Stayed in a Joint Family..........

Hi Dearest ILites,
When I was in my teens, I have heard of people staying in joint families….enjoying the moments of happiness….crying over the little day-to-day fights….
That time I wished to stay in a joint family at least for a year or two……..and God was kind enough to bless me my wish some years later. It just happened when I was in 9^th standard. During my childhood days, we were staying in North Eastern state of India but when I have completed my 8^th Annual Exams, father decided to come to Bhubaneswar for better study purpose. Ant around that time my Paternal uncle (elder bro of my mother ), also decided to relocate to BBSR and to our happiness my youngest uncle was also staying in BBSR at that time. As we were never stayed in BBSR before, none of us has our own house there, and we all three families decided to stay together in a big bunglow……
From here the saga started…….
After much search, we could found a big bunglow of 7 bedrooms…..4 of them are attached bath while other 3 rooms have to depend upon 2 extra baths….
This big bunglow has two dining halls (in one hall all three refrigerators were placed, in two of the refrigerators one will find fruits and veggies and the third one was filled with cool drinks and all assorted sweets for guests, I suppose????????? )…..a big living room……a very small kitchen (lately we found that the owner has made the bunglow for Film/serial shoots, so kitchen was made only for snacks purpose)…..
Then came the question of room Division…..a big issue of course….we were three girls (me and two of my cousins) and three boys (my 2 brothers and one cousin) and finally a toddler baby of my youngest uncle who preferred her mom’s lap….
After much discussion…my two cousin sisters shared a room near the master BR of their parents….me and my kid brother shared a room next to my parents room and then my cousin and my middle bro shared another room near to the hall…….
The central BR was occupied by my youngest uncle……
At first, we kids were so happy….so many cousins to gossip…..to talk abt our schools….frds……calling our frds to home to show our big family……
But the little misunderstandings……..some odd happenings……..and the lack of management of our parents could not make our stay longer in that Mahal…….we were by ourselves by the end of ten months…….
Even certain incidents were so bad that some of us cousins don’t have talking terms…..we all shared so much happiness…….but the distance has drifted us so far that we could not even think abt getting a little closer all these years……Most of us are married…….and I feel sorry that our misunderstanding has also driven our respective spouses away from the persons whom they have never seen……
I wonder what will happen when we will get a chance to meet in some other family get together…….and what will happen when we will see their kids…..or vice-versa…..
Some small happenings has turned the relationships between many individuals….some were linked to these happenings and some even had no clue what happened in the past years…….but the cold war still exist……
Sorry to bother all my ILite friends with this big post…..

Regards.

hi I have a friend who used to live in a big house with the grand mother and her four sons. It was a big and modern house in city center, with many bedrooms, big halls, dining rooms etc. All wives cook, shop and enjoy. All kids were friendly. But now they are divided in the same house. They built more stories (levels) and moved up. Now they spend very less time with each other and all their kids grown up and left home. However good it may be, issues come time to time sometimes leave people feeling bad.

Hi Adhrusya,
Yes, I also think in that way.......may be if we were never stayed together...we might still be in good relationship.....
It is some times painful to look back in past where there was lot of happiness and now every occasion is a challenge and issues popped up from nowhere........
Sometimes, I think another Ekta kapoor serial being telecaste at my family.....
Thanks for peeping in...

Hi IL

My inlaws stilllive in a joint family.Whenever we visit them it will be very nice and it keeps us so busy talking with them.but there are also some pros and cons of a joint family.Anyways it all depends on the one who beholds it.

hi meeta,

enjoyed your post because i too always think it would be nice to be in a joint family if there is no dearth of space,mutual respect for each others space and privacy,proper management of finances...but unfortunately that never happens...hope someone comes up with a joint family that has a happy ending....

mindi

Hai Meeta,

enjoyed your post.My FIL is live in a joint family.My FIL brings up all cousin brothers & sister. my husband told me, that was a nice time at that time,lots of enjoyment is there.

My dear Meeta,
Small happenings only lead to big misunderstandings.If my father had given one lakh of rupees tpo his younger brother my mom would not have minded but if the co sister passed comments on her children she would have minded and the family would have split.
If we keep our cool at those times then we could have harvested the fruit of happiness.
All the best.
mithila kannan

Nowadays if a married couple lives with parents under one roof,that itself called as a joint family.

Once we started living separately, then it is very difficult to go back to joint family.

sorry i did'nt complete my post.so if you live with your parent in laws, without any issues that itself great.i cant imagine all brothers,sisters and cousins living under one roof in the modern day fast life.