Is your life a WARNING or an EXAMPLE?

Why do we conduct ourselves as though our children are not watching us?
Children are remarkably perceptive.Children learn more from what they SEE than what they HEAR.The nerves that go from the eyes are far greater in number than the nerves that go from the ears.Hence the visual impact is always greater than the auditory impact.Children will follow your examples and not your advice.

I am sure you have heard the story of a frail old man who went to live with his son,daughter-in-law and four-year-grandson.The old man’s hands trembled,his eyesight was poor and his steps faltered.The family ate together at the table but the shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult for the aged man.Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor.When he grasped the glass,milk spilled on the tablecloth.The son and the daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess.”We must do something about my father”,said the son.”I’ve had enough of his spilled milk,noisy eating and food on the floor,”added the daughter-in-law.So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner;and since he had broken a dish or two,hisd food was served in a wooden bowl.There the grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed the dinner together.Still,the only words the couple had for the elderly man were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled some food.When the grandson glanced at the grandfather’s direction,he sometimes saw tears in his grandfather’s eyes as he sat alone.The four-year-old watched it all in silence.
One evening,before supper,the father noticed his son playing with some pieces of wood on the floor.He asked the child sweetly,”What are you making”?just as sweetly,the boy replied,”Oh,Iam making a little wooden bowl for you amd mama to eat your food when I grow older”.The four-year-old smiled and got back to work.
The words so struck the parents that they were speechless.Tears began to stream down their cheeks.Though no words was spoken,both knew what had to be done.That evening,the husband took his father’s hand and gently led him back to the family table.For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with his family.For inexplicable reasons,neither the husband nor the wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped,or milk got spilled,or the tablecloth got spoiled…
The father reads out the scripture to the child to explain the virture of honesty.Later while eating his breakfast,he instructs his child to tell the person on the phone that he is not home.The child heard the scripture but saw the liar in action.Remember,”Like father,like child.”Unknowingly,the father has just now issued a licence to the child to lie.
When you ask people to lie FOR you,you have taught them to lie TO you.Through every disrespectful fight that happens between the husband and wife,they have issued a license to their children to disrespectful them;the child does not see the husband and wife fighting,but sees that his father and mother need not be respected.
The role models in the books and scriptures rarely make a greater impact on the child than the one the child sees in action within every home.Moral science is never learnt from books but by watchimg those who live around us.What we leave FOR our children(materialistic abundance)is not as important as what we leave IN our children(moral and ethics)
We need not leave our children ar the mercy of the world,if we can be the building blocks of character and the moral role models they can look up to from within the family.
What we need are more parental role models to show the next generations that there are still people who can walk their talk,and you are one of them.

 

thank u so much for ur first fb vijima.very glad that u liked my post n very happy that I received first fb from you!

 

thank u KV for ur reply.yes we shuld be a role model not a rolling model....liked it

 

thanks GG.....

 

thank u chachi