There he goes.........

Finally, it was all over. All the relatives and friends trickled out. Everybody said the food was excellent and left with the address of the caterer in hand. It had been a tiring 2 weeks - doing this, cleaning that, cooking, taking care of people who had come. Nobody had anytime to think. Now tha everybody had left, thoughts raced to last Sunday. Tears trickled down as the events played themselves like a movie.........

It was 2:15, early in the mornig on Sunday. The cell was incesantly ringing, disturbing a very deep slumber. Surprisingly it was a call from my in-laws downstairs asking me to come immediately - my father in law(mama) was not feeling well. I don't even rememebr how I changed my dress. My husband, who is a late sleeper, was awake and rushed down immediately. I went down to see my mama breathing laboriously. He was struggling to breathe. We first asked him if he felt any pain anywhere - he answered in the negative. Thanking God that it was not a heart attack, we rushed to find a means of transport. I was assuming his BP had shot up - it was a bit high a couple of days back. Thankfully, our neighbour has a taxi and he didn't grumble
when we woke him up. By 2:20, we were off to the hospital that was 10 minutes away from home. Half way to the hospital, my mama became unconscious. I felt for a pulse and found a very feeble one. Then I started pumping his heart, trying to resuscitate him. By then there was hardly any pulse. We reached the hospital where the duty doctor asked us to take him to another hospital which had better facilities. I yelled at the doctor and we rushed my mama to the other hospital which was 10 mins away, given that there was no traffic. By then, there was froth pouring out of his mouth and nostrils.....we never did understand. At the second hospital, they tried to resuscitate him but to no avail! They told us he had been brought in dead - there was nothing they could do as it was a massive heart attack. My mama, who was very understanding, who loved my cooking, who was always helpful, who was always jovial, who never got tense, my beloved mama was no more! I couldn't understand it! Tears were rolling as they do now..........I still do not understand why such a person had to be snatched from us so early. We were back home by 3:00 on sunday morning. Everything had happened in the span of 45 minutes.

My husband's nephew did something funny, and someone cracked a joke. We all laughed. My mama never liked it if anybody cried. So we try not to, especially so my mother-in-law will be in better spirits. We are all trying to accept the facts of life. It will take time. And till then we will alternate between tears of sorrow and joy. After all, life continues..............

Dear Anitha,

Very sorry to note about your FIL's demise and pray to the Lord for the soul to rest in peace.

I agree and understand the pain or a vaccum created when loved ones pass away. But I advice you to be strong to help your MIL who needs everybody's support now. She may not know the impact immediately but slowly when she starts missing him in her daily routine, it will be very tough for her. Hence request you to be kindly be there for her.

Let the Almighty give her the strength to bear this huge loss.

Dear Lalitha,

Thank you for your words. My MIL has 2 sons and a daughter who are all one of a kind. We will never give up on her and will always be there for her - more so now than before.

Regards,
Anitha

Dear Anitha,
Heartfelt Condolences!
I understand what pains the family must have gone through! Dont know what else to say!God called him to His abode atleast by not giving much pain to him. May his soul rest in Peace.

Hi Anitha,
My deapest Condolences to your family & you.
May his soul rest in peace.

I have been reading quite a few of your posts for sometime in the TTC forum.
I was thinking some days back , as to why you've not posted....
If I'm not wrong , I also noted that there is a seemandham / valikappu in your family, thought you were busy....

Okay, dear, do take care

hi Anitha,

sorry to hear of your loss...but we all have to go thru it...and atleast u were nearby...u will really miss him as he seems to be such a nice jolly person....Good to see that u sound like one affectionate family and i am sure that will pull u thru this difficult times....

Mindi

Dear Anitha,

My Heartfelt Condolences to and your family.. Its really very sad wen some thing like this happens suddenly.. I can understand your feelings towards your FIL and it must be really most painful to u all for not having de person any more around you..

Thack care of urself and ur family..!!

Dear Anitha,
Heartfelt condolences to you and your family. It must have been such a shock to have lost your FIL like that even before you could realise what was happening.
Take care, it will help you to know that your friends here are around always.

Dear Anitha,
My deepest Condolences to you n to ur family.....I know how you feel...Be cheerful as "even this shall pass"...Its easier said than done rite???

It's almost 9 months that i lost my grandpa...and even now i wake up in the middle of night somedays....saying i hear his voice....calling my name..and tears roll down once i realise that its a fake one... I -being his dearest Grand daughter...

Its so nice that you say that ur MIL will be taken care now with more love n attention...to you for that!! Not many do that.....I'm sure that you willovercome this as time passes....Take care dear!

Dear Anitha,
My condolences to you and the family.As Lalitha has said,your MIL may not feel the pain now but as the days go by she will remember her husband on every little occasion and will miss him,that pain is unbearable.With children like you and your husband ,your brother in law,sister in law and their families by her side I am sure she will slowly come to accept life .It pains me to write these words,because it is easy to say these things but only the concerned people know thw sorrow the pain gives.
Take care,we are all with you.
mithila