People succeeding at the cost of other's misery...?:-(

ILites please excuse me for writing such a loooong post..I am venting out to express my feelings..

This is a topic that has been on my mind from a long long time and I wanted to put down my thoughts now...
I know there is lot of competition among everyone to succeed in life..but rather than working hard, I have noticed many cases where people are dominating and putting others down for their benefit..that too from a young age..

Few real life examples are listed below:

1. During my high school days, one class mate and friend of mine used to consistently score highest marks in exams and top the class...
Once, I ended up getting more marks than her in a couple of subjects..she, who was otherwise nice to me got angry and jealous, went through my answer scripts which were distributed in class (without my permission), and then went to the teacher and told her that I have scored high marks by cheating in the exam..
She thought that by doing so, my marks would be reduced or that my results would be nullified or that I would have to undergo disciplinary action and retake the exam, so that she could continue being the topper..
Fortunately for me, that teacher was a very good and nice lady, she knew I had not cheated and dint believe the accusation..
she just gave me little friendly advice and sent me away..But I became a lot more careful of that girl after that..

2. In junior college, that is +1 and +2, there were 2 girls who were quite studious and focused..they consistently did well in all exams and inter college events
and it seemed like they would succeed in getting admissions in premier institutions for professional degree courses after 12th std..
I knew them personally..there were many guys in our class who were jealous..they couldn't focus on college as they had distractions like drinking, smoking, partying, girlfriends, etc..
One of the topper was kind of good looking and cute..One of the guys started making romantic gestures towards her, and he started stalking her, like writing love letters, staring at her in class, following her even outside class,
repeatedly proposing to her and threatening suicide if she doesn't accept etc..that too during the second half of the year when exam prep starts..
At first she ignored. Finally she could not tolerate it any longer and complained to faculties, family members etc..
Then they counseled the guy and warned him. But the damage was done..the mental anguish faced by her made her score average marks in final exam.
I know for a fact that the guy dint really love her but did it to trouble her only. In fact he forgot her very quickly once he came to know his strategy din't succeed.

3. One more girl who was a topper was targeted similarly..Many people, girls and guys started spreading bad rumors about her character and behavior..
So skillfully that the source of the rumors could not be traced..Her reputation was affected and few lecturers developed personal bias towards her targeted
her personally by reducing marks and reprimanding her unnecessarily..Everyone was required to submit a project which would be considered for final assessment..
She had worked really hard on the project and submitted on time..but one student stole it from the faculty room to trouble her..only hers was missing.. due to these events she was upset and did not enjoy college life..she was waiting for 12th std to finish so she could be rid of this.
I know her personally and she is of very good character. She dint deserve this.

4. I was working in a company sometime ago and it was a pretty hectic project with long hours and tight deadlines..
that was when I was going to become eligible for promotion..I badly needed a raise so I worked for long hrs..more than 10 hrs..I used to wake up at 5.3 am , do cooking, home chores etc..then stay in office from 9 am till 9 pm doing the work,with just 10 mins for lunch and 5 mins for coffee break.. I finished work ahead of deadline, accurately , was prompt in giving updates and maintained good professional relation with all.
But I could sense that few of them disliked me for some reason..they would come to office late , spend 1 hr in cafeteria eating breakfast, coffee break for 1 hour, lunch break 1.5 hrs..evening snack cum coffee break..in between phone call break 1 hr..effectively they would work for 3 hrs and not complete their allotted finish work on time..
They cleverly manipulated their team roster and made sure that maximum workload came to me and very little went to them..They used to call in sick every 2 weeks or so and during their leaves their work would additionally be dumped on me whereas no one would cover for me when I took leave. They hid important documents from me, manipulated important information, excluded me from important discussions, etc..
They also bad mouthed me to the boss and told him that I am incompetent and useless and do not do any work and having bad attitude etc..
He was influenced by them..and even though I projected my work well and gave the results for everyone to see, the boss either took credit for my work or he gave credit to someone else for my work, then told the HR not to process my promotion or raise, instead he promoted a girl junior who was junior to me..
After all this the word spread around and no one agreed to give me any assignments..Since no projects in my city, I either had to leave the job or relocate to a far away city which I couldn't due to health concern and family reason.
Finally I lost the job.

I met a mutual ex colleague who knows me and them..he told me that 2 of them got out of turn promotions and 3 of them are enjoying traveling around the world due to onsite opportunities..one of them got selected in 1 of the top companies in the world with a hefty salary package..
all of them are getting around double or triple the salary package that they got previously..they were among those who put me down.

I still dint get job, and I was thinking , is this the norm in today's world? being successful and happy making others miserable?
What about those who are hard working and honest and sincere?
How are they able to face themselves in the mirror knowing they have spoilt some other person's life?
Do they ever repent / regret their actions?
Does Karma ever catch up with them? i.e, how are they able to be happy after troubling others, do they suffer any negative consequences of their actions later on?

Just feeling irritable and venting..
Kindly give your views on this..

 

So many views and no replies???notdonesmiley

 

@KashmirFlower..yeah I can also relate to incidents mentioned by you..these days I can find even young kids bullying others to suppress them and become the best..Among adults it's even worse.
If someone wants to succeed by hard work and smartness it's ok..but so many cunning people are moving ahead in studies and job after doing wrong and unethical things to harm and put down their class mates/co workers etc...Like stealing projects and study materials, making someone get into trouble by making false accusations against them....spoiling a person's character and peace of mind which can affect their future..using their power and influence to make sure that another person doesn't stay in the team long enough to get promoted...harassing others unnecessarily and insulting them in front of everyone so that no has respect for the person anymore.
So i often think if there is any value for honesty and hard work and sincerity these days? How do we teach future generations about right and wrong when these bad influences start at such a young age..those who use unfair means to become happy and successful, do they suffer later on in life for their bad deeds or not.....

 

@Rihana..yes. I have also agree that in corporate scenario, it's not just about how we do the work but how we showcase it...But it should work from both ends..if the higher-up, i.e managers and leads are competent and reasonable and of good intellect then only they can give the due credit to the employee who has done good work...

.In the first company which I worked I had worked for a boss who had very high standards and was strict..but when I worked hard and gave updates and showcased my achievements the boss and team lead accepted and appreciated me at least in the team level..

But many a time higher ups lack basic decency and civility..in the next team in next company which I worked the bosses, senior boss and team leads disliked me from the beginning and they were biased on a personal and professional level. So they used to continuously harass and criticize me everyday and tell me directly or indirectly that I m useless and should not be in the team... Left me out of important info and documentations..When I did all the work allotted on time, adhered to deadlines, took new initiatives for improvement etc they used to either ignore me or mock my ideas when I gave a demonstration on it or give credit of it to someone else even though I presented as my idea, or told me that I could'nt possibly have developed it as I'm useless and do not have good attitude etc..They outright told me I should not be there in the team, also spread the word around to spoil my chances of joining some other team..this is outright bullying and harassment which I could not save myself from.

The same thing happened to 1 more guy who was a brilliant developer..But within 1 month of joining the team he was disgusted with the situation and joined some other company.

I guess we need to be thick skinned and develop special kind of skills to deal with such a******s from a young age itself so that we can stay calm even in adverse situations..

I was a little too innocent as a kid and gained worldly knowledge only after I crossed the age of 18 or so..should not make that mistake with kids when I have them.

And yes you are right I'm going through 'why me' and 'when will this phase end' kind of thing..
Being a home maker gives me time & opportunity for personal reflections you see..

 

Thanks...I need to gradually bring in positivity into my life..