What an outlook??

I know Veena since my childhood. Her younger sister and I were studying together and are still very good friends.

Veena got married to a rich businessman from Bihar. It was sort of love at first sight for her husband and he sent his proposal to her father. He was also tall and handsome, filthy rich a huge sprawling bungalow. A big joint family.

She joined her in-laws in Bihar soon after her marriage. And lived with them for over a year. Then Veena and her husband decided to shift their base to Mumbai. Her in-laws already had a flat here so shifting was not a problem. With a small amount in hand they shifted to Mumbai and started life afresh here in this mahyavi nagri.

Slowly their business started picking up and they grew from lakhpatis to the crorepati status. But the only hitch here is god did not bless them with a child and Veena’s husband was not interested in adopting one.

We are in constant touch with each other as my friend and her sister are also in Mumbai and we meet regularly, its almost like one extended family.

In the meantime one of my cousin Meera lost her husband and she and her daughter Lata were left alone in this world. They did have support of the family members…but it was moral as no one was well off financially to take care of the two of them. Meera used to make snacks at home and supply in her group and neighbors and this way she was managing herself and her daughter. After her daughter completed her 12^th we thought that if we could get her a job with someone known to us then the girl will also be in safe hands and she will get some experience and also the income would be and added advantage to them.

On this side Veena’s husband was looking out for someone for his office and I said that if they can accommodate Lata then it would be a help to her and they would have a good sincere staff as she was intelligent and luckily convent educated so her command over English is good. This way Lata started to work with them and being young, bubbly and enthusiastic she started performing well and all were happy. The company used to accommodate Lata’s college and class timings and during her exams too. And in turn Lata took care that her work in office was not suffering and used to put in extra hours whenever possible.

Lata completed her graduation and post graduation with flying colors and she also started trying for jobs in Banks etc. And lucky enough she got a good job where her salary was 4 times what she is getting here.

Lata had an open talk with her manager regarding the same and her manager also felt that we should not try to stop her as they would never be able to pay that much to her and also there were chances of growth in the new opportunity…but not so in their business.

A few days back when I met Veena, she did bring up this topic and said we helped her so much I spent about half a lakh of rupees on her and she had to leave us like this and go. I couldn’t resist myself and said that you should also understand that growth prospects are very limited in your firm whereas in her new job she has abundant scope to move up the career ladder.

Interestingly, that day she was talking to me about the power of money. That if you don’t have enough money then people are not bothered about you and you don’t have any status in the society. But when it came to Lata and I said that she does need that extra income that she is getting in her new job…I was surprised by Veena’s answer, she said “paisa thodi sub kuch hota hain” humne itna kiya aur who chod ke chali gayi. I couldn’t resist saying but she does need that money now as her mom dosen’t keep well and hence can’t do work as much as she was doing earlier hence its becoming difficult for them to make two ends meet.

The immediate thought that come to my mind was they never dine in an ordinary place. Its always one of those class restaurants or star hotels, atleast a couple of times a week. The bill comes to nothing less than Rs. 5000/- for 3-4 people and they are always more than that. So couldn’t she consider this as a god sent opportunity to support a girl child in absence of her own children? You want to be rich and famous...but if someone else gets an opportunity you don't like to see them climbing the growth ladder.

What an outlook.

Hi Roopa,

This is the state nowadays with many of them. There are people like veena who cant stand people coming up in their life. Sometimes they would go to the extent of cooking up stories to spoil their name too.

In this story at least veena and latha were third persons. One of my closest friend, she comes from a middle class. Though difficult somehow her father managed to give his daughter a convent education. But her aunt who was quite rich, has mocked at her own brother saying that he should put his daughter in some government school rather than equally educating his daughter as hers.

what do u say for this?

Yes Shraddha, when relatives behave in such a high handed manner its best to keep distance from them.

I can very well relate to your story.

I have an aunt who was well off than all her siblings and she had a air about it.

Her children used to look down on other cousins who had suffered financial set back. But today all the others are better off than them and this aunt is experiencing financial crunch now.

The tables are turned.

hi roopa
so you have opened your hidden talents in IL!!!!
go on!!!! very good post!!!!
ofcoz some rich people never have a heart for charity whereas some people earning the money just to keep their family running, atleast they think about helping other's
regards
pavi

Roopa..

Very well said... I somehow feel, whoever it is... when they see them climbing up the ladder, instead of feeling happy, feel jealous... I cannot understand this mentality of our community..

I have seen people here, who will never disclose any information to new NRI's like you can get this cheaper here, you should learn online courses and we have this opportunity in our company... like this and stuff... I was adviced by a maami saying.. no one was there to help us when we came, why should they have a cake walk. you shouldn't be saying all this to these people.. let them figure it out..
I mean, arent you supposed to have this helping mind and try to share the knowledge...

Roopa, people are so stupid at times.. what to do.

Sharadha.. ... its best to ignore and stay away from such people.. nuisance I say

Originally Posted by uns

I can very well relate to your story.

I have an aunt who was well off than all her siblings and she had a air about it.

Her children used to look down on other cousins who had suffered financial set back. But today all the others are better off than them and this aunt is experiencing financial crunch now.

The tables are turned.

Very true..

there is a saying... Life is a circle.. It keeps rotating ... whoever you see and try to mock once, will be in your place and you in theirs.. sometime soon.. Never underestimate fate..

Hi Roopa
These things happen everywhere now a days, one can't see another coming up in life.
Pleople like Veena always want people like Latha to be always under they foot. I can't understand why these people cannot see others coming up in life. It is not only in money matters even in study matters you know.
I will tell you one incident there was one family who had kept they kid in her parents house for studies as they were staying in a village. and this kids mother had brothers who were married, the kid was very clever in studies and his mama's kids were very bumbo you can say, the kids mami's were felling jealous of him so they started telling that the kid is not good he is eyeing our daughters we don't want him in our house and all, the grand parents were so helpless so atlast has to tell the family to take away their kid from there. By the grace of Lord that kids father got a promotion and got shifted to a bigger city and so the kid could study very well. but today that mama and mami's kids are hopless as before doing nothing.
Elders always say whatever we do today we have to pay for it before our death.
so always speak good and be good so that we shouldn't repent for it tomorrow.

Roopa,
Those who envy cannot live in peace..they had to pay for it in future...
this is what is said in Kural.

sriniketan

Dear Nandshyam,

Sorry to butt in. You have made a million dollar observation here. Not many people come forward to help a new migrant.

From one NRI to another, you have echoed my thoughts.

Regards,

Corallux

Originally Posted by Nandshyam

Roopa..

Very well said... I somehow feel, whoever it is... when they see them climbing up the ladder, instead of feeling happy, feel jealous... I cannot understand this mentality of our community..

I have seen people here, who will never disclose any information to new NRI's like you can get this cheaper here, you should learn online courses and we have this opportunity in our company... like this and stuff... I was adviced by a maami saying.. no one was there to help us when we came, why should they have a cake walk. you shouldn't be saying all this to these people.. let them figure it out..
I mean, arent you supposed to have this helping mind and try to share the knowledge...

Roopa, people are so stupid at times.. what to do.

Sharadha.. ... its best to ignore and stay away from such people.. nuisance I say