MA .... Thanks!!

Hi Sweetie!

Your FB is so fantastic yaar! The words of Adi Shankaracharya and the words of wisdom by your Mom are to be written in golden ink.
The Mother is the embodiment of strength , grit , determination, love ,support . Every other relation in this world goes through its ups and downs but the parents are one constant stream of love and nothing ever deters or alters that!

Love,
Devika

Originally Posted by corallux

Dear Devika,

Lovely and apt for Mother's day. Mothers are the same everywhere. The instinct to nourish & protect is the same everywhere. That is what prompted Shri Adi Shankaracharyaji to say " I have seen a bad son never a bad mother".

My mother's advice is on the same lines as your mom's. She also told me something very practical. Not everyone is happy for you. If someone tells you something, verify.

Her words of wisdom helps. One thing she told me when I left for Oz was " Never trust a man who smiles for no reason or a woman to weeps without reason".

I had some bad experiences with Indians here. I realised the meaning of her statement..

Ma, the first word to come out of our mouths when we are born, when we are in pain & when we exit from this world.

Even divinity in various forms needed a mother to come forth.

Hats off to all the moms who watch over us with wisdom & care.

Regards,

Corallux

Dear Sowpar,
Yes it is very true that GOD created Mothers to represent him on earth!
My Mom was indeed a very strong woman and maybe at that age I never realised the hardships she must ve gone through in life to resurrect, but now as the years roll by I understand that only someone extaordinarily courageous could have survived ! She might have been physically weak but mentally very strong , so that made her strongest in the whole wide world for us!

No Sowpar I havent sent it for the contest but I am glad you agree with the fact that we do not have to always follow some stupid tradition set by certain bird brained people!!

Love,
Chechi

Originally Posted by sowparnika

Chechi dear,
It was so moving to read your post....isn't it true that "God coulndt be everywhere, so he created Mothers..."
Mothers are always special, and moms like yours, more so... ito her resilence and strength, bouncing back from her loss and being there for you...
hats off to you for not making her conform to some stupidity in the name of tradition...
my regards to her....

hope you sent this one as an entry for this month's contest....

Dear Kamla,

A beautiful woman with a beautiful heart who speaks beautiful words thats you Kamla!!. Who else would it be but you who can make morales sky rocket with your words of praise!
Yes Kamla , my Mother did face a lot of adversities in life an there were moments of extreme trials and tribulations, but she braved all that with her head held high and that is why my head bows down in front of her in deep honour and respect for the woman who is God to me!!

Love,
Devika

Originally Posted by Kamla

Dear Devika,

If it is from you, we can be assured that it will be a treat.
This was so very touching to read. Your mother has given you gems to live by.
I am so sorry that you lost your father so early in life. I dread to think what hardships your dear mother had to face.
But seeing how our Devika is, it is not hard to guess that she made a success of her tribulations.
Congrats for making it to the FP, once more :)

L, Kamla

Dear Devika,

It is the beauty in you that wants to see beautiful things in others, including the ordinary me. But thanks for making me feel like the beauty queen...I enjoyed my 5 minutes of glory:)
And yes, please give my regards to your beautiful mom.
I hope you do write a few lines for the contest of the Month on this very same subject. Given your way with words, you can surely come up with a very interesting piece.

L, Kamla

Devika!
Those words from your mother are like the sayings of a realised person! Hats off to your mom for such beautiful advice and guidance! And the way you expressed it in your thread- you have touched my heart and made my eyes wet!
Love,
Malathi

Dear Devika

That was a very touching memoir. I am extremely sorry about the demise of your father when you ( and your mom ) were young. The words of wisdom from your mom at such a turbulent time after she lost her husband untimely with little kids to take care of is amazing... You are really lucky to have such a wise and loving mom. I just had to hold back tears while reading it.

I too treasure my mother's advices. I still look upto her for strength, courage, inspiration and patience. I would consider my kid(s) extremely lucky if I can be half the mom she was to us...Happy mother's day to you and all mothers...!

-Gayathri.

Originally Posted by Devika Menon

Mothers are our genuine advisors to us from the time we are placed in her hands the moment we are born. “Don’t cry baby. Go to sleep, ohhohhh……..RaRi Ra Ro….” lulling sounds to put the babies to sleep, “Come on dear have your milk , you’ve to grow up soon” as she breastfeeds. “Do your studies dear, You need to be a Doctor/Engineer” as she takes our studies“Don’t fight” as we pick up quarrels with siblings , friends etc.,...and continues until the time she says, all heavy hearted to the son in law“ Please take care of her…”, teary eyed as he walks away with her precious treasure. And it continues thereafter too…. As long as there is your Mother with you ,you'll have GOD'S words in your ears!! You find heaven in your Mothers arms, her lap is where you get sound sleep.Like there is a saying ,'I searched the world for Love and came home to find it' You will find love ,pure love only in the arms of your Mother!!

I have grown up under the care and guidance of my Mother. All her advices are precious and whatever values I imbibe in me today are the outcome of her advices. But if theres one such advice you want me to share here is the incident when I was adviced by her :


My mother was a beauty , she still is an eternal ethereal beauty , but the concept of her beauty long back was physical beauty while now it is more of a beautiful heart!
She then used to be draped in the most expensive sarees ,all vivid colours, complementing her fair complexion, her long hair always adorned by the orchard of mulapoo.Her forehead was her trademark a huge round kumkum applied with the help of aasha as a base, bright red, seeking Gods blessing in keeping her husband safe and sound. Whenever she visited my school all kids would comment on what a beautiful mother I had.

