Path of AAA

Our t.v had problems and we had to call the cable company to help fix it. Since I was busy with some chores (read filing!) I asked my son to take care of it. Also I would not know to follow the technical instructions and my son is so much better than I. So he talked to the technical person and fixed it and then before the call ended the techinical person asked speak to me. Since I had not been in the same room as my kid while he talked over the phone I assumed this was going to be a reprimand of sorts.. So agitatedly I took the phone and much to my surprise the company techincal person wanted to appreciate my son's good manners. Though i know I cannot take all credit for it I still wanted to walk on clouds for a long time after that.
It then led me to observe other teenagers and very soon I got a better opportunity.One of our friend's daughter went to get extra help from a College professor who we happened to know. Apparently this girl was rude and impolite to the professor to the extent that the professor contacted me about it. To me this was very interesting to observe.
When children are young and growing we teach them good values and manners wanting them to emulate these good characterstics when they grow up. So I have thought of these "A" factors which I percieve make a difference in the children's lives.
Attention: This is the first A. I strongly believe all children require this and more so when they are young. Certainly not restrcited to small age children. The older they get the more attention they crave. somtimes some children behave badly just to get attention from parents. In today's society with both the parents working how many keep this as a priority?
Affection: Second A. There can never be enough of this. Whatever the age of a child , all of us are in need of it , the extent can differ ofcourse. The smaller the child the greater the need. Also by being affectionate we prove beyond doubt to the child's mind that we accept the child as is. This further helps to boost the child's self esteem and self worth.
Appreciation: Third A. How many of us appreciate any work that is done by our children? Be it an art project or exam result.. In fact if the child gets lesser than a 100/100 some parents tend to ignore that fact that the child has got very good marks but scold the child for not getting the total. Whatever the sphere it helps the child to be appreciated. This again works for all ages too.
Would you agree with me that these factors do play an important role in moulding a child to be a better individual and greater human being?

Dear AC..
Wowwwwwwwww.. here are my AAA for your AAA.......
Awesome Astounding,Astonishing, writing chitra jii....Thanx for such
wondefrul post.... I ll keep all the three AAA in mind..... :)


I like to share another piece of inforamtion with you jii I read in a
magazine.... like three 'A' s this is three "S" Spend,Save,Share....

Love
Brindha..

Brindha Dear
Can I say you are Fast, Friendly and Fantastic... thank you..

maybe I can steal your 3 S idea for another blog?!!!

Dear AC,

Great pointers here.
Most of the time the primary reason for unruly behaviour is attention deficit. Affection and Appreciation go a long way is moulding the character of a child, but not just a kid I guess these qualities will help in better understanding and relation even in adults. I guess we will not restrict the 3 A's to children but would widen our group to include adults also. Cause I guess even adults do err as any of these begin to go sparse from life.
AC good effort in raising a wonderful kid I am sure you must feel very elated about it, since raising a child with the right morals and principles is not a very easy task. Kudos dear to you and to your wonderful son too!
Thanks for making us LEARN A LESSON OF LIFE(3 L's)

Love,
Devika

Another Awesome Article, AC...
I agree with you on all the AAAs...do you agree with me on my AAAs??

sriniketan

Dear Devika
Nice to see your LLL.. I heartily agree with you that these apply to adults too.. Frequently we hesitate to bring out these with respect to adults I think. Whether it be work or home or school why hesitate to show appreciation? Maybe as adults one has to deal with the individual ego as well!

Bhargavi my intelligent friend
I surely agree with yours too... It never ceases to amaze me the talented ladies in our midst..

Dear AC,
what a wonderful post and thread you have started! Well said! so here goes three claps . I do agree with you fully with these 3 A factors! not only for kids for all ages! even we expect this from our husband, children, parents of both sides and so on. Old people are just like kids drawing our attention, affection and appreciation! Attention is the primary factor. then comes affection and when these both are ful filled appreciation automatically comes in. Here i mean the first 2 As which come from the heart. I have seen parents who are very very attentive, affectionate...that is mechanically..they do these and never appreciate! these kind of parents attend the children take interest in studies etc they show affection by getting them all sorts of materials...but when kids fail to fetch marks to their expectation they just throw them out. it is a prestige issue for most of the parents which they show on kids in return. They forget often that above all these, good manners and behaviour are the most important factors in life. More than academic excellence indeed! These parents send their kids to various classes. extracuriicular activities and expect returns too! when they say dance the kid should dance infront of friends and relatives...when they say sing the kid should sing...when they swim they must get atleast a 3 prize! otherwise it is a prestige issue. they fail to appreciate even the average kid! Highly ambitious parents!

If confidence crosses the line a bit above then it is over confidence and the same with ambition too. When a child or parent is over ambitious it invites all sorts of those characters like jealousy, anger, hatered, adamancy, rude behaviour ,looking down at others etc and what not. Yes many of the young children fail to learn good manners! When you enter a house how many of the children (not kids i mean here) switch off the TV and greet you?!

Only this morning i was talking to my husband about this appreciation. today CBSE 10th results are to be published in the evening. two girls from our family have given 10th and waiting for the results. one is from chennai and another from pune but holidaying at chennai. the one from chennai who is from a popular school is very ambitious and expecting a rank like most of the chennai children of top shcools. her parents too! on the other hand the one from pune is very casual like her parents! now when the results come if the chennai one excells and sure to excell, definitely there will arise a comparison as this happens regularly at our home because of elders.. My husband and i pitied for the pune child who is really a sweet kid. let me hope for the best. I can go on in this topic. but now limit myself here...

As you have said when these 3 A s are given in right proportion a child is confident, child's morality boosts up and comes up with good manners and habits of course achieves in life too! so you have achieved that! to you! and another to your son!! convey my congrats too to him.!
Noolai pol selai : thayai pol pillai!!!

love
geeth

Dear Chitra ,

The comments got washed out.Hetre goes again.

Well said, and I agree But who will teach the child the 3 AAA’s.For that to ha[ppen, the mother has to be a homemaker.And what with both parents working these days, u can imagine the quality of children we are bringing up..

Well said and written.Regards.kamal

Dear AC,
Kandippa!!! These AAA's are a must for all children from the parents. Of course it is the way we behave around them that makes them form the habits that they do- good and bad.I keep insisting that other than studies this is something that we must lay empahsis on. I have seen well- behaved kids who are not well mannered, or vice-versa. It also depends on not how much time you spend qyuantitatively but quality time makes a difference.
Wroking parents do have their setbacks but I make sure that Iam not one to compensate by buying them over expensive toys or any such stuff.Once they get used to it then there is no way they will understand the value of what they have or what is spent to buy the stuff. You do come up with sch great posts, buddy!!!!!!!