Be the wind to drive others, not the leaf to be driven by others.!

Viji Mam,
Thank you for sharing such a wiser post with us. Its a pleasure reading your posts always!!


'People always take advantage of soft nature. Just because someone helps and does not trouble others and ready to do anything some people take advantage and give the work to people who are older than them. Just because someone even if they are old come to help we should not take advantage'

Totally agree with you viji mam.. i have experienced it so many times and again i become soft only.

"KEEP people in your live
that truly love you
motivate you
encourage you
inspire you
enhance you &
make you happy. If the person has does nothing from above ..let them go out of your life"

But sometimes such persons keep on coming and influencing our lives again and again...

 

That is very interesting Viji aunty! I have never thought about that - now you have given me something to think about :hide: Well I guess, realistically it has to be all the three at one time or the other - understanding which is which and applying it might give us some insights into our own situations!

Thank you for sharing these thoughts!

 

Viji Mam,

Well written.

Yes. It is true that some people take undue advantage of the soft natured ones. But now a days I learnt to recognize them though not immediately. But after recognizing their attitude we should be careful and firm in our actions and should not allow them to take everything for granted. And also if we are taking anybody’s help, we should know our limits to maintain the relationship.


Nice post Mam.


Regards,
Lakshmi.

 

my dear viji
I am very slowly catching up with everyone's writings and intend to read more of yours.

You have packed a whole lot of wisdom in this tiny space and we are too benefit.

I have never heard the saying about the water but it is beautiful and makes sense.

In our town temple we women have to cook for all the public functions and almost always falls on stay at home moms like me. And cooking in not for 20 people or 50 people more often it is for hundreds. Though there are few women who cook religiously it always happens it falls on the shoulders of us same women!
I am so happy you mentioned the health problems incidents. happens to me all the time!

Your final para is a sum of your valuable life experiences. It is true that we only need people who truly matter and make a difference. Sadly this number is not a big one for most people thereby teaching on the inevitable transcendence of all life forms.

I think with reference to the leaf.. It is the tree that lets it go.. with so much love.. and when you see the leaf dancing in the wind you can see it full of joy and love as it gives itself away as manure soon after.

 

Viji Mam... wonderfully said.

Especially these lines... Something that all of us should learn.

 

Dear Viji Akka,

What a phenomenal post this is. You have poured a lot of wisdom into it as AC mentioned above. I wanted to respectfully share some of my thoughts with you.

Your husband is a very noble soul. He understand the art of living. He understands the concept that by helping others, he is able to eliminate his ego by repetitively subjecting the body and mind to be submissive. He also tamed his mind to understand that every being he sees around him has come from the same source from where he came into existence. By treating the noble ones who take his service with gratitude and the ones who take advantage out of his helping tendency the same way, he is proving to the world that he has achieved equanimity in life. If a person shows gratitude for services rendered by him, it helps him on the day of his reckoning. What really helps your husband is his attitude to serve. When we all enter the kingdom of God, there are two soldiers called Sama and Dama standing at the entrance of the kingdom. Sama is the soldier who verifies how much we controlled our senses from executing our Vasanas and Dama is the soldier who verifies how much we controlled our mind to listen to our Consciousness. Your husband is an accomplished Karma Yogi and don't forget that his every action is not only watched by the Lord but is helped with by the Lord Himself. But tell him only one thing from your brother. His body is the temple where his Lord resides and he has a duty to take very good care of the temple as well.

If you recall the months of Margazi (Dec-Jan), you can imagin people who sing and play musical instruments simultaneously. If you carefully watch them, they sing bhajans from their mouth, play Thambura with one hand and use cymbals in the other. If you can visualize this scene, now you think, that thambura is our life and cymbals are pleasure and pain and we are in the mode of singing the praise of the Lord. This can be done in Karma Yoga by leading our life into providing service to the humanity (which in my mind is working for the mission of the Lord) while remaining in the same state of mind through pleasure and pain. This is equivalent to tuning our life to the mission of the Lord or playing to the symphony.

Lastly, if we look around us, every object around us is sacrificing constantly for the welfare of other beings, whether it is a plant or animal or even an inanimate object. Similarly, it is no one's fault if the leaf falls from a tree. The wind is helping the leaf to fulfill its mission and the tree and the leaf is sacrificing their attachment to each other to let leaf sacrifice its life and be useful to other beings. If you see a flower before it blossoms, it stands erect and feel good about its opportunity to blossom, when it becomes a flower it is happy that it could be used to submit to the feet of the Lord and finally when it becomes nirmalyam, it feels humbled and honored about the opportunity it got to serve the Lord and keeps its head down. I can go on and on and there are so many examples around us. Every object around us is teaching something or the other all the time and all we need to do is to take time to watch them and learn lessons out of watching them.

When you get a chance, kindly read my blog http://www.indusladies.com/forums/blogs/viswamitra/symphony-7807/ and give your valuable opinion. Thank you.

Viswa

 

Excellent Viji, your quotes and the write- up!
I agree with it 100% !

Sriniketan