The thirteenth day of my Fathers demise, I was a young girl , having a brother about three years elder and a younger sister by a couple of years. My Mother all of 35 years. I was sitting in the living room , thinking about my father, trying to solve the puzzle of the cruelities of life , wondering how we all especially my Mother will carry on , how long she would be saddled in the solitude of her bedroom. How many more days would the guests keep arriving and making mother cry?

I heard the noise of the door close. I turned around and saw my Mother all dressed in white all pale devoid of the big trademark Kumkum she was unrecognisable. I couldnt control my tears and have no idea how long I cried in her lap as I felt her stomach shaking an indication that she was crying as well. After what seemed like hours she finally spoke, all faint and inaudible ,I was listening more with my heart as she spoke more with her eyes, but she did say some words that I have treasured and waiting to pass it to my children! My mothers legacy!!
Her words:
“Your Daddy is no more and there might be Men suddenly getting affectionate. So not believe them and be on guard. Don’t allow any unwanted embraces”. I almost kicked a couple of male relatives who did try this, kicked them where it hurt the most and saw them very less in life.
“Don’t tell anyone your problems. No one is genuinely interested in your problems. They potray things that they do not mean. Never tell the world your problems 70% are not interested and 30% are happy about it! Never trust a man till he gives you enough reason to do so! “ I have never shared my troubles. I am not cynical merely worldly wise.
“Always remember there is Spring after Autumn so don’t let grief rule you and also remember there is Autumn after Spring so remember to be humble.” I am very optimistic and remember to cherish the good times and try to stay grounded(never let success go to my head).
“In life never have your palms facing upwards in front of anyone , always have in facing downwards on the crown of people.” I can proudly say I have never asked anything from anyone , but have been very happy to bless.And pray to GOD that this continues. “Trust in GOD, He will help” .I speak to GOD myself .If I need something I ask if HE thinks I deserve , HE gives. I have never needed a mediator between HIM and me.
“I never thought Daddy will go all of a sudden, I am in no position to fend as I have no idea about work having not worked anywhere, I want you to always be self sufficient. Even if you are married and very very rich I wish you always be self sufficient. You never know when and what is going to happen in life .Its better to be prepared”. Today she is happy to see me settled professionally.
“Have faith and confidence in yourself . Do what you feel is right . At times follow your heart but insist on checking it with your head. You are a sensible girl . I can trust you to handle life well. I do not know how long I will live without your father that’s why I am telling you all this today before its very late.” I told her “ MA , I promise to follow your your advice.” The next moment I got up and went to the dressing table and came back to stick a red bindi , a small one on her forehead. I said “Ma , Dad will hate to see you without this, I shall follow all you say just please never remove this.” Its been about two decades and we both have kept our promise.!!
MA........ THANKS!

Love,
Devika

Dear devika
Afanastic article brought tears to my eyes.These words of wisdom shall always be remembered
asha

Dear Devika,

One of the most touching pieces i have ever read.Your mom is so sensible and practicle.And so are you.She must be very proud of u.

I liked the part about people not caring for yr problems.Yes hardly anyone care really.this is man eat man world.Each to their own.

And all advise that she has given u and u have shared with us,is just wonderful.God bless u always.Regards.kamal

Dear dear Devika!

Just really couldnt control my tears on on reading it. Hats off to your mom-- she has certainly inculcated a wonderful strength within herself.I am sure you must be a wonderful lady too. Wish I could meet you and ur mom sometime.

One great quality that my mom has imbibed in me, is the capacity to face the world confidently in toughest of times! My mother is one person who just does not have anyone disliking her!(touchwood).She has recouped through a lot of tough times and handled delicated situations with great knack! I do admire respect and look upon her, and at times even imitate her way of handling people! But i have a looong way to go to be half as good as amma! :)

Thanks dear Devika, for the thread. Made my day! :)

Regards,
Purni

My dear Devikutty,

You have written this piece from your heart with tremendous feeling.I was deeply saddened to learn that your dear father was not there during your growing up years and that your dear mother......a great lady with grit and determination faced all the challenges thrown to her and emerged victorious bringing up her young ones all by herself .Devikutty dear, you ( and your siblings) are the testimony of that brilliant success.Your dear mother is truly the embodiment of courage ,having taken up the gigantic task of running your father's business and that too with very little experience she built up a strong fortress of security for you all facing surely a lot of tribulations in a man's world.
I admired the way ,you as a young girl had the spirit in you to see to it that your dear mother continued to wear the bindi throwing all those "bird-brained" peoples theories out of the window ...... to you too.! .....that was a beautiful thing you did at such a young age.
Both of you are fortunate to have each other.May the Almighty bless you and give you the strength to face up to any such social restictions.
Devikutty dear,your mother's advice on all matters has seen you through all the paths of life you have tread so far ...it will be your guiding light always.Treasure it always ....for that has what has made you a superb human being.You are such an
affectionate and generous friend and here at IL there are a large number of us who enjoy the company of such a lovable person like DEVIKA MENON !!

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY to MOM ANd U !

" Mother's hold their children's hands for a short while, but their hearts forever."
by ------- an unknown source ----- but by a loving child of a loving mother somewhere out there !!

Warm regards,
PAULINA