Say good words about others , you do not know when it will come back to you.

Wow aunty you are back with another snippet with a new message. You are right. When someone appreciates us or says at least gives an appreciating smile we are filled with new energy to finish the job at hand or take up new tasks about which we were doubtful till then. A look, a smile, a word, a sentence or a gesture of appreciation has so much value than an iphone or laptop or any other materialistic things. I wonder when will people understand this simple thing and stay happy and let others be happy.

 

Excellent snippet Viji ma. you are 100% true. words are the best medicine and worst poison. Why cant we make others happy by using the words as medicine. you have conveyed this message so well in your snippet.

 

Dear Viji ma
Beautiful snippet with so beautiful message. Thank you so much for reminding us with life's nectar. Simple way to lead the life, with appreciation/gratefulness and content.
Thank you again amma.
Vani

 

Dear Viji,
Nice topic beautifully dealt with.Yes, children need encouragement.But in olden days, that much of appreciation was not there and it was stated to make the child proud.My grandson aged 2 before striking the ball asks me to say'good job, Advaith".This appreciation is widely present among Westerners.They give standing ovation for ten mts at the end of all the concerts, which may not be even up to the mark.
Recently there was a story in a Tamil magazine about a woman, who is a house wife, highly intelligent, very much adjustable but always being scolded by her husband for something or the other, no appreciation at all.Now even after 25 years of wedding ,this continues.
Now the husband ,the lawyer ,expert in handling divorce cases gets a strange application from a lady in sixties that she wants a divorce from her husband who is already dead.The essence of the letter was she had done so much of household duties.entertained so much of guests ( husband's side) .Not even a single soul appreciated her.Not gifted with issues also. After 30 years of married life ,he passed away due to heart attack.She joined a home.Since the cook working there left the services, she took charge of cooking, since she had the nice experience of cooking in a joint family. She was an expert in buying quality groceries, vegeatbles etc and prepared healthy food to the inmates. The Executive lady chairman appreciated her efforts and said that she need not make any payment to the home and she was eligible to receive Rs 10,000/per month for her tireless job." She was an asset to the institution" she said and her husband should have been very fortunate in getting such an intelligent and efficient wife".
She would have been happy, if she had received one hundredth of these appreciations from her husband or his family members.
Now the lady said"I am prepared to donate my entire property to the institution'/The Chairman said that her institution had sufficient funds and if she she wanted she could donate to some other orphanage.
The lady had conveyed in her letter, she would stand on her own legs by doing the job of a cook as long as she was hale and healthy and she could save something for the future also.
Though her husband was no longer alive, she did not want to be known as the wife of ------- who had least consideration for her as a human being, leave alone as a wife.
She had requested the lawyer, an expert in handling divorce cases, to analyse the subtle points in the case and help in getting a legal divorce from her dead husband.
The husband read the letter again and again.Something dawned on him. Can an appreciationless life lead to such drastic reactions? He was in deep thoughts.The most obedient wife invited him for dinner.For the first time in life he asked whether she had taken food.After so many years, perhaps this was the first day in her married life she had dinner together with her husband.
She only knew that she only had written the letter with the address of her intimate friend, as a last resort to change her husband.Fortunately this seemed to work.
All her real service,patience and perseverance did not get her rewards. But this false letter did the magic.
Was that too out of self pity that he would be rejected after death?It is strange the person who didn't care for the living loving wife,but cared more for the remarks that might follow his death!
Viji,
sorry for the long response.I was just reminded of the story on reading your snippet.

Jayasala 42

 

Dear Viji madam,
A good one.
Yes, appreciation motivates people do better. Who does not feel happy when appreciated? No exceptions! We may say "No need of appreciation....I did my duty" but in heart of heart we do feel happy. Especially children get encouragement. But is should not be flattery. Sincere appreciation. The line is thin between appreciation and flattery.
Syamala

 

Dear VijiMa,

wow ow what a beautiful topic. Yes indeed it's very true, appreciation is like a vitamin or a health tonic which boosts our skill, talents, and confidence. I love to give more appreciation and I do get too. After all giving brings more happiness to both the giver and the receiver. All of us like to give and get sometimes for it helps us to move forward in life. It motivates and helps us to succeed in our challenges. Appreciation is a must,it's good to boost someone everyday. @iyerviji : good one VijiMa!

JayMa , enjoyed your story from the magazine/newspaper, I kind of guessed that it should be the lawyer's wife's letter. Sometimes some husbands are like that we have to bring in a false statement to change them for the best. Isn't it, very funny indeed. Thanks for the interesting story @jayasala42.

 

Mami Thanks a lot for the thread and also for the detailed reply by jayasala mami.