Q:Will You Marry Me??? A:What???

It has been a very very long time since I have been here..
I hope each one of you is doing very well.

Some of you know that I recently entered into a wed lock, sohere I am to write something after it all. Taking cue from the title, Thisquestion definitely popped up, at an unusual time, unusual way, with an unusualwish. To some it’s unusual, to some it’s mad, to some it’s stupid, to some it’scrazy but for me it’s so importantly sweet.

With the skies pouring their ever flowing love on all thebeings below, with the wind lavishly running helter-skelter, the trees dancingto the tune of the winds and smiling at the glory of the skies, indeed it was avery beautiful Sunday evening. But the lazy me, watched all this from my cozycouch, relishing the aroma from the kitchen, day dreaming about the unknown delicacythat my dh was flirting with. Lo this was the right time! I had to ask him, Isneaked into the kitchen to ask my dh- “Will you marry me”.. Now, what wouldyou expect a person who just married you (ok, few months ago!) to say? I toldhim, this is a wish I have- on one of our anniversary days, not too far away, Iwant to marry you again.. “But why? we just went through all the paraphernalia,the pomp, the pampers and not to mention the pocket burns.. why again? Why?” “Woooof..so many questions!! Hold it right there.. I said lets marry again, but dint sayI want that same pompous wedding.. did I? Okay, here is what I mean..

Even ages before I got married I always dreamt of the vowsthat were going to exchange, those promises which would ring in your head whenyou have little fights, when you look at each other’s eyes. Oh yes, we did havethe sapthapadi in our wedding too.. but, *with a big ‘T’* The priest who seemed to enjoy getting us wed,somehow also enjoyed the pleasure of insuring my dh.. how? Like this- the girlstanding a full 5 feet 4 inches tall, the priest and my dh sit on the groundlike they are inseparable and the priest rumbles the vows right into his eardrums. Despite the camera flashing at my face, I try my best to bend down tohear what these love birds were talking but only in vain.. Aaargh.. I don’t evenknow what promises he made, and I dint make any!! Of course, outside of thewedding day there are a thousand promises made in equal spirit, but there issomething special in that promise, on that day, on that holy occassion.. *a deep deep breath goes in and out*

Hmmmm.. Ok, so that’s why you want to marry again!
so??
Ya so..
Go on!
I will marry you.. but, do you think our parents will agree??
Uff the classic question! This isn’t our first time, withthis question!We will manage.. *thinking*
*bling* let’snot tell our parents
What??**”!
Yes, why tell them?
Ok, if you are ok with that plan then no problem..
Abba…
*bang* whatif the priest wants parents to be present?
No don’t worry we’ll tell him we are eloping..lets get anarya samaj wedding done and the only condition will be the priest musttranslate all the mantras into understandable verses. Hmm ok!
Oh this isn’t simple, it’s not the right thing may be!!
Ok, let’s go for a church wedding..
Great!
But will the church allow us to do so?
*a big deep breath*
OMG, ok forget it.. I asked my father to tell the priestthat we are not Sanskrit pandits so please explain things to us. But this was acrazy request to put in front of the priest and hence took the last priority inthe list of things..

Anyway we are still sorting out what to do, but one thing forsure is it will happen and I can’t wait till shashtipoorthi J
If I tell all this to my mom or mil they will think I’vegone more nuts than I usually am..
Pour in your thoughts and any ideas.. we are sure to work away round this..I’m sure alteast one of you has such secret desires..
I never realised that it was easier for a boy and girl to convincetheir parent about getting married than for a husband and wife..

 

Dear Viji ma,
Thank you for your warm reply. Such a nice feeling to hear from you after such a long time. Thank you for reading it and appreciating it. and about the idea, hmm, yes that's true..
Take care,
Love

 

Thank you very much sir, for your patience to read thearticle and more-so for writing such a detailed feedback. I am honoured.
So true, in the process of ego’ising’ every aspect of lifewe lose the value of life itself. Renewing vows is such an excellent thought andthis is exactly my point. Your points show an idealistic picture of life. Iwill be more than happy even if a couple stick to the first point. With the waythe world is changing, I’d be extra-ordinarily happy if the husband and wifeestablish a good relationship with their in-laws. The last sentence carries theessence of the entire post, anything done with the intention of good gives backonly good, and anything with the intention of doubt only produces more doubts.Isn’t this whole world nothing but “Reaction, Reflection and Resound”?
Thank you for posting here, my intention was to write alight hearted post but provoke this thought.

 

Wow!! I don't believe this.
Viji ma, thank you for letting me know, I would have probably not realised at all.
Viswa Sir, thanks a tonne.. I am honoured and humbled by your appreciation.