My journey towards a new home

Aishu,
You made me go through those times again...
I was not crying and also my parents (they might have but didn't show their feeling in front of me).
But what happened after I entered the in-laws place, this is very interesting...till now I didn't get to know the reason...I was dumb-struck for 2-3 days exactly. It is true. i was not able to speak at all, no words came from my mouth.
Maybe this was weird but it did happen...my parents are of the reason that I might be in shock bonkwhat say ..I still didn't ask my husband the reason for that...

sriniketan

Hi Aishu,
I could easily visualise the scene described here......still my eyes are tear filled...
Mine was a love marriage but still never felt happy to leave home.....but I tried hard to control my crying during Bidaaii, and was asking my cousins to take care of my Mom and me, myself also tried o console my mom and kept asking her not to cry this heavily.....I was really shocked to see my mom crying unconsolably.....and my Papa who was also grim.......I really could not forget those moments ever in my life........
I didn't cried in front of them but in the car.......I cried so much and asked my hubby not to take me away from my parents....
Even at my In-laws place, I was in a very bad condition and my hubby and other members were so shocked to see me like that.......because I was not that type....I mean soft...
But now, after marriage, I am really different, full of softness.......could easily cry even when I see videos of Bidaai (mine or cousins)........
Regards.

Incredibe.. you have written so very very well.. aishu dear.. I enjoyed it so much.. Ya you got very grownup and matured .. hmm..
For me and parents were very normal.. just waved and got into train with hubby.. they too waved.. they might have felt sad but did not show it in front of me..
Keep writing..

Aishu22,

That was very emotional. I did not cry..maybe i was used to seeing veda everyday for 2 years before marriage did not make the journey tough.

But after reading your writeup, i was thinking about charu to be frank, ofcourse there is so many years to that and also if there will be a kk is another question, but how will we react and how will she react...not sure.

But there is something enigmatic about our culture, that gives us a maturity while stepping from one milestone to another...if u observe you will understand what i mean...from a girl to a woman to a wife to a mother to a grandmother.

HI,

Nice thread.MY journey was funny because i travelled from A block(my home) to
C block(my dh home) in chennai.

NO one cried we were all very happy.I think i am blessed with my mom staying near me.
we stayed in same apt. and even now after my husband got transfered to blr.I am staying near my parents(My only brother is also working in blr and my parents are here with him.) and my beloved brother and bhabi.

Dear Oviya,

Glad it made you laugh too! You have to see the video. It does look completely out of place that everyone is laughing crazy at the end!

I laugh so much even now everytime I watch the video.

SS

Originally Posted by Oviya

Dear SS,

It was so funny about the videographer. I laughed, too....

Dear SS,
Thanks so much for stepping and for ur appreciation.The videographer episode..haaa haa it was so funny..I can bet,this is more painful than any other moment in a girl's life.

Originally Posted by soaringspirit

Nicely narrated Aishu. I could literally feel your emotions and “see” you and your family members!

Yeah, leaving parent’s home after marriage leaves you with a feeling of emptiness of sorts. You know that no matter how many times you visit this house again, it will never be the same L.

I got married out of town. So we left my parents home a week before the wedding. The day we left for the wedding, I spent some time going to each of the rooms in the house remembering all the wonderful time I had spent there. My heart ached and I almost felt like postponing the wedding by a few years.

On the day of the wedding when it was time for me to go to my in-laws house, the scene was grim as I was walking with my parents, sisters towards the car. I was trying no to cry (was filling up my mind with all sorts of “practical thoughts”) but sisters and Mom were already crying. Dad was trying to do the same as me. Suddenly the video recording guy came running to us and said we should re-do the “coming out of the marriage hall” part because he had missed recording the whole thing as he was changing the camera batteries! We burst out laughing and could not stop laughing as we did a re-take of the whole walk again. The guy kept telling us to be a little serious, but in vain! Anyway, this helped the otherwise heavy mood to lighten-up immediately

Yeah, when parents visited me in my new home next day for satyanarayan pooja, I was at peace with my new status and did not show any signs of sadness on losing my old status. May be some sort of objectivity kicks in once the initial emotional upheaval is over? Dunno.

SS

Dear Oviya,
Thanks so much for ur lavish appreciation.What you have said is absolutely true.

Originally Posted by Oviya

Dear Aishu,

That was a great post. You narrated it so well; precisely, emotions wherever necessary and so casual otherwise.

The most paining emotional moment of a girl's life....A mixture of feelings; sad, happy and what not....Probably the first tough time to be so matured.....Considering so many beloved one's....From the family we belonged till date.....And the family which belonged us...

Girl...what's happening?.....I have to live without my parents from now on?......I relived that day again.....

Dear Sriniketan,
Thanks so much for ur reply.Your's was a very interesting piece to read.Didnt speak for 3 days??? haaa.. i can imagine ur plight...Actually i was very uncomfortable to have food at my in laws place for 2-3 days..The place being was so strange and not hommie...may be..

Originally Posted by Sriniketan

Aishu,
You made me go through those times again...
I was not crying and also my parents (they might have but didn't show their feeling in front of me).
But what happened after I entered the in-laws place, this is very interesting...till now I didn't get to know the reason...I was dumb-struck for 2-3 days exactly. It is true. i was not able to speak at all, no words came from my mouth.
Maybe this was weird but it did happen...my parents are of the reason that I might be in shock bonkwhat say ..I still didn't ask my husband the reason for that...

sriniketan

Dear Meeta,
Thanks for stepping in.Strong or soft, arranged or love marriage- this moment of leaving home will be very emotional to every girl...dunt u agree? No wonder u and ur mom cried dear...Atleast console urself that u cry on seeing ur/cousins video of bidaaii..but im even more worse, when i see esp. this scene on TV, little tears emerge..what say!

Originally Posted by Meeta

Hi Aishu,
I could easily visualise the scene described here......still my eyes are tear filled...
Mine was a love marriage but still never felt happy to leave home.....but I tried hard to control my crying during Bidaaii, and was asking my cousins to take care of my Mom and me, myself also tried o console my mom and kept asking her not to cry this heavily.....I was really shocked to see my mom crying unconsolably.....and my Papa who was also grim.......I really could not forget those moments ever in my life........
I didn't cried in front of them but in the car.......I cried so much and asked my hubby not to take me away from my parents....
Even at my In-laws place, I was in a very bad condition and my hubby and other members were so shocked to see me like that.......because I was not that type....I mean soft...
But now, after marriage, I am really different, full of softness.......could easily cry even when I see videos of Bidaai (mine or cousins)........
Regards.