Talking negative about 3rd person

Hello all,
I just want to know your thoughts about talking negative about 3rd person it can be your friend also. I just don't understand why some in fact many people talk negative about somebody who is not around. I know many people who do like that. Even my friends talk like that about one of us when that person is not around. What will they gain?????? Even though we don't do anything wrong people just find -ve in everything or they just talk cheaply about others.
recently i came across a situation where we need to help one of our friends. My husband even took leave from office to help them even though he has lot of work. but you know what they said at the end, they said my husband is overflowing with leaves and dont know what to do with them, so he took leave whats the big deal. i don't want them to appreciate us ..they know how busy he is..i just hate such people, if they can't appreciate thats fine...but they should not degrade us like that...i really felt very hurt...i just want to went out this...

Dear Pebblebeach,

Welcome to the harsh world of reality.

I had many experiences like this. I just do my duty & forget all about it. Not easy at first. But it helps.

Don't worry yaar, people will talk. Just brush it off & keep walking. They will run out of steam.

If you feel you are being treated like a doormat, get out of that friendship.Because that is not friendship, it is a matter of convenience (for the other person)

Awaiting more inputs

Regards,

Corallux

Hi,

This happens not only among friends but is a common factor in the work place and also even among relatives...the best thing to do is just turn a deaf ear to it....you see what you dont hear cannot hurt you..

warm wishes,

aqua.

You just cannot talk negative about someone who has helped you. Whether it is a friend or relative is not of concern.If your DH had leave he should have saved it.He has worked to accumulate the leave, how will they know the difficulty? Sad state but will make us learn a that people are like that.
Maybe we will think twice when we have to do it next, feel sad for your hubby.

Dear Pebblebeach,

i always thank that person for giving me an opportunity to learn a new experience..........and they inturn season us well you see...............so just forget it yaar...........dont worry.........if you start thinking like that then you cannot help those who are in need of your help..................dont expect anything from anybody.........just do good and leave it, you are saving virtues for your kids in ths bank.........so they will reap the benefits.............i know you may be thinking what this lady is talking philosophy..........yes, people around me have made me to talk like this...........so one day you will be talking like this...............bye dear

take care of your health, ignore all these
love
padma

Pebblebeach,
I feel sorry for the situation you and your husband has been put it in...
Just ignore this friendship, who were using you guys..beware if you venture to help out...this is 'yugam' is like that...we are not able to differentiate, until we 'experience' something like this...next time be careful....
Just ignore this and move on, thinking about this will only bring distress to you and your hubby...thinking about it will worsen the situation and add on to your burden..
forget--eventhough it is not possible---can have a try at least not to remember every minute...

It is good that you vented out your feelings, be burden-less and move on..

sriniketan

PB,

There will always be such people , now andin future too.Now that uknow what kind ofpeople they are, just ignore them in the future and dotn go out of yr way to help them.Your consience will be at ease.

Regards.kamal