Love Vs Horoscopes (Horrorscopes) !!

Keerthi was eating her breakfast in a hurry..... Amma is my lunch box ready get it soon... it s getting late for the bus.... Come fast amma .........she shouted from her room....Her mother came and was about to say something..She took the lunch box from her kissed her and waved her hand to her Dad who was reading the Newspaper in the living room ......and walked very fastly towards the bus stop....

Keerthi 's mother and father....was staring at the way Keerthi went for a while.....

Oh God when will you answer my prayers....this year atleast my girl should get a good life partner ..You know she is such a kind girl ,loved by all, very genorous.......She is already 28 ...her voice broke down and started weeping.....

Lakshmi.. you know very well that she has Chevaai Dosham...her marriage is being postponed because of this....Even I told the marriage brokers that we are ready to accept any guy from any caste..but with Chevaai Dosham... Im very strict about the horoscope I will not compromise in that .....So dont keep on saying the same thing daily..... Go Go and get a coffee for me.. Lakmi amma sighed and left the place .....

Keerthi returned from office that evening..and got refreshed and sat with her Laptop in her room sipping her coffee.....

At that time she saw somebody opening the gate..... She called her Mom and informed.. Her mother went to the Door.... A handsome guy dressed neatly was at the door... He said that he wants to see her husband.....She invited him inside and made him seated...

Keerthi's father interrogated him...He said .."Im Suresh .... Im working as manager.... I got this address from one of the brokers... I have Chevaai Dosham.... You take your own time to know about me.... My parents passed away two years back.... and I can furnish any other details you want sir.... He was very straight forward... Keerth's father was impressed in the first meeting itself.. He departed with a magnetic smile........

After few weeks Keerthi's father was satisfied with all the details regarding Suresh.. and the mariage took place very Grandly..

After few days of marriage Keerthi was so happy and she was excitedly talking to Suresh that She is very gifted to marry him...that too...with lots of horoscope matches between them ...and her father so much satisfied with this proposal....

Suresh with a silent smile was looking at her .. but his HEART was speaking ......

At the moment I saw You in temple I liked you a lot.. I collected all the details from one of my friend working in your office... Im sorry dear.. I had to spent 1000 bucks to design the Chevaai Dosham horoscope to satisfy my Darling FIL....

Its really a pity act to keep on postponing marriages and spoiling their own children's life in the name of Horocopes ...

How will these papers decide our marriage....???? Dont worry dear... We 'll Live for more than 100 years because I have strong faith in my LOVE than the Horoscope......

Surely I will Disclose this to you one day.. very soon.... I will not hide anything from you..and I WILL not ....Because I LOVE YOU......

Keerthi without knowing all these..was in her own dream.........


HOROSCOPES... To beleive or not is up to You.... But Horoscopes should not turn into Horrorscopes.......

Dear Brinda,

In my family, we don’t make the horoscope of the girls at all.When the nurse comes to tell us the time, we tell her not to tell us.

As it is it is difficult to find a good match, and then the HC spoils everything.
I want to ask the Ilites just 2 questions
1) The marriage that end in divorce, arranged or love, did not their horoscope match , and all the religious ceremonies performed ? then whey the divorce ?
2) Nargis Sunil Dutt- where was the hororscope? She a Muslim, He a Hindu,She 10 years older to him, had an affair with RK, was the daughter of Jaddanbai, with a different past.This is the marriage that should have failed, but went on till the end.

I just don’t believe in HC, the pandits and the ceremonies.It depends on the adjustments between the partners.

I may be wrong, but this is what I feel.

Regards.
kamal

Originally Posted by Kamalji

Dear Brinda,

In my family, we don’t make the horoscope of the girls at all.When the nurse comes to tell us the time, we tell her not to tell us.

As it is it is difficult to find a good match, and then the HC spoils everything.
I want to ask the Ilites just 2 questions
1) The marriage that end in divorce, arranged or love, did not their horoscope match , and all the religious ceremonies performed ? then whey the divorce ?
2) Nargis Sunil Dutt- where was the hororscope? She a Muslim, He a Hindu,She 10 years older to him, had an affair with RK, was the daughter of Jaddanbai, with a different past.This is the marriage that should have failed, but went on till the end.

I just don’t believe in HC, the pandits and the ceremonies.It depends on the adjustments between the partners.

I may be wrong, but this is what I feel.

Regards.
kamal

Dear kamal jiii
Im happy to see you here... Thankyou for such a speedy reply....
I wrote this post keeping similar questions in my mind you have asked here Jiii.... Im happy about the Synchronisation......

Only Mutual Understanding is necessary for a sucessful marraige nothing other than that .. Am I right Kamlajiii.. ? :)

Thankyou Very much....

