To understand a woman better.....your help needed!

Dear Ilites,

As you all know that I am a media related person, I would like to place two major questions here regarding a project on woman.

Your valuable suggestions and answers are very much needed here. You may even narrate incidents related to the questions. Here you go...

1) What are the questions, dilemmas, conflicts, unusual situations does women face today?

2) What are the things women would like to learn/understand through media (TV & Radio)?

May be your valuable suggestions reach the media and help the women of today to lead a hassle free life.

Pour your thoughts and truths.

Dear Vanaja,


What a fantabulous topic.
I am sure the outpour would be strong.

Well I feel that the dilemma and unusual situations faced by women today are:
1. When they are equipped with the potential to do something and a fantastic career opportunity comes along , they are always in a dilemma about whether to take it ,due to familial responsibilities.
2. When to have kids . Whether the arrival of a child would mean an end to an interesting career that they have struggled to build. Not many might agree to this , but this is fairly rampant.
3. When all their efforts of making the home and family goes futile and all they get is brickbats, women are in a dilemma about how to carry on without any expectations.


About learning something from the media , I guess the media can highlight certain points on these:

1.Lucrative career from home ,I guess a lot of women would want to pursue a career from home with minimal investmentrs , so which is the best way to achieve that,
2.How to work on an effective marriage./ relationship
3.How to ensure great development of children morally and physically.
4.How to begin the life afresh in times of adversities.
5. How to beat stress and ensure a healthy and happy life .

Guess that would be for now. Incase I remember some more points do excuse my trespassing!

Love,
Devika

hi devika,

thanks a lot for the fabulous FB.

under dilemma, what you have cited are genuine for any woman. but do not know the major take over. and for that i think i need to conduct a special survey .

under learning from media, all the points are really essential for any woman. as they are the actual stages every woman undergo.

thank you very much for bringing out these aspects. i shall definitely take up your suggestions to the project lead.

dear ilites,

i am disappointed with the souring response here. though the views are 60 only one reply .

have i not mentioned in the tittle - your help needed!

Vanaja,

Will come with a reply by evening dear..saw it yesterday itself..little busy..have to use a little of that woman's brain you see(if i do have some)

Hi Vanaja,

Here I come again:)

Vanaja about learning from the media, I guess you could help with acquiring business loans for women , how to go about it. And also about investments .I'm sure most of them would like to know about both .
How to get the finance to start something ,you know like a small business loan,specially if they are not currently working and do not have any assets against their name ,then this would be a great help.
Also they would like to plan their savings for the future, so again something on savings where in they could reap rich dividends would be very welcome.

love,
Devika

Dear Vanaja,

An apt topic in the current times. My observation and my personal experience I feel

1. A women is under serious dilemma when she has to taken an important decision involving her marriage or life etc. Women should have an individuality. They should raise against domestic abuse. More often it is felt the mental torture is more and the lady feels she cannot ask for help as there is no evidence.

2. Sexual harrassment against women. Whether she should complain about the harassment because if the women openly discuss, it is always felt that she is on the wrong side.

3. How to bring up the teenage kids (especially female) with rampant premarital sex, rapes ets. How the teenager can help herself.

The media can help in bringing

1. The legal angle more clearly. In some cases where they can have counsellors (some cae studies as examples) When the women walks out of her marriage,the options available.

2. Some women tend to be in a bad relationship just because they are financially dependant and nobody is there to look after them. Media can help in bringing the options available and also in dealing with the erring partners.

dear lalitha,

very valuable suggestions. you have come out with different answers. when i receive more replies, i will have to compile them all and submit. thanks a lot for taking time to read, understand and answer my questions.

Originally Posted by lalitha shivaguru

Dear Vanaja,

An apt topic in the current times. My observation and my personal experience I feel

1. A women is under serious dilemma when she has to taken an important decision involving her marriage or life etc. Women should have an individuality. They should raise against domestic abuse. More often it is felt the mental torture is more and the lady feels she cannot ask for help as there is no evidence.

2. Sexual harrassment against women. Whether she should complain about the harassment because if the women openly discuss, it is always felt that she is on the wrong side.

3. How to bring up the teenage kids (especially female) with rampant premarital sex, rapes ets. How the teenager can help herself.

The media can help in bringing

1. The legal angle more clearly. In some cases where they can have counsellors (some cae studies as examples) When the women walks out of her marriage,the options available.

2. Some women tend to be in a bad relationship just because they are financially dependant and nobody is there to look after them. Media can help in bringing the options available and also in dealing with the erring partners.

Dear Vanaja,

My profile here so that your final analysis / bucketing can become easy. I am post graduate woman, married to an entrepreneur, have two kids, hold a part time job in a bio-informatics company, living in Bangalore.

What are the questions, dilemmas, conflicts, unusual situations does women face today?
1) Socialising etiquette - whether it is my office party or my husband's office party or a party in the apartment, I am usually in a bit of dilemma about dress code, topics to pursue at the party, etc. Another dilemma could be intake of drinks. I dont drink but I sometimes grope for the right thing to say when somebody offers me something, because I dont want to sound 'preaching type'. At the same time, I dont like to immediately classify women who drink as women of 'lose' character. And dancing. I like it but am a bit hesitant to take the floor with men or unknown women. I am more comfortable with my husband and my kids.

2) Time with kids vs time with husband vs time for oneself. A very subjective, family-specific, and mood-specific(!) dilemma. Let me describe what I am going through now. I am a very independant person and like to have free time for myself and my husband encourages it a lot. I also love travelling and had a touring job before kids. The conflict I face is this - I want to take off for a few days/weeks to some dream location and my husband will be thrilled if I do this. But I have still not done this for reasons like how can i leave the kids and go (though I have very good help at home); how can I go without my hus band ? will I enjoy without him? Do I deserve it (this is one big question I am working on myself!!). I have now found some like-minded women with whom I am planning some travel.

3) Coping with spouse's travails in his career pursuits. When the husband has some entrepreneurial streak, the family has to get involved heavily - interms of finance, time, risk-management, emotional involvement. Sometimes, the decision is not simple. All you have to support a decision is your husband's gut feeling pitted against so many other factors. These days with so many men donning the entrepreneurial hat, I am sure many women face this. It can even influence the woman's decision to keep a steady career or not.

4) How much freedom for kids in this generation of 'information overload'? Where to put the stop? I dont know and we are discovering for ourselves and what is helping us are some basic values in the family.

What are the things women would like to learn/understand through media (TV & Radio)?
1) any light on the last point mentioned above
2) alternate career options/ work from home options/ areas where educated women can make a significant contribution to the society (eg. microfinance, etc)
3) Family health and nutrition related information
4) Awareness about women's rights and access to help. I read about women getting abused and who put up with it for various reasons. Media can help them in various ways by giving information about counsellors, forums for advice, legal help, and most importantly, tell them that they need not / should not put up with it etc

Will add if I feel strongly about anything else.

Let us hope your survey is fruitful and helps our society in some way.

Cheers,

Sumathy

Hello,nice topic,
From media, work from home & some general info',how to handle the situation,reg. money,inlaws probs,where to complain,abt loan for housewife for small business,abt the organization which'll help against harassment something like this..

House work load,tc of fl'y alone is the big issue,inlaws probs,working women face lots of probs,need to sacrifice her promotion,manage all the household chores,....
i'll give u some more points shortly..