Retired or Not retired?

Originally Posted by SupriyaDinesh

Dear AC,
If GPs are willing and young enough to take of grand kids then there is nothing wrong in babysitting.Otherwise it makes them overtired both emotionally and physically.I have not been in such situation though.If ladies are not supposed to let their child to GPs ,child-care and as such then women cannot come into any field.Like schools,GPs and child-care also are learning institutions.If leaving a child in school is fine then so are the other options..as long as both sides are happy.

Dear Supriya
I liked your reply.. to me its very interesting.. according to you its o.k. to leave the child in daycare etc as long as its o.k. with both parties. You're right that women cannot advance in any field if they do not have options..

Originally Posted by Nandshyam

Let me not shoot up my BP today

Stupid youngsters.. What goes around, will come around ;)

Shall I say by far the sweetest and shortest answer.. straight to the point

I think the prblem is with the GP only. Parents always thinks that their child is still young and dont know how to face the daily life.Children exploits their parents concern about them. Most GPs take all these hardships for making their children happy not their grand children.

Originally Posted by soji

I think the prblem is with the GP only. Parents always thinks that their child is still young and dont know how to face the daily life.Children exploits their parents concern about them. Most GPs take all these hardships for making their children happy not their grand children.

Very well said Soji. Welcome to IL:)

hi ,
I have always thought about this . It is only the attitude that is important. The children shoul think it is a favour the parents are doing and not their duty and treat tem accordingly the Gp should feel happy to help out their children and should have the liberty and freedom to express their inablity to help them out when it stresses them out. Iguess it would be pleseant to both the parents and Gp if this level of communication is possible and maintained. The grandchildren will also benifit from this arrangement.
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AC Dals,

This is a heart touching topic.

It has been often observed that parents are used as substitutes for servants to put the matter straight. Going home to spend vacation to relax and worry the old bones is not correct.

Youngsters look for comfort and when will they retire?? Let them enjoy life, let them have a breather. It is nice to call them home, but not for a purpose. To take care of kids, there should be maids. Parents will always extend their hands for their kids, they will never complain about the aches and pains, we have to understand and give them the rest. At the young age, we need crib on so many duties that we have to do, wont they feel like relaxing?

I have seen this in our relatives too, my aunt who is in her 60's cooking seriously for her working son and daughter-in-law and her husband seriously baby sitting their grand daughter. Son and daughter-in-law are in no hurry to reach home and give a break to the aged bones. Even after coming home, they are idling away their time and posing the responsibilites of their kids on the grand parents.

Calling parents home for post baby shower is also very common. Maids will not take care like parents is the common dialouge. I agree totally, but have maids around and let parents only supervise.

AC Dals, some souls die giving their blood to their family and the repentance dawns in only after losing them forever.

Myself and my sister made our mom retire from all work from the time we gained maturity. She would only cook for us. No cleaning the platform no cleaning vessels nothing. Just cook and put off the gas. We would cut the vegetables, run the mixer pull the spatulas everything for her. Arrre!! she is mom yaar, the lady who has given us place on this earth.

Bye dals!!