Are we setting the right example?

yes many a time we see this all over the place, but yes there are some who are still considerate, while coming back from pudukottai to trichy,it is a 2.1/4 hour journey, so i noticed an elderly man standing poor fellow then suddenly more rush passed out as all got down and he sat down only to see a lady coming in with a child on her hip, immediately he gave way to her, felt soothed and it was a nice scene too..sunkan

Dear Lalitha Shivaguru,

Congrats are in order because your thread has been nominated for the Finest Post of the Month!

BTW, me too a Bangalorean and all those decades back, lived very close to Majestic!! Can you imagine, it was possible to live in a lovely little house with a garden in the vicinity of Majestic???!!!! I guess, no one can believe that today! Another matter that the house does not even exist today and those roads are unrecognizable....

But coming to the matter of what is right and wrong...Life has been always like that. Never fair. If there are some good people around, there were also the others!

But as long as there is a Lalitha S who is noticing as to what is taking place around her and is not afraid to raise a voice about it, there will always be a hope!
So all is not lost yet ..... I am sure there is more than one mother out there teaching good manners and right and wrong to her kid. Let her ilk grow:)

L, Kamla

Dear Lalitha,
Yes,I also feel the same way.The inability to accomodate others,the inability to give others the human consideration which we would expect others to give us.As you have rightly observed the child ,if he is not being guided properly here in a bus what guidance will he get in the journey of life from his parents.Tomorrrow he may turn out ot be a selfish son who will not accomodate his parents in his world/home.
mithila kannan

Dear Kamla,

Now this is news to me.

Congrats are in order because your thread has been nominated for the Finest Post of the Month!

Only you people are making this happen and I humbly to you for your lavish praises and whether I am worthy of that or not I am not so sure. Now the greater responsibility also lies on my shoulders so that I am always be awake to see these kind of wrongs and bring it home and my children.

Thanx a lot for coming here........ It means a lot to me.

Also was very gald to note another Bangalorean and rightly as you say that we cannot see a house in the first place in Majestic area and after that only garden. Nice knowing you.

Dear S,

Thanx for coming in and writing about a soothing experience whch is very hard to find nowadays.

Dear M Mami,

Thanx for dropping in here.

Tomorrrow he may turn out ot be a selfish son who will not accomodate his parents in his world/home.

The same is my concern too and thanx for sharing the same.

Hi lalitha,

You have written well about the day to day incident and how it goes a long way in imparting good values & moulding the character of kids.
Very true that to instill moral values in children, we ourselves have to lead by example and we as parents have to each and every step of ours.
But, today's children are lot more smarter. They do adjust and on the other hand expect the same from others also. My kid who is just 4 starts questioning if he behaves good to somebody and gets back nonsense!!!
In a way, it is increasingly difficult for parents to teach them that they should have virtues though in this kaliyug, what they might get back in return from others will be all vices.

roshniv

Dear Lalitha,

You write so well.......
I agree with u that the mother must have adjusted and made place for another woman and set an example for her son.

Dear Roshini & Saikripa,

Thanks for peeping in and giving your valuable fb. It means a lot to me.

Dear Roshini,

Agreed today's children are more smarter but we have to give them guidelines also and we should not be the one to set a bad example. Regarding to getting back, maybe we can explain to them little patiently those are the ways of the world but being good and setting an example always help in becoming a more responsible citizen.

dear lalitha,

i am a bangalorean, now in chennai.................

when i read your thread, i felt like quoting my experiences tooooooooo..........hope you dont feel bad.....................
i have faced similar situations when travelling in trains................especially the brindavan express...............from bangalore to chennai, as the train is nearing katpadi junction, we can see the general compartment passengers coming into reserved compartments and ask for seats...............when we do so much homework............standing for hours in those long queues.................we get our seats in train, but people just come in general tickets and want seats in reserved compartments......................

so i will act according to the situations, .............when a person really need to sit ( like old people, pregnant ladies, handicaps, ), i will accomodate them in our seats, i tell my kids to give little space and do you know...............after few stations, my daughter will stand and ................she ll tell, mama that person pushed me ............and i dont have place to sit..................O M G , i go mad..............then i ask that person to move a little and i tell my daughter to sit, ...........now when we travel................we dont want to give that little space.............my conscience will be pricking me...............what to do, at times, we are forced to do such things in life............so this is the scenario everywhere in this world.................

just with this one incident we cannot judge a person..........its always survival of the fittest.....................this is my experience..........

love
padma