. For first two posts no letters ! I even thought only longtime members will get letters because that name everybody knows .

But it is ok, there are so many people writing so many articles, i too dont read and reply for all so how to expect other people to come and reply me ! I think we must just keep writing for pleasure and not expect anything then no disapointment, no ? (Hehehe ! Thats easy to say, but a little difficult to follow , no ?)

hi kanaka,
even i too sometimes used to think that some meaningful threads will have few responses or if a person responses to a topic,a controversial statement arises in a sense to indicate that the response the particular person has given, is wrong. i don't know why ? probably the tone in the message would have conveyed in different manner than the person's real thought process..i observed this sometimes..iam not telling about my threads but most of the threads sometimes,the response is misunderstood..once i wrote,a response,like we used to have hot water comes in USA,whereas we don't have that in india..somebody misunderstoods that and thought iam underestimating india..i have not even thought like that..i wrote it in a sense that the hot water comes here directly from tap ..that's it...infact,people are missing so many valuable things in USA,which are in india..i miss india very much...And after that i was careful in writing responses..it sometimes changes the meaning when we try to express some other thing..the fault is not on anyone but the tone in the message speaks..
thanks

Kanaka, I agree that people should write their feed backs, no matter what their opinion is. It definitely encourages the thread starter to think differently and choose a proper answer or solution that suits him/her.

Let me tell you how I approach different threads (this is totally based on my personality, my experiences and my views. People with different personalities, circumstances, experiences, interests, views etc respond and choose to answer differently).

Normally for threads related to things in my life, experiences and general, I would respond as soon as I read them and when I get time.

There will be threads, I really feel passionate about or feel like I have a strong opinion about - I take time (actually postpone them to take time and right; and sadly in that process, I missed responding to some very best threads I wanted to respond to - even after writing them half way through! I wish I had 48 hrs in a day instead of 24!!)

And there are threads, I cannot relate to absolutely and I just won't read them or even if I read them, I won't click the reply button. I'd rather spend this time on something I am interested in.

So..you hopefully got my point. But it is true, I have to agree with you, that it feels very discouraged NOT to get any responses to our thread. Now that I am writing you, I may go over some more threads I didn't concentrate before and reply them.

Dear rya,

I understand your side of arguement. Unfortunately certain things when spoken face to face is understood better. Indians by nature are very emotional and lack sense of humour compared to other nationalities. This is not to undermine a nation as such. There was a posting by Kamal in which he mentioned about the temple officials being barred from using under garments.become It created flutter among few of us. But hardly we thought about the mean mentality of people who rob the money from the box near the sanctum sanctorum. (Let me tell you like others I too didn't like the latter part of the thread). Thanks for the FB and continue with the discussion. kanaka

Dear Kanaka,

A thread with a valid point. I guess its but obvious that one does tends to feel bad when ones writing is not recieving FB's. I agree that you write for your satisfaction, but FB is a sign of acceptability and its only natural that we love to be accepted in the environment that we are in,as in here IL.

I try to do justice as much as possible but with the number of threads pouring in IL,it becomes a little difficult to post to all .Sometimes we plan to post a detailed FB but either the time never permits or it just slips my mind.

Kanaka i like your posts and guess i do post FB's here. Also as Venus says sometimes we cannot relate to certain posts , maybe because we havent experienced it or are not comfortable writing about it. No personal grouses here! Just a matter of being comfortable and having the knowledge for the input.

Yes but I must add that we have very good writers here infact we have only good writers here , some veteran ,some amateur but good in their own way and I think FB's will help the amateurs hone their talent and boost their morale.

Love,
Devika

Dear Swarna,

Yes. I have written this post because many of us feel bad to say it openly meanwhile we fel ignored. Thanks . kanaka

Kanaka
This is a definetly worthy topic of discussion.. I hope many join here and write what you are asking about.. Many people dont reply even when they view.. as a result some threads have many views but very few replies. I personally think its rude not to reply and just view so I always reply if i do read. I usually can only visit certain forums due to time constraint. Its very important to get good replies and comments and feedbacks. Sometimes we also need to step back and review our work and find ways to improve so as to produce better quality writings. Keep writing Kanaka.. you choose good topics and your work is very good too!

Dearest Chitra,

I deliberately started this thread because this has been eating the brains of many. I admire you always. But I feel we have a moral responsibility towards the newcomers. Shouldn't we make them feel comfortable here? Initially I had the impression of Swarna(only senior member will get Fb). But My age prevents me from grumbling and forever it's my nature to express what I feel . Also try my level best to say things with some modesty. Thanks. kanaka

Devika,

Fb are a kind of recognition and the respect we show to the person who has penned down something. None of us may discuss serious topics or write any scholarly articles, for our basic intention is just coming together and try to exchange few ideas and also speak things in a lighter vein. I myself will not be in a position to continue with some intellectual discussion. YES, it
MOTIVATES. Also all of us will feel wanted specially the newcomers. Continue expressing your views. kanaka