The Single Child Syndrome

My dear anunani,
Sorry for the delayed reply to your post.Thank you for visiting the post.
God bless you
love
mithila kannan

Dear sundari,
I was not feeling ok for a while,I dont know I missed replying some FBs.Such a terrible thing to do.
Thank you dear for being patient with me.
Thank you for being there for me.
Your mother's concern is understandable so long as it does not influence the upbringing of the child .
God bless you my friend
love
mithila kannan

Dear Mithila

Thanks your love really reaches out through the miles. A big hug your way.

love and best wishes
preethi

Dear Mithila, Hope you are feeling better now. Your reply makes my chest wide with pride. An expert writer like you looks out for my feedback!! What more encouragement do I need to work on getting get my Pulitzer
‘The going to hell’ quote made me smile. I like it too. Thanks for your best wishes for my family. They all count – especially the ones from good-hearted people like you. Reading about your daughters impresses me. I too think of adoption, but so many questions and self-doubts pop up in my mind. It needs courage to adopt a tiny helpless being and make it your own without any inkling of doubt. Congratulations to your daughter. She is brave!
I agree with you knowing how both your daughters have different life styles but the end result is same. Give the kids all they need plus love and affection along with the precious life lessons.
I am 100% in agreement with your MIL (hi5 to her). Now days, it is not between 10 kids or 3 kids that you decide. It is just between one or two! All I think is these two questions, first - do I really need to bring one more being on this earth and burden the already hungry and disadvantaged population here with one more share of food and everything else? Second – Can I afford to support two of my children with all my dreams in them? i.e Giving them best quality life (Food, Clothing, Facilities, Health etc), education, hobbies, experiences, Travels etc etc..my list goes on. I think I am answering my own question here. But the dilemma comes around in the form of questions like; How healthy is it to bring up a child alone with no siblings, she will never no the happiness of having womb-mates; At least she would have a sibling when both her parents are gone! Etc etc.
It is a never-ending dilemma with one constraint though – ‘the age gap between kids’. So with our almost 3 year old, we don’t have much time to think if we really decide to have another one..anyways!
I just want to end by a little note. I love the way you write and communicate and I highly respect you from what all I know about you. Please take time and make efforts to keep this communication between us alive. Have a great day.

Dear venus,
Thank you for the lovely words from the heart.
I wish you all the best.Your daughter is a lucky girl to have a parents like you both who think of her future from various angles.
love
mithila kannan

Dear Preethi,
Abig thank you,my dear.
love
mithila

Mithila, My dear friend,

Yet another wonderul piece from you...

It is so sad on the child's part, especially when facing the world on its own...I have seen so many parents, with single kid and multiple kids, doing this. They have an instant reason, 'Just a kid, right?'. But, aindhil valaiyadhadhu aimbadhil valaiyuma?

I'm a single child who was never given unnecessary attention. I don't remember at all any cinematic care. They have never pronounced, 'Ore ponnu'...

Dear Madam
You have written a very nice article with many points for parents. I agree that many children who have no brother or sister becoming very stubborn and selfish. They dont want to share anything. But poor thing, the child has no fault. Parents only made them like that.
I have one son. I am thinking he will become a good adult because we give him lot of love and caring. Now we have to think we will not spoil him.
Thank you for nice article.
yours sincerely
swarnalata

Thank you swarnalata,
All thhe best.Iam sure you will bring up a wonderful child who will grow into a fine person.
God bless you.
love
mithila kannan

Dear Oviya,
Oh yes,parents with multiple kids also tend to spoil the kid.The onus is sometimes more on the parent with the single child.
You were lucky to have parents whop are responsible parents and have seen to it that their only daughter treads the right path in life and spreads kindness wherever she goes.
God bless you.
love
mithila kannan