Dear Brindha,

A controversial topic !

Believing in Horoscopes or not is a personal and family matter. It has been ingrained in many families for so many years that it would have become habitual/mandatory for them.

That said, even marriages fixed with all the "10 poruthams" fail and end in divorce. And on the other hand, marriages without horoscope matching have been strong till the very end. But people also vouch for the exact opposite incidents !

Personally, if there is "Mana Porutham" , (Minds & Hearts are in unison), then there should be no problem. Of course, I don't want to hurt the sentiments of people who believe in it also.

You are right, in the name of Horoscopes, the life of the bride and the groom should not be made a living hell and nor should they be denied their share of happiness.

A thread for analysis !! :)

Cheers
Krithika

Dear Brindha mam,

Thanq once again for this cutie pie, Really its a twist that suresh has given value more than Love,U brought me smile on my lips.I hope everyone should think in the manner that HOROSCOPE matching is not imp..(may be some extent) but the compatibility,love,trust and character should be given priority.If this has done we can see the decline in divorceeeeeeesssss.....

Waiting for more...

Hugs,
dg.

Originally Posted by brindhak

Dear kamal jiii
Im happy to see you here... Thankyou for such a speedy reply....
I wrote this post keeping similar questions in my mind you have asked here Jiii.... Im happy about the Synchronisation......

Only Mutual Understanding is necessary for a sucessful marraige nothing other than that .. Am I right Kamlajiii.. ? :)

Thankyou Very much....

Dear Brinda,

Yes mutual understanding is necessary really.Look at my case which i have stated so many times, not that it is great or something, but something practical.

Harsha and me are poles apart.She is veg, religious, diet consious, and me a boozer, gambler, ciggies , non veg, nauhty things i like.We cant go to the same restaurant even today, as she does jhig jhig, they must be using the same spoons etc.

But we adjust to each other,and have got used to each other's habits, without creating a song about it.Its all about adjustments.

I have seen couples where one tries to dominate the other, very sad.Why not let the partner flower, and meet his parents or her parents and the past friends,, without feeling jelous ? Thats sad, and i see it happening all around.No wonder marriages are failing these days, bcs we want to dominate the partner to our liking, and keeping a tab on where or she goes.

Regards.kamal

Dear Kamalji

In marriages it’s not just abt dominating but its give and take……….its about adjusting for the happiness of your partner….if the wife feels that husband should not smoke (smoking being injurious to health) nothing wrong in at least attempting to leave that habit……….so it is domination only when u think like that……..its all how u take it…….if ur mind decides its domination………if ur heart decides its care, love, affection etc.....Correct

Dear Kamalji

In marriages it’s not just abt dominating but its give and take……….its about adjusting for the happiness of your partner….if the wife feels that husband should not smoke (smoking being injurious to health) nothing wrong in at least attempting to leave that habit……….so it is domination only when u think like that……..its all how u take it…….if ur mind decides its domination………if ur heart decides its care, love, affection etc.....Correct me if I am wrong........

Originally Posted by AGR

Dear Kamalji

In marriages it’s not just abt dominating but its give and take……….its about adjusting for the happiness of your partner….if the wife feels that husband should not smoke (smoking being injurious to health) nothing wrong in at least attempting to leave that habit……….so it is domination only when u think like that……..its all how u take it…….if ur mind decides its domination………if ur heart decides its care, love, affection etc.....Correct me if I am wrong........

Dear AGR,

You are absolutely correct.What i mean by domination is, dont talk to yr previous friends befoe marriage, like u are a control freak, and want to change the partner to yr likes and dislikes, thats what i meant.

Regards.kamal

Well said Kamalji
Sorry Brindha for replying on this.........
Yes understanding is very very important between partner, and in instead of dominating them be like friends, keep space between both, know each other, and most important respect each others way of living.
In case we try to make them like the way we want them all tension, stress and frustruction will start between partners. These lead to fights, divorce and all.
So just be practical...........

Originally Posted by Kamalji

Dear Brinda,

Yes mutual understanding is necessary really.Look at my case which i have stated so many times, not that it is great or something, but something practical.

Harsha and me are poles apart.She is veg, religious, diet consious, and me a boozer, gambler, ciggies , non veg, nauhty things i like.We cant go to the same restaurant even today, as she does jhig jhig, they must be using the same spoons etc.

But we adjust to each other,and have got used to each other's habits, without creating a song about it.Its all about adjustments.

I have seen couples where one tries to dominate the other, very sad.Why not let the partner flower, and meet his parents or her parents and the past friends,, without feeling jelous ? Thats sad, and i see it happening all around.No wonder marriages are failing these days, bcs we want to dominate the partner to our liking, and keeping a tab on where or she goes.

Regards.kamal