Letter to a brother..

priya4raj · Feb 27, 2014

Dear brother,

Yesterday, I saw my little girl returning from school, clasping her brother's arm tightly and I forcefully made myself to dwell in the memoirs of our beautiful relationship. I don't want to scrap my memory to find out when it turned beautiful.. I don’t want to. But I know, it is, now.. I have an unasked question, brother? what was the thought that hit your mind when you saw me first, wrapped in a towel, when nanny jubilated to the entire hall the arrival of the first girl baby of our family, and when you saw me around the corner of your eyes… was it envy? pride? joy? I am sure you would have envied me when mamma kissed me, papa stroked my hair , and aunts exhilarated my features.. I remember the days you would escort me to school or the park side where we would play in the evenings.. I hope those were the days when your envy turned into pride, that you are a big brother.. Adolescence gave us maturity and we became busy enjoying the fantasies that it brings along, both of us separately! And remember, how we both would join dad to make fun of mom's cooking experiments?

Being the youngest in the family I had troubles little, and there was always somebody behind me jotting down my issues, even if I had any.. It was you who turned the key of my freedom on.. U stood beside me when I wanted to go out of home for a profession of my own.. And without you, I would have been wingless now.. Days flew, I doubt whether I shared stories of my experiences out in the world with you. Didn't I? I remember how you looked when I got married, I too was telling hubby that you are worried that I wouldn't be there to fight with.. But, now, I re-think.. were you feeling bad that your sister is not your sister alone then?? Tears roll down when I think so.. Anyways, with the memories of togetherness and with the lessons from dad and mom, I promise we will remain friends forever.. Dear, I realize the strength and the real sense of brotherhood especially after getting married and when sharing the life and love with another guy, and after living with kids and after the distance that has been imposed on us like every other brother and sister.. And I have to tell you something too, for all the wonderful memories- sharing, caring, fussing, pushing, fights and 'establishing rights', that you have created for me,

I thank you, I love you and miss you too!!

- ever loving sis.

PS: Just like a child bearing woman's cravings, I have a craving of a lifetime, and that is to have an elder brother.. Brotherly feeling has been imparted my many brothers, but something in me always wishes to a have a branded elder one!! And this would be my letter to him, if he had been there!!

Srama · Feb 28, 2014

That is a nice write up Priya and I am sure many have that wonderful relationship. I hope you find that brother may be in a cousin? And oh that question you have for your brother about what he thought when he saw you first, well my DS when he saw his sister on the day she was born, simply drew a stick picture to show his teachers about how she looks. Feelings, only excitement to have a new toy

Priya4oct · Feb 28, 2014

Priya,,

Nice write-up...came all my childhood memories in mind. I am lucky to have two elder brothers who always treated me like princes. They are always for me ..any time..any where..I am proud of them.

PS - I share same cordial relationship with my SILs too

rgsrinivasan · Feb 28, 2014

A very nice anecdote, it sounded to me till I read the last paragraph Priya4Raj. That took this to a higher plane. Perhaps that makes this all the more closer. Thanks for sharing. Nice one.

What were you thinking when I was
Given to you for the first time dear?
Was that envy or joy? I now pause.
I don't know which to mention here!

Later however it all turned out to be
A visible pride as you started to cherish
Me and I enjoyed your company
And felt so happy and only wished

More of your time but we grew up then
Had our own worlds and things to do.
I still feel bad to see your tears when
I got married. Then I shed too a few.

Now that I have a person of my own
And the children that I like,
I wish that I had earlier known
Your depth of love and feel like

Crying all over again, you know?
All along I felt I had one.
This time I feel it even more so.
Wish my longing gets me one.

PriyaSrini · Feb 28, 2014

Nice write up Priyaraj and I got bowled over reading the last para. Nevertheless a lovely letter.

Having said that, I hope you have your family and friends always with you that you don't ever feel the lack of a brother.hugsmiley

ananddeepa · Feb 28, 2014

Hai,Priya I your letter is touching, I wish I too had a brother.

priya4raj · Mar 3, 2014

thank u sabitha(I learnt that it is your name, from some of the previous threads), i too have that experience with my kids, and that also was a reason for the stimulation of the concept.. thank you rgs, for the repartee, nice one.. thank u priyasrini, so thoughtful..

thegirlygirl · Mar 4, 2014

Nice write up!!

I wish I had a loving brother like the one you mentioned, I have a younger brother and he is not even close to what you have described, has no time for me, is neither much interested in me or my life.

I wish to have a loving, caring and protective brother who can be a pillar of strength to me......sigh!!....if wishes were horses, beggars would ride!!

priya4raj · Mar 4, 2014

thanks girlygirl.. yeah, you are right, when i discussed this letter with a cousin brother of mine, who is younger than me, he told, "akka, you must see whether the brother reciprocates the same feel" and i told him, " I dont want to think about that, and that may shaken the feel-good concept, that the letter creates", and now you come up with an example!

thegirlygirl · Mar 4, 2014

You're right Priya, my brother is just a final year engineering student, not too old, is not on his own,doesn't even have a wife, though he has a girlfriend, and even then he is this way.

I wonder what he will be like when he gets himself a wife, and will be earning his own money!

He only talks to me formally when I insist to talk to him, does not care to tell me what is going on in his life, even when I try telling him about my life or my struggle, he is very cold and and uninterested in listening.

Generally brothers are very sensitive towards their sisters pain and struggle, but my 22 year old brother is an exception!!

Though he feels deep empathy for his girlfriend regarding her family issues and her PMS problems, when I told him about my PCOS problem few months back when he came home, (I had to tell him due to some reasons, I was suffering at that time,and needed to share it with someone, I don't have a sister, and my friends are not around) he was very cold and and had least sympathy for me.

I have decided in my heart, to never return to my parents place after marriage, I wonder if he would be really looking forward to having me or my kids around. I don't think we will even meet each other much later in life, maybe just at social gatherings,though I don't tell this to my mother as it will break her heart, but just today I told her I will not be going to UK this year with them for his convocation, but I gave some other excuse for it.

My logic is, if he is so private, does not even want me to see his college pics in his computer when he comes home, then why should I go there to see his private world?

But don't get disheartened hearing about my story, I know many brothers who simply dot on their sisters, they treat them like princesses all their lives, and are very emotional even about their sisters's children.

Amir khan would be one example!! And another, shakuni mama......oops I think I am too much into star plus mahabharat these days!!