Fostered Friendship and Trust never Rusts...

Fostered Friendship and Trust never Rusts...

The title must have brought about a few characters from the epic, for those who have read. For the very few those who haven't, it is Karna, Duryodhana and Bhanumathi. If I have given an impression that am well read sorry for it, I have also just picked them from Amar Chithra Kathas' and a few movies on this.

But the characterization was so very powerful that they left an impact as the primary example for friendship and trust, right from school days.

Karna and Duryodhana are known well but Bhanumathi? She was the wife of Duryodhana. Friendship and Trust is what is all about between these three characters.

Initially it was or could have been a selfish act of Duryodhana to embrace Karna, the only one who could challenge Arjun. But then what evolved was an epitome of friendship and trust.I would like to share just the one scene that takes the relationship out of friendship and trust, to greater heights between the three.

Karna and Bhanumathi were playing the dice game and Bhanumathi was on the verge of losing and on seeing Duryodhana coming, out of respect got up. Karna not knowing the arrival of Duryodhana, felt that Bhanumathi was giving a slip to avoid defeat, unintentionally pulled her drape/dhuppatta of those days studded with pearls.

The pearls broke lose and by now Karna felt embarrassed and also noticed Duryodhanas' arrival. He too got shocked and felt distressed. Both Bhanumathi and Karna were shocked to the core, even if they didn't really had any wrong intentions. Friendship and trust was very powerfully being challenged in this scene.

What would Duryodhana think of? Would he doubt his wife and friend? Duryodhana having been portrayed the bad guy in the epic, throws in a surprise and exhibits his good side by casually bending down to pick the pearls and with a smile utters - "SHOULD I JUST PICK THE PEARLS OR SHOULD I STRING THEM AS WELL"

The friendship that was fostered and the trust that was earned by Karna and the trust Duryodhana had on Bhanumathi is something beyond words to describe.

All three characters stand as the example for friendship and trust. One who understands the importance of this would never ever break a friendship and trust that was earned over a period of time.

In this fast paced world are we short of time to gain true friendship and trust? Do we have greater ambitions to achieve monetary and worldly pleasures at the cost of foregoing friendship and trust?

With each relationship that is to be fostered for a healthy and mutually satisfying experience, friendship and trust are the two basic elements/ingredients that is to be nurtured well.

It is not a mushroom that grows in an overnight rain. Each relationship has to be valued and respected, gradually the friendship and trust keeps growing which is tsunami proof, earth quake proof, avalanche proof, electrocution proof, storm proof, water proof and many other proofs. This would stand as a true proof of friendship and trust.

Spouse is one and friends could be many as other relations, with all those whom we move along gaining and expecting true friendship and trust might not be possible, but the intentions have to be there. But with those whom we are close, it is a must. The rest I would say are just acquaintances, even with them our actions should portray that we mean true friendship and trust. That helps in fostering the values on these two qualities, in their minds.

We may not be spoken about as these three characters by a wider audience, we are not here to become a hero or heroine of these qualities, but the respect we gain among the very few we get along is more than the wider audiences' recognition.

Let us set examples to the extent that is possible. I am in it already and trust you would also.

 

thank you LF for the first and the fast one.

 

Thank you V' for the beautiful fb and it is much more valuable than the nomination. I did notice that yesterday on two instances you first went and nominated and then came back to give the fb. That shows the write up has moved you and that known, me too moved.

You must have read much more and to detail, hence your views are wholistic/holistic. But one thing that strikes is the friendship between Krishna and Arjuna is one between an immortal/god and a mortal heavily backed by the god to uphold dharma.

The friendship and trust between these 3 are - mortals, where we stand along side. He did give his life for his friend though it was against dharma and Duryodhana cried only when Karna died and not when he lost his brothers.

Having been orchestrated by the Lord, the message was strong though it was from the group against dharma. I shall recollect the role of Vibeeshna who walked away from Ravana, unlike Karna here. Probably you know better about this and why.

Thank you V' again for the lovely fb and nomination.