Discipline Has Changed

dear Meeta my sweet
You always make me smile when u come reply.. yes agree with u that child is like wax should be molded.. totally understand about parents reacting etc.. thanks for writing.

Sindhu my dearie
Glad u came back to added some more important lines... Abuse of any sort should never ever be tolerated. to anyone too... I have observed in children that you can mildly scold them and thats always enough..also if we look disapproving that works too.. need not even raise voice let alone hand.. But this is mainly bec we spend a lot of time quality time with children that how we react to them becomes more important.. Even in t.v. ads they say the children whose parents are more involved are less likely to do drugs etc.. Ultimately it boils down to parent involvement.

Interesting topic! I agree that the ways of discipline change with time and teritory. My opinion is Disciplining anyone should be done from inside out with phsychological and philosophical methods and not by physical methods. And that requires involvement of parents, teachers, relatives and everybody to lead a life of example, so that the kid disciplines himself/herself with minimal efforts.

Dear Venonimiss
Very nicely and well said ..inside out.. sometimes its easier said than done .. but words of your to go by..

Hi anandchitra,

I feel discipline comes ONLY from home.

Parents should not allow the students to take cell phone to school.

we as students didn't have any of these facilities.

Even schools should not allow students to bring cellphone etc.

In the above case , teacher could have explained the child in a kind manner.

prabha

Dear AC,

Sorry for being late but from yesterday I am try to post and my internet connections is bent on playing a spoilsport to my efforts.

I am with you on this issue.

I also feel that parents should not interfere when the teacher is disciplining the child. A little caning will help them in the long run. When the parents start to side the child, the child get totally confused. Agreed caning should not be done resulting in a serious physical injury. And care should be taken that the teacher in the bargain does not create an emotional scar.

I will tell you an incident happend with my younger daughter. When she was admitted newly for I std in the present school, she used to fall sick very often and miss her classes (thanks to our transfer from Port Blair). She had scored very less in her Maths exam so the concerned teacher called me and infront of the child started accusing her and even remarked about her character. I was really hurt but did not retard back to the teacher fearing my child might take undue advantage of the situation. But till date my dd does not like the teacher nor the subject. Iam at my wits end to help her score better marks but nothing seems to help!! Whether it is due to this incident or she lacks the basic interest I don't know......

Dear AC,

Sorry for being late but from yesterday I am try to post and my internet connections is bent on playing a spoilsport to my efforts.

I am with you on this issue.

I also feel that parents should not interfere when the teacher is disciplining the child. A little caning will help them in the long run. When the parents start to side the child, the child get totally confused. Agreed caning should not be done resulting in a serious physical injury. And care should be taken that the teacher in the bargain does not create an emotional scar.

I will tell you an incident happend with my younger daughter. When she was admitted newly for I std in the present school, she used to fall sick very often and miss her classes (thanks to our transfer from Port Blair). She had scored very less in her Maths exam so the concerned teacher called me and infront of the child started accusing her and even remarked about her character. I was really hurt but did not retard back to the teacher fearing my child might take undue advantage of the situation. But till date my dd does not like the teacher nor the subject. Iam at my wits end to help her score better marks but nothing seems to help!! Whether it is due to this incident or she lacks the basic interest I don't know......

Dear chitra,

Well said.I am on yr side.

In oru days, a note was written in the calender that we used to carry, and we had to get it signed by our parents.So they are aware of whats going on.

we wer also caned at times.And our parents never ever said a thing.

Punishment is always good for the students.Dont we train a new puppy with a trainer, who has to be cruel at times, to teach the dogs.Same is the case with humans.

Even today, i dont mind ticking off my kids if they are wrong sometimes.We loved them, that is why we scold them when the need arisies.

Regards.kamal

Originally Posted by prabhabala

Hi anandchitra,

I feel discipline comes ONLY from home.

Parents should not allow the students to take cell phone to school.

we as students didn't have any of these facilities.

Even schools should not allow students to bring cellphone etc.

In the above case , teacher could have explained the child in a kind manner.

prabha

Dear Prabha
We as students did not have so MANY MANY priveldges...I dont think the teacher did anything wrong taking the kid to Principals office but these days everything gets blown out of proportion..I know for a fact that this kid has been warned many times before.. also students are not allowed to use cellphones during school hours..thats school policy too..:)

Dear Lallu (not to be confused with laloo of Bihar fame!)
Its sad that incident happened in your daughters life..esp at young age.. maybe you can try getting her to go to Math camps or Math classes that are done in fun way.. or you can get some puzzles or books and share it together.. This is really touchy sometimes when a teacher can be rude or abusive though for the most part I think theiro.k. Again I would look into helping out in the class if thats possible.. here we are allowed to volunteer in the school and I mainly go to see how everything is going.. our kids appear differnt in the school setting I feel.dont worry about dd..i'm sure everything will work out fine:)

Originally Posted by lalitha shivaguru

Dear AC,

Sorry for being late but from yesterday I am try to post and my internet connections is bent on playing a spoilsport to my efforts.

I am with you on this issue.

I also feel that parents should not interfere when the teacher is disciplining the child. A little caning will help them in the long run. When the parents start to side the child, the child get totally confused. Agreed caning should not be done resulting in a serious physical injury. And care should be taken that the teacher in the bargain does not create an emotional scar.

I will tell you an incident happend with my younger daughter. When she was admitted newly for I std in the present school, she used to fall sick very often and miss her classes (thanks to our transfer from Port Blair). She had scored very less in her Maths exam so the concerned teacher called me and infront of the child started accusing her and even remarked about her character. I was really hurt but did not retard back to the teacher fearing my child might take undue advantage of the situation. But till date my dd does not like the teacher nor the subject. Iam at my wits end to help her score better marks but nothing seems to help!! Whether it is due to this incident or she lacks the basic interest I don't know......