Time to Resilience !!

We keep changing our clothes, hairstyle, wardrobe, interior and shoes..
but how often we think that its time to change ourselves??

we say that stagnant brings negativity in life so we keep changing house stuffs, renovate, modify with material things. but have we ever thought that the stagnation of mind need some modification, purification too..without that how come positivity will come in life??

To my surprise this thought was raised in my mind by my DD who is just 7 years. she told me mama we keep changing color of house and stuffs but when will we change ourselves?? this was just a single line for her which she spoke of her innocence but was U Turn in my life.

Since past few months we whole family have gone thru many ups and downs. The fact which i have learned is nothing can be changed by just worrying, complaining, nagging, venting. if i really want to do something, I have to put positive vibes on people and think constantly that everything will be fine. it is just a phase of life which will pass too nothing is constant neither happiness nor sorrow..

it was very hard to keep mind calm when i was seeing everything against me but i was sure of my father’s thought "if it happens as per our wish it is GOOD, but if it does not happen as per our wish then it is "BEST" because it happened as per GOD's wish"...and this i remember when i really dont get answer to my questions.

I was wondering how negative people and situations are affecting and changing me inside, but I got to read somewhere that if negativity in people and situation can change or affect us ..can’t our positivity change people or situation?? Wow what a thought!! That means we treat ourselves weak that is why we allow them to change us…but no we should think that we r stronger than them and let them change not us…

The way to live our values is to integrate our inner thoughts, awareness, attitude and feelings with our outer expression. By empowering our values from the inside, we can live them, even in the most challenging situations. By taking time to reflect or meditate, we can begin to understand that we have all that we need inside our own being. Internally we all have the treasures of peace, love and wisdom. Reflecting deeply allows us to touch a deeper part of ourselves, which gives us the inner strength and resilience needed to live by our values, no matter what. Living our values realises our true humanity.

A single positive change in ourselves can change a lot!!! Try it…

 

@daisy2015, yes it is like a silver line in dark clouds!!

i was wondering how/why so many negative and wrong things happening in life..it is because i was attracting all that. I was looking for wrong and negative in life hence it was what i was getting. now i m just saying "STOP" whenever my mind going in some negativity. after all I am(Soul) ruler and owner of body and not his servant to listen to him.

 

@akanksha1982, yes i accept for all those changes which you said that takes place everyday. but all those are materialistic change. i m saying about the internal changes (within ourselves/thoughts). this is what is important. other changes are all external.

and regarding negative thinking, it was like if a daughter has gone out and mom is worried for her and she will keep thinking about all negative thoughts she is encountering at that time. but if her hubby says "she must have met with accident" (just and eg. m giving) she will immediately say "dont say this ...never say wrong things" . So, he cannot speak wrong, but she can think wrong...

likewise we should not speak and think also some negative will happen. instead think all positive will happen.

And you said that we should prepare for worst, no dear i will disagree..when u will prepare yourself for negative how can you expect positive dear. It is law of nature ..u will get whatever u wish..so wish good and will get good :thumbsup

 

wow jayasala....thanks for that..i never thought in dreams also.

but i must say i have gone thru hell to come to this conclusion which i thought should share and will help many to come out of their problems if they just give a serious thought and adopt this.

to simplify further i will give example of god vishnu which i have read somewhere.
he has three shastra 1) swadarshan chakra 2) gadha 3) Kamal and all those have some deep secret behind

1) swadarshan chakra - means self analyzing..we have to see within ourselves what loopholes/weaknesses we have. the energy we waste in pointing other's mistakes and concentrating on their negative parts, if we use the same energy to see within ourselves will see that there are so many weaknesses and it will take full life to correct it and avoid to carry forward in next birth. all relations for whom we fight and become bad will leave in this world and in next birth all relations will be new. then for whom are we fighting and making us weak.

2) gadha - this is use to destroy or kill enemies. once we realise what negative or what are our weaknesses are have to be use gadha to destroy that (as those are our real enemies)

3) kamal - sign of purity in impurity. kamal is the only flower which grows in muddy water but we never find stain of mud also on it. likewise we have to make our life. we have to be in this world full of wrong and impure people but once we know our weaknesses and have destroyed it we are like that flower pure and shine.

"IF WE LOVE PEOPLE THEY WILL BECOME OUR WEAKNESS, BUT IF WE LOVE GOD IT WILL BECOME OUR STRENGTH"