Love Vs Horoscopes (Horrorscopes) !!

Hi Brinda,

We had already discussed in one of your threads on fixing a date for the c section. Even the doctor cannot tell for sure the exact birth time of a child. At least seconds might vary. So the horoscopes predicted for that particular time cannot be cent percent correct. Can believe in horoscopes to a certain extent and not fully depend on it. Best is Mana Porutham.

Dear Brindha
Nice topic...........and a nice story with some message into it..............
More then Horoscope, rituals and all love between the partner is more important.
Where there is love without expectation that marriage is sure to succeed.............
Understanding, faithfulness, trust etc........are some of the terms which we should not cross our limits.

Brinda,
A very nice one with a twist at the end revealing that for love...what else one can do...
It is alright...but if Keerthi's father enquired about Suresh and his family, couldn't he find out the Suresh has 'made' his own horoscope...this is only a doubt...

In love and arranged marriages, understanding and love is important...other things don't matter...
We look into horoscopes only for our own referance...but what is going to happen is already written...
Because of this one's life should not be affected...

sriniketan

Originally Posted by Jithiks

Dear Brindha,

A controversial topic !

Believing in Horoscopes or not is a personal and family matter. It has been ingrained in many families for so many years that it would have become habitual/mandatory for them.

That said, even marriages fixed with all the "10 poruthams" fail and end in divorce. And on the other hand, marriages without horoscope matching have been strong till the very end. But people also vouch for the exact opposite incidents !

Personally, if there is "Mana Porutham" , (Minds & Hearts are in unison), then there should be no problem. Of course, I don't want to hurt the sentiments of people who believe in it also.

You are right, in the name of Horoscopes, the life of the bride and the groom should not be made a living hell and nor should they be denied their share of happiness.

A thread for analysis !! :)

Cheers
Krithika

Dear kirthika....
Nice to see you hear again dear......Ya i have seen many people go on postponing the marriages.. of their children due to this horoscope matchings ...... One of my college friend..is in still in search of her partner due to this reason.....None other than that..She is very beautiful,working, and very nice girl....She is the only girl yet to be married in our batch.. we other friends have one or two children now...

And also as you have mentioned even 10 poruthammarriage lead to divorcee .......

So these were the lines behind this write up dear.....

ThanQ very much for you Nice response As usual Kiru.....

Originally Posted by dream.girl

Dear Brindha mam,

Thanq once again for this cutie pie, Really its a twist that suresh has given value more than Love,U brought me smile on my lips.I hope everyone should think in the manner that HOROSCOPE matching is not imp..(may be some extent) but the compatibility,love,trust and character should be given priority.If this has done we can see the decline in divorceeeeeeesssss.....

Waiting for more...

Hugs,
dg.

Dear DG... Call me Brindha no formalites please......

Im glad you like the post.... And also im happy that i brought smile in your lips :)

Thankyou for reading and writing a nice feedback dreamgirl........

Originally Posted by Kamalji

Dear Brinda,

Yes mutual understanding is necessary really.Look at my case which i have stated so many times, not that it is great or something, but something practical.

Harsha and me are poles apart.She is veg, religious, diet consious, and me a boozer, gambler, ciggies , non veg, nauhty things i like.We cant go to the same restaurant even today, as she does jhig jhig, they must be using the same spoons etc.

But we adjust to each other,and have got used to each other's habits, without creating a song about it.Its all about adjustments.

I have seen couples where one tries to dominate the other, very sad.Why not let the partner flower, and meet his parents or her parents and the past friends,, without feeling jelous ? Thats sad, and i see it happening all around.No wonder marriages are failing these days, bcs we want to dominate the partner to our liking, and keeping a tab on where or she goes.

Regards.kamal

Very nicely Quoted Kamljii.....

Its all adjustments Very true..... Thanx for sharing these with us....

Originally Posted by Arunarc

Well said Kamalji
Sorry Brindha for replying on this.........
Yes understanding is very very important between partner, and in instead of dominating them be like friends, keep space between both, know each other, and most important respect each others way of living.
In case we try to make them like the way we want them all tension, stress and frustruction will start between partners. These lead to fights, divorce and all.
So just be practical...........

Dear EQ..
Please dont say sorry ya... this is a place for discussion.. so go ahead dear.....

Dear Brindha,

I definetely agree with you that Horoscopes have become Horroscopes. But these traditions have come here from a long time and it is very diffcult to change them. I do agree that they love each other, then what is the problem? There are instances, the marriages fail inspite of perfect matching........

It needs lot of courage and determination and the big question will be "Who will bell the cat"?

Originally Posted by sharadha

Hi Brinda,

We had already discussed in one of your threads on fixing a date for the c section. Even the doctor cannot tell for sure the exact birth time of a child. At least seconds might vary. So the horoscopes predicted for that particular time cannot be cent percent correct. Can believe in horoscopes to a certain extent and not fully depend on it. Best is Mana Porutham.

Dear Sharada....

Ya I do remember dear Adulterated Astrology...I thought of bringing these horoscopes in to scene where they sometimes influence our life very much also act as a barrier to many good things...

Thanx dear....

Originally Posted by Arunarc

Dear Brindha
Nice topic...........and a nice story with some message into it..............
More then Horoscope, rituals and all love between the partner is more important.
Where there is love without expectation that marriage is sure to succeed.............
Understanding, faithfulness, trust etc........are some of the terms which we should not cross our limits.

Dear EQ...
Im happy to see you again dear...... Im glad you liked the story and message..... I agree with you Pure Love and Understanding are the basis of a sucessful marriage...

Thanx EQ